Quote:
Whether she has money or not, the judge can decide that you are obligated to pay child support.
No, online friends and myspace doesn't count as having a social life.
In several years, if you're still together, don't count on it just happening less. Count on it happening once every few weeks.
in that case i dont really have a social life........she doesnt either and neither of us care to. i doubt it would ever get that bad,at least not for a very long time. she comes to me all the time as well......she wants it as much as me. i know in time we will slow down,after years if it becomes once in a while fine.......but we arnt gonna go from 2 or three times a day to once a month for a long time. your talking years.......if that happens it happens,ill still love her the same.
Quote:
I know you're very intent to stay with this woman. Then stay with her. No one could (or should) make you leave her, people are just trying to warn you, because they've been there or they've seen it. Just stand back for a moment and chill out, be aware. Hopefully that should cushion the fall if it comes - if it doesn't, great!
thank you....i think thats the best post yet. i addressed the sex issue above. we have been very happy today.
Quote:
For the record, I never said the kids don't have opinions yet, and the fact that you think even 7 years of "parenting" will make you immune to her kids questioning or hating you one day just reinforces to me that you have absolutely no idea what you are getting yourself into. Kids question and hate their own parents when they are teenagers, even when they come from healthy, traditional households, and they do this even more so when they have non-natural parents "parenting" them. The result is more often than not divorce. (Look at the divorce statistics for re-marriage with kids. Odds are astronomically against you.) If I were the boss of the world, I wold make it illegal for people in their 20s to date/marry people with children unless they have their own kids that are emotionally healthy.
dont twist my words......i never said it would make me immune to it.in fact im expecting them to question me. i dont however think one day they will just hate me...and if so its a teen thing. i would have the same issue with my kid. that last part of your comment is just disgusting.
Quote:
I realize that you intend to do parent these kids to the "best of your ability", but have you considered that your "best" may not be enough to fill their needs?
if im not there they have no father figure and less money......so if anything im helping.
Quote:
I think you are also giving this woman more credit than she deserves. I seriously have to question the maturity level of a 32 year old woman who brings a 20 year old boy into her children's life to act as a father. You are still in a major growth phase of your life. People change and grow a LOT in their 20s. She, on the other hand, may well have reached her peak of development. This means in 5-10 years, you will probably out-grow her.
so now your calling another person you have never met,nor even spoken to imature. im not a "boy" any more than your a little girl.......i am a man,thank you *rolls eyes* and before you even try to say i am a boy and you are a girl.....you know exactly what i mean....you call me gf a woman and me a boy......im sure no one else will see the insult tho.
Quote:
Do yourself a favor, and don't even THINK of having any babies with her until you are closer to 30. I am pretty sure if you do this, you will make a healthier choice for your own child.
actually if she wasnt pregnant from yesterday...im sure she is today,trust me..........i know its what i want,as well as what she wants.