I am trapped in someone else's love.

You can't be a hero in every situation, and this is one of them. You are not responsible for what she does to herself. Drill that into your head if you have to. You cannot, and should not, have to save her like this at the expense of your well-being and happiness.

Staying with her is just killing you. You know this.

She really has some serious problems if she is like this. I think you should check her into some sort of psych hospital. Staying with her won't help her, and by leaving her she'll just do something drastic. Maybe this is your only option.

In the end, you really just need out. Period. I don't think I can be more blunt then that. Stop trying to be the "good guy" or whatever, cause in this situation that is the totally wrong approach.

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Originally Posted by FadeToBlack [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Cain, I did that before. She went into crisis. Doctors didn't help. Parents wouldn't handle it.

shh!, No, this is definitely not the reason. And I know what I want to do, I just can't. That's my whole f* problem.

I know what I say is contradictory and whiny etc. Ultimately I need to share whats eating me from the inside, because I can't really tell anyone since we both know the same ppl and this would further complicate matters. And if in the mean time a new possible outcome crystallizes in me through your comments, the better!

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I think you need to get into counselling YOURSELF. I'm not kidding. You need to talk to some who deals with this stuff professionally who can put your head back on straight.

You are codependent in this relationship. You are getting desperate (I don't blame you at all) & you need to hear workable options for how you can help this gal without losing yourself in the process.

Please, for your own sake, talk to your doctor & ask for a referral.

Dude, I really don't know what else to tell you. There's only one option... you have to get out of this relationship. STOP worrying about what this girl is going to do! It doesn't matter. You need to worry about you. You're not her damn daddy. If her parents won't help then they are f*cking horrible parents. And I think you need to see a different doctor because a doctor not helping is a shitty doctor. She needs to see a psychiatric doctor and get on some damn medicine.