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Originally posted by sfalexi
Wow. I just reread all the old posts of Eliana's. So you first kissed the guy around the beginning of january. That gives you all of january and all of february. That's two months dating total. He bought "two rings" in the beginning of february. Roughly one month after you guys starting dating. Also, your father allowed a 22 year old man to sleep with you in your room (whether you had sex or not, that is irrelevant) but he trusted a 22 year old man to sleep with you, a fifteen year old girl, in your room alone after only one month of dating.
I thought six months was too short to buy rings and ask a hand in marriage. So my view hasn't improved at all now that I realize it's been two months (and ONE when he bought the rings)
Your problem is that you're wrapped up in this guy. You're hormones are raging (as are every teenager's) and you believe that this man is your soulmate. Two months is NOTHING to judge a relationship on. Especially not to make a decision considering marriage. Especially at the age of 15. This whole thing stinks. You can't see it because to you, he is Mr. Wonderful. And naturally, any guy that wants ANYTHING from a girl knows how to butter her up. And any guy worth his salt knows that you need to get 'in' with the parents in order to make life easier when dating the girl. But two months is nothing. And you are taking this relationship and moving it WAY too fast.
As for him respecting your decision to wait until marriage, I am not sure how this will play out. I know that I can't wait until marriage. But I am a patient man. You don't know his viewpoint. And the fact that he says he'll "respect" it is a slight clue that it's not his idea of what he wanted, but he'll try to go along with it. And he will hold out for a long time. But, if it's not his true desier to wait until marriage, there's probably a 95% percent chance that eventually he'll start pressuring you to have sex like I mentioned in one of my other posts. And the fact that he continues do to sweet things and treat you like a little princess makes the likelyhood of you having sex with him greater. No matter how you look at it, if he were to ask you to have sex, it's better for him to have treated you nice throughout the relationship than to not have treated you nice.
Two months is nothing. I got confused (possibly between 'knowing' and 'dating' time) but two months is nothing. Certainly not enough time to make a true and knowledgable decision to something even as remotely serious as marriage, let alone whether he's perfect. And it's certainly enough time for him to continue being Mr. Wonderful to you while not worrying about having sex. But if it's not his wishes to wait until marriage, it will bother him. And he'll eventually ask you about it more and more and more until you cave in because of all the nice things he's done for you.
So just don't be shocked when he starts bringing up the topic of sex. It's up to you whether you decide to have it or not (for the love of God don't tell us if you do because I think it's disgusting thinking about someone my age with a 16 year old HS girl) but it is still up to you. Whatever happens, happens.
But I still (especially after getting my dating time length straightened out) don't trust him and think something has to be up. Maybe it's something underhanded like trying to find a girl that he can coax into bed eventually after getting her parents to fully trust him, and trying to turn her into someone that he can have sex with any time because her emotions are strong about him and new to her (which is more along the lines of what I think is happening). Or maybe it's just something stupid like he doesn't have experience with girls or life in general and you're the first person that's come along that has shown interest in him. But something just doesn't seem normal here.
Alexi
To tired to write anything so i stole this from Alexi...hope you don't mind...:bored: