[QUOTE=michelle23;873776]
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Wakeup-your opinion is your opinion. Most people know what they want in a partner tho and if they dont want someone with a promiscious past-that doesnt mean they are insecure-it means they know what they want. Most men wouldnt go out with a girl who has a reputation which is accepted as normal so why should a respectable women accept a mans past reputation?
If she was secure, then she wouldn't hold his past against him and she'd still be with him. If she trusted him to be past the ball-freak stage, then she would still be with him. She didn't leave him because of his past, she' left him because she was insecure and couldn't handle his past. He is not who he was now. You paint him as being the same person just like she is.
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That is a personal choice-not low self-esteem.
Yes, what you are saying is a personal choice but is not the facts that have been peresented in this thread.
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In order to feel "good enough" or ever "compatable" sexually for example-id want someone with similar experience to me. Otherwise id feel like im being judged and wouldnt be able to relax with him.
What has that got to do with what has been shared in this thread?
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On the other hand-with someeone similar to me-im totally relaxed and confident in bed. That does not make me insecure or lacking in self esteem. I just know what im comfortable with and what i can and cant accept.
That's you.
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I wouldnt, however stick around and hold the past against someone-thats pointless and immature. I woulbt listen to my friends either if they tried to turn me against my bf but weve been together a long time.. If lots of people were telling me in the early stages hes bad news etc. That would make me think twice
She went with him for a gd year. Lots of time for him to show her that he's not the man he once was that she is STILL holding against him.
When he finds a woman that judges him on who he is now and not who he was then, then he will be with a potential Life mate who is worth his worrying about.