Honestly OV, I hate to Monday morning quarterback, but what you described sounds like a downer and a mess. What I had was a fun fling, I never let it get past one night of having that forbidden fruit that tastes so incredibly good.
I was thinking you'd have something similar which is why I shared my experience with you...one last bit of fun and a good memory for both. Trying to tear something apart never brings any pleasure, even if you succeed. You should've just let her know your true feelings and if she wanted to come back to you, she would.