well sometimes when people are going through a lot they can't necessarily articulate what they're thinking. that's why she needs a break. so she can get it all straightened out.
if you're interested in working it out eventually, then you'll have to be easy, and flow with the breeze, like a leaf. don't be rigid and hold tight to rules like "we have to do this" or "we have to do that." that is probably what she needs a break from the most. obligations.
don't make her wish she would've just kept her mouth shut just to not have to deal with the pressure.