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They have to be nice (nice guy syndrome), they have to please (people pleasers), they have to fix others or take care of others (knight in shining armor syndrome, florence nightingale effect),
I've always been like that. My Dad got involved with my Mom, 'rescuing' her and then got involved with my step mom who verbally and emotionally and psychologically abused me. With my own mother, I had to sometimes remain calm while she had temper tantrums while visiting and my Dad wouldn't let me 'not visit' her. People who don't have it together are likely not going to get it together on their own and people forget easily, all too easily, that it's okay to walk away from a wreck.
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So I fell for someone once who had pretty major issues and I thought that me helping her would make it all better, because she'd call and unload on me. I thought I was a good person for listening to her, that'll never change. But it's just, some people are advantageous and want someone to unload on, maybe because nobody else will, maybe they know it makes you feel empathy for them, I don't know. But there's a point where I think your partner knows that you'll do anything for them, and if they're manipulative, they'll start closing in on ya.
Indeed they do.