My husband fondles me while I sleep? What is his problem?
My husband fondles me in my sleep several times a week thinking (I guess) that he will get some. However, since this has been happening our relationship has taken a toll. It started when I got really sick and needed surgery. Even when I was in pain (down there from surgery) he still fondles me by touching me down there which caused me to wake up in massive pain. When approaching him about it he says it is just a control issue on his part and that he won't do it anymore but it still persists. Now, we rarely have sex and we fight all the time. This has been going on for about 2 years. I didn't want to get divorced so I tried to trust him and see if he would stop but he hasn't. We have been in counseling for 2 months and he has even talked to the priest at our church...still nothing has gotten better. We are now at -- what seems like -- the end of our relationship. The sad part is if he just understood and respected my body when I was sick the intimacy wouldn't have gone away. Now, it seems it is a habit for him regardless of how I feel about it. I am tired all of the time because I get little sleep from him waking me up. And, now, we are sleeping in different rooms waiting it out to see if a miracle happens.
Any advice as to what I should do? Divorce? Getting him help, and if so what kind of help?