She explained it to you: because you think that all women who have been raped have emotional baggage.Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng.Jackadmans [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
She explained it to you: because you think that all women who have been raped have emotional baggage.Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng.Jackadmans [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That's not what I said. I said the deal breaker for me would be the fact that shes not a virgin anymore.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Having emotional baggage, was another user's deal breaker.
Here's what you said about women that have been raped:Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng.Jackadmans [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
UnderTheMoon said that your character is low because you think that no woman who has been raped can heal from it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng.Jackadmans [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That was my opinion. Doesn't make it a fact. I am entitled to an opinon.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
However, the fact that she lost her virginity from being raped remains.
This was never in discussion.Quote:
Originally Posted by Eng.Jackadmans [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
As is UnderTheMoon.Quote:
I am entitled to an opinon.
It is irrelevant to the current discussion, and also not necessarily true (she might have been raped after having already lost her virginity).Quote:
However, the fact that she lost her virginity from being raped remains.
Well done for turning your life around. i wouldn't hold it against someone or think they are "unworthy" because of it. But I have had my fair share of dealings with alcoholics and it really isnt something I want in my life. It almost tore my family apart and for me it is a deal breaker. I dont want to marry my dad. Sorry if that offends you. Im sure your a great guy. So is my dad. He has a heart of gold and has always been there for us, worked very hard and I forgive him for his alcohol problems but I dont want to go through that again.Quote:
Originally Posted by Boisdevie [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I know a woman who was raped when she was 16. She has no emotional or psychological problems. She healed from it and is very strong now. Shes in a happy relationship, has a good job, a son, got a degree in psychology and has moved on from it. It prob still upsets her sometimes. Its not something anyone could ever forgive or forget and it is a huge trauma that will prob never go away BUT they can live a normal happy life if they are motivated enough to heal and move on.
One of my friends was abused when she was 12. She has her problems, seasonal depression but she is also in a happy loving relationship and is trying to make the most of her life.
To answer the question though: I would not like to date a guy who had a traumatic childhood, or very traumatic experiences or came from a very destructive family. Family is important to me and I prefer someone who has a good relationship with his family and a healthy outlook on relationships and family life.
People don't have to date anyone they don't want to date. It's pretty simple. If you've gotten to know them and feel they have issues that you don't want to deal with, then there's no obligation to continue.