Like I said though, you need to find a therapist that's right for you - one therapist's approach doesn't account for all other therapists out there, as convenient as that generalization would be to make. I also think you're jumping the gun in feeling like a therapist should be getting you attention from women/get you a girlfriend, if they're even hoping to help you out. Many things in life require you to take the necessary steps for you to get where you want to be, and in this case, it's changing your negative outlook on your life before you can even begin to attract the interest of others. As long as you continue to sound depressed/desperate, you will continue to push many people away from you, so we're trying to achieve the opposite effect here by attempting to fix that. Though no one will ever be perfect no matter how positive they may be, dwelling over your flaws and failures will only really do you unnecessary additional harm, like it is now.