long talk last night, she's seeing the week out then thats it, can't wait we're both desperate to put this behind us and move on with our life together, just some perspective the girl i love is sweet-natured,gentle,kind,funny,quirky,caring she loves animals and time spent in the countryside,she gets so upset by stories of child neglect and cruelty she has to leave the room while the news is on, when a friend is upset she is the first to go to help - guess what i'm trying to say is that people come in 3 dimensions one aspect of their life doesn't define them, i've found this more difficult than any of you i'm living it after all and it concerns someone i love and care about deeply and i admit i've really struggled with it her argument though is that she was doing it as a job to achieve a specific aim and in her round a bout way tried to express that the job is not who she is, anyhow given it up partly for me, partly because she hates it so i'm hoping things work out