100,000 where I live doesn't go far lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
100,000 where I live doesn't go far lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not sure what point you are trying to make here... maybe I need more coffee? In any case, you neglected to address the portion of my post that was directed to you.Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Didn't feel like I had too.
Generally speaking, I don't understand why a guy should pay everything for a girl nowadays. OK, if the guy is working and making money and the girl no, it is quite logical; but if the situation were the opposite, it would be equally logical that the girl would pay for the guy, in my view.
That idea of a 'gentleman' is completely old-fashioned, in my view.
Regards this specific case......... he is making more money than you, but he has also more spendings, so it is a bit difficult to know which the most fair option is. Perhaps a solution in between would be that you paid a night and he paid the next one, but if you have less money, you might invite him to cheaper restaurants, etc.
Even without skimming they don't deserve it. Investing is the easiest way in the world to make money. The only problem is you need a fat stack of expendable money to invest.Quote:
Originally Posted by DoesntMatter [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Haven't read the whole thread because I am too busy laughing at whatever douche called wake up a limp dicked prick. How is that limp dick of yours wake up? And where do you hide it? Next to your cervix? LMAO!!!
Now to read the rest of the thread, beyond half way through page one...
Oh, I see your problem. You think this is ONE day/outing. Actually, I envision the coffee, lunch, hike, dinner as being separate dates. That means we are at 4 dates by the time he is paying for dinner. I realize you don't know me, but in my case, only a fraction of my dates ever made it to #3. This is going back a long time, mind, but I don't see that times have changed all that much.Quote:
Originally Posted by scott green [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
FWIW, I have gone out with male friends for lunch or outings (its the closest I can presently relate to a date). They ALL offer to pay my way. Perhaps its just the kind of men they are, very gentlemanly. FWIW, I do reciprocate (or in one case I paid for dinner since he paid for our outing). But it actually makes them uncomfortable. So, what does a lady do in such a situation? Insist to pay my portion and embarrass everyone, spoiling the lunch/outing?
My solution is to let them pay, and then I reciprocate w/something I know they value (usually a bottle of something) when we next visit. I have found that I have to be sneaky paying for lunch (i.e. paying ahead of time) and that is embarrassing to the men, as I said.
In the end, its only money and I think you are far too hung up on it. Your concern about it would be a large red flag for me, as I said. If we were dating, I'd pay my share and then you'd never hear from me again. Something to think about, considering the kind of person you see to attract.
Well, you live in Surrey. In California, the housing prices around Vash's area are like buying a house around UBC, if that helps. Even 2 profs both making 100K+ have trouble buying a house in that area.Quote:
Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
@ Vash, Surrey is not one of the nicer areas of Vancouver. Think East LA (with slightly less crime, but getting there).
BTW, you lack serious imagination if you are spending $1000/mo on a woman. LOL. But the only person you have to be pissed at about it is yourself.Quote:
Originally Posted by scott green [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I believe you are middle management. The incomes of those types rarely correlate with intellect.
I'll concur! 100K doesnt mean shit in LA ! :)
LA isn't the entire world, honey. I'm sure the OP isn't living in luxury in some posh area in LA, and neither is her bf, and that's the point I was getting at. Jesus Christ, when did this thread turn into the dating etiquette of the rich and famous?? Lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by surfhb [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I hardly spend a penny on my woman, mate. She gets paid in kind, and she's grateful for it. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ahh, I see. As I said before, lower income earners are more likely to concern themselves with expenses being split exactly down the middle.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Actually I think I said my salary was comparible with middle management, as in I get paid well over $100K, I never said that was what I do. I'm actually in quite an artistic field, in a job I thoroughly enjoy. Go figure! Lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm normally able to understand how Vash/Indi reach certain conclusions, but I'm at a bit of a loss, here.
As a male, I don't want to pay for a girl unless I already like her; apparently, I'm supposed to pay to find out whether or not I like her. This is problematic.
I have nothing against paying at all, I just find it a bit degrading to women (and relationships in general) that I'm essentially paying a small amount of money for the increase in probability that I'll sleep with her. Even if it's $2 for a coffee somewhere, don't you find that bothersome?
I think this traditional method of connecting is a bit disgusting. Money always seems to destroy whatever it touches.