Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
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I agree with a lot of what Hooo had to say here. You are putting way too much importance in what is "normal" in what you "should" do, etc. There is no "normal" there is no "should." Just do what feels right for the situation. Don't worry so much about physical contact. Do that when it feels natural, when it feels right. If she's open to it, great, if she's not then that is something to consider. Maybe that is a sign she's not the right match. If you are forcing it, then it is much more likely to feel awkward to her because it really feels awkward to you. i want to add that pcmaster does not have a good grasp for what is akward and what is not. Since i dont think its a good idea. Generally being yourself is a good advice if that gets you results. However that does not get him results...
When it comes to sex... that as well you should do when it feels right. No two people are alike. Some women may want sex on the first date, some may want a serious relationship first. If you aren't ready, don't feel like you have to force yourself. If she isn't ready, then you have to respect that. Mind you, that doesn't mean you just have to wait for somebody forever. If their timeline doesn't match yours.... if you want to take things more seriously and it seems like they don't want that soon enough for you... you're not wrong to just move on. the problem like above is that he cannot distinguish wether she is ready or not, since he has no baseline yet to draw upon. He is also paying so much attention to what he does instead of just paying attention to what she does (and then knowing what it means). That is why he gets to sudden "dead ends" because he misinterpreted and did something akward/socially not fitting
But, when you are dating somebody, stop worrying so much about what this or that means. Just enjoy her company and let things flow naturally in whatever way that seems to work for that particular relationship. Believe me, you CAN overthink these things, and it sounds to me like this is just what you are doing.