Originally Posted by
dickriculous
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No, you get accused of gaslighting or arguing with ghosts when one of us makes a point and instead of addressing that point you accuse one of us of something you made up in order to give yourself an argument.
A clear example: Earlier itt I said "there is a difference between casual sex and using someone because etc. etc." You quoted a post of mine which referred to that and instead of refuting or even so much as addressing that point, you responded by accusing me of saying you're wrong for not liking casual sex...something I never actually said. You made that up. That's one example of what I'm calling "arguing with ghosts" and what Wakeup is calling "gaslighting".
Another clear example: This one Wakeup already pointed out to you. She tried to point you to where you were guilty of said gaslighting and again, instead of refuting or addressing that point you replied with "I have stuck to my opinion" and "dontaskme had no right to go off on OP like that" - two things Wakeup never argued.
Those are just two clear examples, we can keep going if necessary. Again, keep in mind that what Wakeup means by gaslighting is the same as what I mean by arguing with ghosts - dodging the actual arguments we're giving and then making something up to argue against in order to give yourself a reply.
If you think we're being intolerable about this I suggest you find a better way to present your case because I see the way this gaping logical fallacy gets handled on other message boards, by others irl, and in the rare instances in formal debates where one of the debators gets desperate enough to attempt anything like this I assure you that we are going very easy on you by comparison.