Once again, she's asking MEN. Why are YOU answering? I'm a guy- this is to the OP: I'm also low 40s and married for 10 years. I myself, would not mind his situation if I were divorced- however that is not my case. If I may give you insight here, a guy with his type of situation/attitude likely will not change his respective mind, and is very much in control of who he wants to be involved with and at which capacity. He has been honest, I see. This is someone I would myself respect, since they aren't sugar-coating things. If, unfortunately my relationship were to fail, I'd hope I could do very much the same in the honesty department. I am usually that way anyway. Deception gets you nowhere, and lying or faking is eventually discovered one way or other. Also- you just got out of something 20 YEARS IN THE MAKING! Guard your heart, don't let yourself fall again so easily- Just take it for what it IS, and HAVE FUN!