Originally Posted by Rosebud
My child is my first priority, becasue I'm not posting about her in here does not make it as though she is not my priority. I'm expressing how I feel about things he does and says to me. I don't see how you can say she is not that high on my list. And to be frank I'm a little disheartened you said ( even knowing it wasn't said to hurt me). Yes I am young, yes I have never gone through this before, btu I'll tell you what I think I do a damn good job at being a mother and making my daughter my priority. Everything I have done has been focused around her, whether it be it to staying at home with her to focus entirely on her and build that bond instead fo working, or it be to leave the relationship I have with the man I love (her father) because she needs more. Those are just examples of how high I hold her. Every decision I make in my life revolves around her. And it has since I got pregnant. I may come on here looking for advice about my relationship, but with that in mind I'm tryingt o make this relationship better for her as well. Whatever happens between him and I affects her as well!!!!!
Yes he works too much, He just started his new job and that is not his fault, he is lookign for another job becasue of this. He doesn't like this schedule but he can't do anything about it. How can we balance this out? It's not negotiable, it's something it just is. They didn't tell him he would be working 7 days a week when he got hired he was told 5 days. And yes I can go back to work, and yeah he could watch her while I do but that's not an option we have at the moment.
When he had time off ( at the other job he had) he would those days with us, he would watch our daughter and let me go out, or he would go shopping with us or whatever. He loves to do spend time with us, he doesn't go out to see his freinds at all. The last time he did that was probably about 3 months ago and the only reason was becasue we couldn't find a babysitter so i stayed at home and TOLD him to go out since he doesn't do it much at all. His preferences are to be at home with us.