This thread is tunring out comical.
In my 20s (I got married at 28) I had my share of women by being emotionally unavailable, and a bit selfish (I was considered good looking, a leader amongst my friends etc.) so that worked for me good then. A friend still reminds me that I've seen more ass than a public toilet seat.
Now at my age, one matures a lot, thus I consider myself a better person (thus a good guy) I am no door mat.
I started this thread because I was introspective about the topic.
And the lady is still around, she didn't walk away (for now) As a matter of fact, she did stop by to spend the night after she was done dancing etc. etc.
Recently I reminded her that she doesn't get confused that I am looking at her for just friendship, "I have friends"
I just wanted females input on the subject. One can't go on being a self serving jerk just to get tail, that is no good way to carry on good karma.
"Ah, women. They make the highs higher and the lows more frequent." Nietzsche