And yes it can be perceived as we are running away from our problems, but the way that I'm looking at it is that the outside influences are no longer, and the only way we can learn from what has happened is to not put ourselves in that position again.
And yes, things were thrown out of porportion and they could again....but if I avoid those situations and I stand up for myself and cover my own ass so to speak ( setting up bank accounts and etc...) then I have done my part. If he falls back into what he wants to change and doesn't follow what he wants to change then I can't do anything about it..that's him and I have to move on for good......and I will. We both know this our last chance to make this all work because there's only so much people can endure before they want to give up!