Well, my father was a ****ing nightmare. I would have happily grown up without him.
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Well, my father was a ****ing nightmare. I would have happily grown up without him.
How do you know that it wouldn't? Plenty of men divorce after the kids leave the house, then go start a whole new family abandoning their old. Kids and all. Typically this is related to the mother using the kids as a source of contention and argument.Quote:
Originally Posted by Indignant [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Sounds more like you would have rather have had a strong male role-model in your life to bond to, and it's unfortunate that you didn't have that. Kids tend to cross-associate. Boys bonding with mother figures, and women bonding with father figures. It actually kind of explains some of your views in life though, as unfortunate as that is. It is actually something I'm quite familiar with, not as a reflection of my own upbringing...Just a lot of women I've dated.
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Originally Posted by Aeradalia [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Wow, you have a very unusual way of looking at things. I can't imagine elevating feelings of love (a transitory emotion) above actions when there are children involved. To me, it seems incredibly selfish to say that MY feelings and desire for romantic love are more important than my children's.
All I can say is you again make the mistake of believing that just because a person isn't in a stage of romantic love anymore, they must behave badly. They don't. Of course, not everyone is capable of separating emotions from actions, and in that case you are right: they should divorce. People should be congruent in their words and actions. I am advocating acceptance of a person who turned out to be something other than what you fantasized about, and treating them with respect and caring, if not romantic love. And obviously, my position assumes that both parents are basically decent, normal people. Outliers would be exempt.