POF (Plenty of Fish) Review

I have a lot experience with POF. So, I will share my experience.

If you are a female, you will get a lot of messages especially once you registered because your profile will show up at the beginning of the list. Even if you have no photo, you will get a decent number of messages.

Males on there are usually there to get laid fast. Some are even pretty deceptive and tell you they are looking for a relationship, is an honest and sincere guy, etc but in actuality they just want to get laid. Some may even ask you to go to their place on the first date. Don't go! Obviously.

Some men may pay for the first few dates but are also dating multiple women or looking for **** buddies. A.k.a non-committal types.

Quality men with a good degree, make decent money, and want a serious relationship are few in numbers so you have to filter them out. Many men who lie or stretch the truth about their height, success status, etc. So, you may have to spend some time filtering them out.

You may occasionally get some weirdos with foot fetish, polygamy, sugar daddies, lesbians, really really old men wanting young women, dick pics, sending you erotic fiction, messaging you.

But I guess, if you are looking for a normal broke guy wanting a relationship, you can find them here as well. But don't expect to find your prince in shining armours here.

Unfortunately, there is no exact science in dating sites. Its like Russian roulette. I've met some great people on there (and some train wrecks also). You know the saying, IF IT IS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, THEN IT IS NOT TRUE.

You get what you pay for when it`s free. If I was single to day, I would do it the old fashion way and just ask a guy out in person, at the bar, grocery store, party, etc. The internet has made people lazy.

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Originally Posted by fearoflove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I have a lot experience with POF. So, I will share my experience.

If you are a female, you will get a lot of messages especially once you registered because your profile will show up at the beginning of the list. Even if you have no photo, you will get a decent number of messages.

Males on there are usually there to get laid fast. Some are even pretty deceptive and tell you they are looking for a relationship, is an honest and sincere guy, etc but in actuality they just want to get laid. Some may even ask you to go to their place on the first date. Don't go! Obviously.

Some men may pay for the first few dates but are also dating multiple women or looking for **** buddies. A.k.a non-committal types.

Quality men with a good degree, make decent money, and want a serious relationship are few in numbers so you have to filter them out. Many men who lie or stretch the truth about their height, success status, etc. So, you may have to spend some time filtering them out.

You may occasionally get some weirdos with foot fetish, polygamy, sugar daddies, lesbians, really really old men wanting young women, dick pics, sending you erotic fiction, messaging you.

But I guess, if you are looking for a normal broke guy wanting a relationship, you can find them here as well. But don't expect to find your prince in shining armours here.

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Jayzus! Don't you have ANY filters on who can and cannot contact you? You're allowing ALL of the dregs of the Plentyoffvckbuddies community to contact you by the sounds of things.

So: What restrictions DO you have?

We told you that a year ago lol that POF is a waste of time. Why dont you pay for a good dating site if you insist on online dating? Personally I have never been on a dating site and have no intention of ever going on one either.

You could just go to a bar. Sit there for an hour and wait for some guy to chat you up lol. You will prob have more success. And before anyone jumps up and down.. decent men do go to bars. There not hermits living in the mountains

I agree with wake up... Put some filters in your profile. I was on a dating website for a few months and only dated professionals with same interests as mine (I met a business man, an accountant, a doctor and a lawyer and ended up with the lawyer). And don't respond to every mesage that you get. Be selective.

Goodluck in your search.

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Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Jayzus! Don't you have ANY filters on who can and cannot contact you? You're allowing ALL of the dregs of the Plentyoffvckbuddies community to contact you by the sounds of things.

So: What restrictions DO you have?

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I don't think there are a lot of filter functions on POF when I was on there. I did put on my profile what I was looking for in terms of relationship type and of course, I don't respond to all the messages. I respond probably just 1 percent of the time.

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Originally Posted by chinagirl [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I agree with wake up... Put some filters in your profile. I was on a dating website for a few months and only dated professionals with same interests as mine (I met a business man, an accountant, a doctor and a lawyer and ended up with the lawyer). And don't respond to every mesage that you get. Be selective.

Goodluck in your search.

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Omg, speaking of lawyers. I met a lawyer on there and he is broke. Many guys on there don't put the salary range they are making on there.

Is he not doing well in his practice? Or maybe he just doesn't want women to go after him for money.

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You get what you pay for when it`s free. If I was single to day, I would do it the old fashion way and just ask a guy out in person, at the bar, grocery store, party, etc. The internet has made people lazy.

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This. All day. Im not a online dater. Never had to be.

I wouldn't trust what anyone said on the online profiles as being truthful especially how they look.
At least when meeting in person you know what you are getting right off, online lets you in for much more deception.

I don't get why ANY women are on-line daters. All they have to do is spread their legs and men come running.

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Originally Posted by dem862 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I don't get why ANY women are on-line daters. All they have to do is spread their legs and men come running.

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"plentyoffish" ?

Attractive people don't need dating sites......so what does that leave you?

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Attractive people don't need dating sites......so what does that leave you?

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This I have to disagree with. People's lives have gotten busier, workdays longer, and free time far more scarce. Online dating is convenient, albeit a crapshoot. I have had some success with PoF (1 LTR, a couple of hookups), but I do agree that pulling your pants up and asking someone out in person yields better results.

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Originally Posted by Cerby [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

This I have to disagree with. People's lives have gotten busier, workdays longer, and free time far more scarce. Online dating is convenient, albeit a crapshoot. I have had some success with PoF (1 LTR, a couple of hookups).

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I'm going to agree with you. I met good looking, successful professionals on line who otherwise don't have time getting drunk and meeting random women at bars who do not meet the criteria of what they are looking for.

When my BF and I go to bars nowadays we meet lonely, unhappy single/ married men waiting to hook up with same lonely single/married women who are drunk enough to go out and sleep with any guys.

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You get what you pay for when it`s free. If I was single to day, I would do it the old fashion way and just ask a guy out in person, at the bar, grocery store, party, etc. The internet has made people lazy.

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100% agree with you. i can't do the online dating machine, i'd rather have a set up off friends or meet a girl when out.

My brother has met through online dating more compatible women than in real life and is currently in a happy relationship :-)

what site did your brother use, valixy? i've heard some mixed online dating stories, probably more bad than good that i don't want a part of it. i don't go for the bar pick ups either.

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fearoflove, you haven't met one nice guy yet?

Not everyone has a bad experience picking someone up at a bar, that is how I met my husband.

That's how my 2 GF's met their husbands also. It's just that there are different ways of meeting people now. There is such a stigma attached to on line dating. I don't know why. I've never had any bad experience at all, but then again, I haven't been there long enough to meet the "shady" or "creepy" characters.

I have a few friends that had horrible experiences because of the fact they are meeting strangers, which can be difficult to really know who and what they are from a photo and a profile. I think it's better to meet someone through friends, family and co-workers, or on your own randomly. I get that everyone spends more time on their devices rather than the real world, maybe that's why people are having a harder time because we as a society have disconnected from physical contact.

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Originally Posted by Exeter19 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

what site did your brother use, valixy? i've heard some mixed online dating stories, probably more bad than good that i don't want a part of it. i don't go for the bar pick ups either.

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He joined meeting a year ago probably and it has been a good experience for him. He also knew what he wanted very clearly and I think that must have helped him.

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I get that everyone spends more time on their devices rather than the real world, maybe that's why people are having a harder time because we as a society have disconnected from physical contact.

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Think you are right here.
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Originally Posted by Exeter19 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

what site did your brother use, valixy? i've heard some mixed online dating stories, probably more bad than good that i don't want a part of it. i don't go for the bar pick ups either.

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fearoflove, you haven't met one nice guy yet?

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I haven't met one guy who I could be serious with on POF. Most of the guys on there are usually looking to get laid, non-commital, and focused on how I look. Maybe I am getting those types of guys because people online pick based on pictures.

I am now dating a guy who I have been friends for years.

Is POF the only one you tried so far, fearoflove? Do any of the ones you reject stalk bother you on there after or you can block them out if they do?

I have also tried POF and have had similar experience just reverse rolls. I found that most of the women on there in my area either aren't interested in a committed relationship or they are looking for a sugar daddy. I gave it a try out of recommendation from a friend.
One thing that confused me is women that live way outside my area that would message me, I really don't feel like having to drive 3+ hours just to see someone.
I can't speak for anyone but myself but a committed LTR is why I signed up.
I had similar experience with OkCupid, interesting site with the questioniares that you can feel out so you can screen people before you message them. I was actually disturbed by the number of people that indicated drug use and by the number of people the said they would not date a single dad. I did meet one gal from that site but on our date the only thing she was interested in talking about was how much I made and how well I could advance at my current job.

***Obviously the lady was looking for someone who was ambitous and goal oriented, she just didn't know how to go about finding out.

As for pot smokers, the majority of people here in BC smoke pot so I'm sure it's the norm everywhere else. Maybe if I was 20 something again I would be smoking pot too.

I wouldn't date a single dad either, and I know lots of other people who won't date a single partent because they don't need the baby drama or ex drama attached to the kids. Or don't like how a kid can tie you down, they want more freedom in the relationship to be spontanious.

Not everyone wants to be a potential step parent.

Smackie, you don't have to be 20 something to smoke pot. You can still smoke pot you know :-)

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Originally Posted by fearoflove [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I haven't met one guy who I could be serious with on POF. Most of the guys on there are usually looking to get laid, non-commital, and focused on how I look. Maybe I am getting those types of guys because people online pick based on pictures.

I am now dating a guy who I have been friends for years.

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it could be off the pics you use, what about changing your style of pics you display and see if the class of guys improve, to say if you have a sexier pic of yourself up put up a more demure one. good to have a variety of images, but for your main image change to opposite of what you have up right now that is bringing in the sleazier guys.

did you keep your POF profile active, or you deactivated it while dating your long time friend?

gl, hope the relationship goes well.

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Originally Posted by hatesthis [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Is POF the only one you tried so far, fearoflove? Do any of the ones you reject stalk bother you on there after or you can block them out if they do?

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There are some guys on there that wouldn't leave me alone. But after ignoring their messages for awhile, they eventually stop.

It is a good idea not to let them know where you live.

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Originally Posted by Exeter19 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

it could be off the pics you use, what about changing your style of pics you display and see if the class of guys improve, to say if you have a sexier pic of yourself up put up a more demure one. good to have a variety of images, but for your main image change to opposite of what you have up right now that is bringing in the sleazier guys.

did you keep your POF profile active, or you deactivated it while dating your long time friend?

gl, hope the relationship goes well.

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My pics are not sleazy at all. They are pretty tame. I still get sleazy guys messaging me. Some guys pretend they are looking for a relationship but after meeting in person, it is clear they just want to get laid.

I deactivated my profile when I got busy with school. It was over a half year after I deactivated my account that my friend asked me out.

can you get a vibe off the d-bags when they message you they are only out for sex, or they cover their motives too well when only using internet? i guess it's the risk you run when trying online dating, bet you are glad to be done with it. did your friend ever say why he waited so long before he asked you out?

fearoflove Do you maybe have any experience with Tinder? I find their approach more straightforward - like someone and if he likes you back, only then you can start chatting, which would restrict the number of unwanted messages you get. But their profile gives basically little info and you need to chat more with them (but I would say this is a good thing).

You've said that you respond to around 1 percent of the people that message you. How do you sign them out - profile pic, profile info, his message?

Thanks for the helpful review. I.used to have POF (for about a week) months and months ago...like November or so but I hated the overwhelming messages I got. It got quite annoying. I quickly found out that I only wanted the praise from my ex NOT from random men.

Like everything in life: know what you want.

There are 2 kinds of online sites: dating for relationships and for hookups. Paid sites like eH and Match are not for hookups. They are for screening. The first screen is whether s/he is serious enough to drop coin to find a decent match. Every fellow I connected with didn't hesitate to ask me out for coffee (to Cerby's point), and a 2nd date request was lunch or dinner. They were gentlemen, every one.

Tho most of you know only one got that 2nd date… ;)

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