Useful point to forget someone, but it is difficult to forget someone we loves (heart)
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Useful point to forget someone, but it is difficult to forget someone we loves (heart)
How would you forget someone you love? Would you continue to dwell in the past memories and ruin your health through thinking or crying for the rest of your days? If you want to stop loving someone, you will and the process is completely easy to follow.
We have many types of relationships but in all these, love relationship is common and involves different kind of people. Since it involves different mentality of people, for this reason, it may be complicated and most often end in break ups. The worst part of it is that when these break ups happen, at least one heart if not all is bound to get hurt.
Why some people fail to forget their loved ones?
Some people find it difficult to forget their loved ones after breakups. Although it is but normal to feel weird after breakup, still, what is not normal is when this feeling stays more than. In most cases this happens when the person was more than 75% depended on his partner for everything.
Another step why they failed to forget is when they are left with little or 1% hope that the person will come. This really hinders recovering process because recovery can only take place when there is totally no hope of having the person back or the relationship.
How to forget someone you love
The following methods are backed by deep psychology and proven to be true. They have helped different people around the world and will not be an exception to you.
1 Avoid all aspects of the person: In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i explained that if you manage to make yourself available even just by 45% in your victim's activities, he/she will perceive you as a rightful match for his love criteria but here is the reverse of it. That is, in order to forget and stop loving him, you have to avoid any places where you can meet him. Another step is to take every belonging to the person and hand them over since the relationship is over. If you can't, look for anywhere not convenient to your sight and dump them there. Based on psychology, each time you see these items, they bring back the person's images to your mind thereby making the process much harder to forget him.
2 Avoid romantic videos and music: When trying to forget someone you love, you also try to avoid any form of romantic movies and music till after some time. This is so because when such are played, the sounds and images brought from it reflect the person and bring back his memories to your mind. It doesn't matter if it's your choice of music/movie because you are not in the mode as you used to when enjoying it.
3 Get to meet new faces: At times you just feel you are into a bad mood but there have always been a solution to this. Call some good friends and go somewhere nice where you people can have a good time. If possible, dance, drink, and meet new faces. You may come to realize that this person was not the only one who can love and make you happy (See Why do we fall in love?).
4 Express it out and avoid getting hurt: In many situations, friends have always been some kind of strength in this situation. Your true friends are good to be involved because they know you better and if not the relationship. They will be some kind of entertainment and distraction. They will certainly make you laugh and bring out your importance. However, avoid topics about this person. If a topic arises that will soon redirect to this person you are trying to forget, have the courage to also redirect the topic to something else.
5 What do you focus your mind on?: You will continue to think about him if you let your mind to be idle. You have to get along with your daily activities and keep yourself busy anyway that you can. Try participating in public activities or find something you enjoy doing and concentrate on it, something to keep your mind busy and focus. If your mind is focused and concentrated on other things, it will definitely not have time for this person thereby making you forget about him.
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Step 1: Dedicate one last night to your feelings. If you're really sad, cry your heart out, drench your pillow, for tomorrow you'd be a free man.
Step 2: You're a bit free of stress now, acknowledge that. Thank yourself for that.You're awesome. Spend some time doing something you love and do that with all your heart. Do something new, something you always wanted to do. Maybe some new idea you had? Work on it. The time is now.
Step 3: Stop keeping in touch with her. No phone calls, no re-reading your old messages. If you guys were really good friends, you will be friends again. But give time a chance to make things anew before that. When you meet again after that, things will not be the same.
1. Get your mind off of him/her. The most important thing is not to be alone. Surround yourself with family and friends, the people who love you unconditionally and spend more quality time with them.
2. Ask yourself what might be in his head or his heart; it takes two people to be in a relationship and even though you feel the way that you do, maybe it was meant to be this way. Save your love for someone who feels the same way about you!
3. Love is a peculiar thing. There is an almost ludicrous asymmetry between two people. The person at the top of your best friend list may rank you only at the middle of his or her list. However, if you truly, truly loved someone, then you'd be able to realize that it's OK if they don't love you back. True love gives and expects nothing in return; a true unrequited love. So, I've moved on from my perfect potential companion. He gave me the strength to realise that I can move on. He gave me the courage to try something different. He gave me the wisdom and sense for me to also respect myself. So, if you truly loved them, it doesn't matter if they feel the same way, your love conquers all.
4. For all those wondering what went wrong just stop wondering say it really aloud "SHE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU". Only when one stops chasing and pursing someone who doesn't love you, will you open the door to that perfect person who will love you back with the same intensity that you will love him.
5. It's not about getting over a person, it's about feeling good about yourself. It's about knowing that you are the most important and you need to be happy. If this other person doesn't feel the same way, it doesn't really matter.
Cate gently describes the ways to forget a romantic love or true love. After you watch this video, you will have more ideas on what to do for yourself when faced with this life dilemma, where you are better off forgetting about someone you have loved.
I'm now going to talk to you about to forget someone. Now, clearly this is not an easy thing to do. Especially if it's a recent break up or even if it's not a recent break up.
Perhaps they were very important. Perhaps they were the love of your life. Perhaps, they were the reason you feel you've been or done or experienced whatever it is that was important to you.
Okay, not easy, how are you going to do it? Okay, well I'm going to tell you. You need to welcome yourself back to the sea of me, the sea of you, you need to re-engage with you. Take a journey to who you are and you will find it's pretty amazing and pretty magical, if you take it seriously, right now.
What you need to do is get books, friends, courses, coaches, whatever it is that you need to find your way back to you to find out who you are again. As you go through this process of having to forget someone, you also have to go through the process of honoring yourself of holding yourself well, of having boundaries for yourself, of nurturing and loving yourself, of taking that journey. When you are put in this kind of position where you have to forget someone, you have no option but to feel the pain, the rawness, of your heart of your loss and that pain and that rawness means that you've gone on a journey to come inside and, of course, as you probably realize, we either go in or we go without, and how much better to wake up now to the inner journey than to wake up way too late and realize that the outside things didn't nurture you at all.
It was the inside that you really wanted and longed for all along. So, give yourself a chance, come in, love yourself and allow yourself to become anew, releasing and letting go of this person. Write a letter that you don't send, saying what you are grateful to them for, what you are angry with them for and goodbye.
Cate gently describes the ways to forget a romantic love or true love. After you watch this video, you will have more ideas on what to do for yourself when faced with this life dilemma, where you are better off forgetting about someone you have loved.
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Lots of good advice. I think what you should do is not to forget someone but remember instead all the good things and bad things that you experienced. This will be a part of you as you learn more about yourself, what you want and what you are looking for in the future. These memories will be the best guide for you as you determine what you want in a future relationship. Try to think about the things you loved and look for that in someone else, remember the things you didnt like so much and make sure the next person you are with doesnt have those qualities. You should not try to forget past relationships because only by remembering can you achieve the goal of being with someone you will really enjoy and prevent yourself from repeating the mistake of being someone else who might not also be a good fit for you. Does that make sense?
Thank you for this ;)
This is what I need to do right now. Thank you
I tried so hard to try and forget my current partner. Yeh, I'm still with him. After a series of mini breakups that lasted a week at the longest, and no contact that lasted 3 days max, I decided that maybe I didn't want to forget him after all. What I needed however was for him to change his attitude and understand what makes me happy and how to ensure our relationship was actually a success story. I have bought him a book for Valentines's day, it's called " How to make a woman happy" and it's by Denis Hickey, I bought it off Amazon, and I'm hoping it does the trick!
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you can not forget a true love
This is EXACTLY how I feel!
Whiskey? Weed?
I cried on everybodys shoulder,,, and my ex from long ago, stepped up and sent text messages, every night for like two weeks, with things that took my mind off the loss, then said,, ok you ok now, Im done playing shrink. I thank her. it helps.
There is no simple answer to this. But been there and moved on, here is what I know for sure...
Life moves on and some people become distant memories. Here are 6 basic principles you should keep in mind as you strive to forget someone you loved.
1. Stop, Breathe and Rest
When something breaks down, it’s a process. Be gentle. Breakups feel like lying on a bed of razors. But that is how certain things in life are. They are difficult. The first thing to ever do is breathe. Take a break. Process it. I know, it feels horrible. But there are times in life when life demands more from us. It demands resilience and courage. The first step to any healing is taking a step back and just hanging in there.
2. Stop Visiting The Special Places
When we are intimate with someone, we end up creating memories. And once the person is gone we end up revisiting those memories. The songs, restaurants, the roads, and every place come to haunt us. And no matter why you broke up, you will have impulses to call or go back. Many people give up in this phase and go back, only realizing that memories were much better than reality. Your special places will act as a trigger.
Stop going or visiting all those special places or maybe even the songs. Go to new places, have fresh new memories. The brain will rewrite everything. It always does. Give yourself that grace period. You will be fine.
3. Try anything new and exciting to overcome his memories
Take a piece of paper. Write things you are scared of doing (or loved doing but never did). Maybe bungee jumping or a solo trip? Then do it. Nothing expands us more than doing something we thought was not our cup of tea and that builds our confidence too.
Once you do what you thought you could not, it gives you new skies to fly in and you become a new person. So many times breakups are the best times to find who we are truly meant to be. Because the purpose of pain is always to expand us. Trust me on that.
4. Stay With Your Circle That Uplifts You
I can never emphasize enough, the influence your intimate circle can have on you. Stay with the ones who uplift you. Stay with the ones who see the good in you. With whom you forget all your past.
Half of my personal battles were won because my inner circle lifted me as a champion when I saw myself as someone ragged and tattered. No breakup is easy to go, nor was mine.
Stay close to the ones who love you and want you to do well. When people around you see the good in you, you become it. Especially when you are hitting an emotional low. Find people who will be your cheerleaders. You will reach the zenith quicker and stay emotionally healthy.
5. Learn A New Craft to move on
Sometimes we hit emotional low so that we can remap our journeys in life. Even a breakup can move mountains in your life or can give you immense passion to do something incredible in life.
Sometimes a fall is actually a call by the Universe to take a new road. Try taking a new craft (Maybe you can decorate your house with these out of waste ideas) that lightens you up. Immerse in it. And you will find ways to build a new life, you might have never foreseen.
The idea is not to become a master in that art form but to find different parts of who you are. Maybe today is the day for something new.
6. Forgive and Forget him like a good memory
Here is the last nail in the coffin of pains. Forgiveness will detox you from your past, no life class or yoga class ever can. Forgiveness is the ultimate form of self-care. Forgiveness does not justify what the other person did to you. It only takes away the pain you are carrying.
Once you are healed, you will not find the past that attractive but the new roads are more alluring. That is when you can let go or forget your past. If there is one thing I know for sure is that heartbreaks tell us that we are not yet home. And we need a new journey.
Yeah Halis Kiris from Colakli/Manavgat Turkey, love Rat with many nick names incl. bhebeqo, not easy to forget your love, but never to forget Rat like you.
Get a doctor, see my thread to understand why your way of loving is sick, does love do this?
- ask for pornography of the loved one?
- steal identity of the loved one?
- send her very intimate pictures you asked for to her friends, family and kids?
- steal money from her family, letting them pay for your pleasures?
- blackmailing for 100000 EUR?
- humiliating the love and her children?
- posting nasty things on her profiles?
- lies and manipulations?
Difference between man and boy is in the value of their toys
You and Mehmet Arslan Kara make toys from naive ladies, you don't know what the love is, get treatment immediately as you are dangerous to everyone.
And finally stop spamming broken hearts forum, it is for real men and women seeking relief.
Ladies, please see my threads about the love Rats at broken hearts and ask the female forums, you will see who this sick Rat is.
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I find it SUSPICIOUS that a "bot" replied normally to a thread.
[MENTION=87987]bhebeqo[/MENTION] Who is DeAngelo? They never posted in this thread, lololol
I agree with Gale.
CanMoveOn, correct, not only that. I received two PMs with short messages BLAH BLAH BLAH, that is it, from the bot bhebeqo. Apparently this is the sick criminal who is living from the fake feelings of his victims. I dare to say with full confidence it is him, the subject of the thread the ladies should be aware of. HALIS KIRIS from Colakli/ Manavgat / Antalya / Turkey. At least we can see how far these sick love rats can go. Shame on you Halis. Shame on you LOVE RATS!!!
LOL, I got a PM with same words. Guess that tells us they are not a man, but a child, under age of 15, maybe :P Wonder who else they PM'd beside us? and why?
I love your term: love rats" :)
I sent them a F uck off finger early on and then blocked them, so no PMs to me. If I was both of you, block all four spammer usernames.