Wow. All right, I'll do that, thanks again!
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Wow. All right, I'll do that, thanks again!
I did a bit of online dating when I was young - but it was in the newspaper back then! Newspaper dating???
Anyway, while I would have fit the bill for your "wanted", I would not have responded to you after reading your post. Here's what would put me off:
>>Outgoing, confident guy seeking in-shape, curvy, heavenly blessed beauty for some intense fun and good times<<
Yes, I was in-shape, curvy and attractive - but if a guy isn't interested in me if I don't have those attributes, then I'm not interested in him. It tells me that the guy in question is shallow.
>>I'm not replying to nut cases, drama queens, attention seekers, pen pals, pear shaped couch potatoes, or dudes dressed in their sisters panties.<<
This tells me that you're negative and cynical. Not traits I would accept in a man. Tough thing is that you ARE negative and cynical, so do you lie about yourself or be honest and hope for someone who can accept this? I don't know the answer.
Actually, I changed the opening line as per vashti's and indi's suggestions. And me, cynical and negative? Nah. Just misunderstood and abused.
ROFL. exactly. Only a negative and cynical person would describe themselves as misunderstood and abused.
I am misunderstood. Take the fact that I don't try to be funny anymore 'cuz when I made a joke, it elicited jack shit. Then, somebody else will say the same damn thing, suddenly we got Dane Cook over here!
Voice that tells a joke is importand too. You will find later on that voice tone is very importand when talking to girls. Its basicaly doesnt matter what you say its how you say it. Girls will remember emotions better than words. If you have inner confidence in voice, some passion(it comes from person who have dreams and exciting hobbies etc.) Then your voice will sound atractive.
I was just thinking of that. The phone call on Sunday (the one she actually picked up for), I was out on a bike ride and just had a Monster yet I still managed to sound somewhat stoic...I was going to make sure I sounded better on call 2 but, well, we all know how that phone call went (or didn't).
Come to think of it, I noticed something that probably should've been a sign that it was going to go wrong (besides the fact that it's me and this girl was just way too attractive to be possible): When she picked and I asked for her and told her who was calling, she took the longest time to remember. She didn't even remember when I mentioned from OKCupid. Not a good sign at all, in retrospect.
You're way too paranoid about all these little details. You think you sounded bad because you had an energy drink? Who the **** cares? And why did you not call her from home when you had more time and would have been more relaxed?
Also, stop drinking that shit.
My point was, I might have sounded jittery and hence sabotaged my own effort. And I never make calls from home; not comfortable making calls from home. Also, I was on my way to the game at the time.
Its normal that she didnt remember. You have to call in first few hours after you get number. Or at least same day/night. Dont vory about voice tone if you dont have it just be loud thats good too.
By the time I had gotten her number on the preceding night, it was already pretty late. 11, I think. So I figured, in case it was a landline not to call that late.
Good you called next day . Keep pushing yourself. Without risk there will be no reward.
"Always do what you are afraid to do" - That will make you grow. Facing the fears and do it anyway.
You really are bored, aren't you?
Doing WHAT with the cat, exactly?.,
Ohhh my god...that is so gay.
Looks like you've got yourself a buddy buddy ;)
why does this have 300+ replies?
coz LR needs a LOT of help
LR I know I am late coming into this threat but well done, your making progress. Really proud of you :D kiss from an Irish lady ;)
Like michelle said, I need TONS of help. I'm self-described as "incompetent" in terms of talking to girls.Quote:
Originally Posted by BondaraGirl [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
and described in my opinion as not incompetent-just scared
I can't think of anything to say to girls.
Nothing to say to girls? Get out there and find an interest which girls may also have in common with you.
I've always found evening college to be good for that. You can start off by talking about the new interest you're both learning. Do a photography course or learn a fun bit of software like Photoshop. I recently did a small business course and there was an good mix of sexes. Drawing or languages - there are a lot of options.
You could join a cycling club. You'll find girls who LOVE that you ride. Or swimming club. I met a new good friend at my last swimming club.
Anyway, the secret is to use these hobbies to find a point of discussion which you both like. From there you'll find other points of discussion.
The good news is, I started Operation: Overlord. I just started dressing like a normal person. Maybe I can now pass off as a normal person!
Pics or stfu...
I'll try to get a few pics tonight.
I like how everyone seems to think I've given up or not taken any of their advice. If I didn't, I'd never have signed up for the school gym as I've done (and talked to a few students already as a result; in the previous semesters, I only talked to 2 students, and that's over years of college) nor would I have taken a dance class which starts Monday. I'm extremely nervous BUT if I hadn't listened to you fine folks, I would probably have also taken it HOWEVER, I would've cowarded out and dropped it before it started. So how about a little vote of confidence, huh?
After the first dance class, I'll give you kudos. Until then, your words and just words. Remember The Boy Who Cried Wolf?
Good on you for joining the school gym and stepping out of your comfort zone by initiating some peer convos.
Yays for you, good going. Bet you'll meet lots of great girls at dance class too.
I will hold my applause until you make these activities regular events in your life
Dude remember my dating tips.....put them into action!
24 pages, really?
We should just sticky this thread and see how far it can REALLY go.
Cerbs you been pretty aggressive lately wazup with dat? Careful you might stimulate the ladies with your bad boy persona.....
Have you seen all the pretty girls posting their pics? I don't want to talk from YCs selection pool...I'll tone it down a bit.
Pretty girls posting pics? Where?!
I reckon you dodged a bullet! She sounds high maintenance.
And a private thing about herself - she is really a cat. WTF?