No....I don't say my wife Is "somewhat" patient or "kinda" loyal.
For whatever reason, you're equating these traits and abstinence.....it's not normal and it's clear it's hurting your relationships from where I sit. Abstaining from sex doesn't prove a thing in a relationship....it's impossible for you to understand since you've never had sex, been in a relationship and only kissed a girl till recently.....all this at 24 ?! C'mon man! Don't you see a barrier here?
Those thoughts of my wife having sex with her exes don't even enter my mind because I have a loving and honest relationship....get it?