Just thought I'd put in my 2 cents
Very interesting thread...
Seeing as BP has been out for a month and a half I can only assume it's over...and it should be.
A few random thoughts...
"a problem cannot be solved with the same level of thinking that originated it" I can't remember who said (or if thats it exactly), but think about it...if you're dumped and go into hyper-get-them-back mode you are operating from a mindset that lost them for you in the first place. So to get them back, you have to evolve.
BP, in an early post you said you had anxiety issues and she was your everything. She probably knew this, and didn't cut you out tumor style probably for fear that you'd do something drastic. And she seemed correct, as your last post was pretty "shoot up the post office" angry.
When you don't hold your own and honor yourself people ditch you - not just girls. Friends do it too if you worship them. make fun of their flaws (in playful way), and don't suffer their shortcomings. If you don't get what I mean by this, you don't get it.
When things crash and burn romantically, it's easier to learn and move on than try to rebuild.
Opportunities seem more valuable the less available they are. this si the very well known scarcity principle. Do you love her? Or is unavailability influencing your judgment somewhat?
And lastly, people only process about 20% (estimates differ) of the available stimulus out there. it is filtered by our hopes, wants, personalities etc.....soooo...whatever you conclude is based incomplete data. Especially when you're emotionally charged. She tried to tell you she wasn't in to you and did everything except scream "F/O!!!" in your face.
Sorry for the harshness at points.
Now, I'm a little older, and most of this stuff I didn't learn until until my mid 20s. but I'll you, once you understand realtionship dynamics...it's the same thing on everyone. Different peculiarities, but the same way of interacting.
Good luck moving on.