Originally Posted by
bob the brave
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YC, I honestly am still confused about what to do. The exact same thing happened to me. Girl at work, everthing going great then she asked my height right out of the blue. After I told her she avoided me like the plauge for weeks and made short jokes. I know your pain and frustration.
What about the person inside? Does this mean nothing? The girl at work new I was a nice guy, she said so herself as a compliment. But she chose a married db player. He would call me pee wee and make other insulting remarkes about my size. She saw him do this. He evenutally hurt her and she returned to me. By then I had no choice but to decline. The whole thing is stupid, painful and a loss for both. Only the player got what he wanted, while two others are left a broke heart and a lost future that may have been very promising for both.
But here is what I don't understand. Didn't she, like the girl you were talking to, already know your relative height. What kind of girl wants a number? And the player is, at best, only and inch taller then me, though he does have me by 50 lbs. But, I am solid muscle and get approached by people on the street for training advice. The player is fat. Do we give off such negative vibes when asked about our height that it turns girls off. I just don't understand.
I have heard people say women instinctively look for protection and providing ability. I have seen so many women attracted and stay with 'big' guys even when they treat them like crap. They know this, they know the little guy next door would be the perfet guy, but decline. I can even see the sadness on their faces some times in doing this. It's amazing. This hypnotizing effect of height often hurts both women and small guys because the true valued qualities are overlooked and ignored. What are we to do? I just think it is very sad.
BTW, I lived in China for 2 years. (No not to date Asian women lol). Despite the hype, Asian women are EXACTLY the same, at least Chinese women, Janpanese women may be different. What I found was that they liked American men BECAUSE they are TALL and RICH. If you are small, they figure they can get that at home without all the complexities and they pass just the same.