Wakeup, I agree with you completely, and yes, she absolutely needs to sort her problems out, and she needs to do that in a way that doesn't drag down the people around her. But that isn't being tainted for life, that's her having very deep and very serious problems, but problems that can ultimately be managed, assuming she makes the effort. I just really resent the idea that people who have been abused, suffer from depression, etc., should be avoided like the plague, and dickriculous' comments came off that way to me.
Obviously, Vincenzo shouldn't stay in a messy situation like this if his girlfriend isn't making an effort to clean it up.