I'm curious, she's unemployed now, but is there anything she is working on to further her life? It can be a bad situation when one is involved in their own things and the other is involved in nothing but what the first is doing. Does she have goals/ plans? What happens when there comes a time in her life when she wants to concentrate on her own goals. Would she expect the same from you? On the other hand, if her goal is to be a wife and mom, are you sure you're in a position to even be in a committed relationship knowing so much of your time must be spent on your career, which leaves little time for the people in your life? Maybe you guys need to manage your time better and you could try to set time aside for her; even if it isn't a lot, at least she would have your undivided attention. Like I said, just curious...