What men think about female virgins

Ok so maybe this has come up before but I don't want to revive some old thread or look through pages and pages of tons of people asking for different stuff, so here I ask:

Why do men think that when they take a girl's virginity, she will instantly fall in love with him?

I think that, if the girl falls in love with the guy it's not exactly because they had sex, it's because she just fell in love with him and while sex may be one of the reasons, it's most certainly not the main one, or the trigger for falling in love with him.

Would you date a female virgin?
Do you agree with the people that say that virgins fall in love too quickly?

The reason I ask this is because I am a virgin, and my male friends who know this always pester me as if it were a bad thing, as if no one would want to be with me because of that, because any guy I get would be scared of me falling in love with him the moment he takes away my v-card. I think it's ridiculous. But I want to know your thoughts on it.


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To be honest, I've never really heard that before. I certainly don't think that way. However, I can see why some men would think that, especially ones who aren't looking for a serious relationship and just want to have fun. But any man who actually has feelings for you and wants to be with you shouldn't care.

1. Virginity often comes with equal relationship expierience. Many virgins are waiting for a dream prince on unicorn who will fell in love with them and then they will sex. Lots of virgins actually fell in love after sex.

2. Yes I would and had and would again. Everything is just so much simplier, except I wouldnt give my phone number.

3. Pretty much yes, thats why I wouldnt give my phone number.

That's a good point as re: the first question. As for the second, **** yeah I'd date a virgin. Virgin, non-virgin, half-virgin...Dates are dates, regardless of their sex history (unless it's over 10; that's just plain disgusting)

I think men would hesitate to date a virgin because sex might be awhile before it happens and her lack of experience, especially with blow jobs. Not as sexually open minded, and nervousness, anxiety would be a bummer. Not worth the hassle.

For me in my youth I had virgins.....when it's a guy there is no question about when it's gonna happen....ASAP! eager, excited, hungry, ....now that's good energy for sex I tell ya.

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Originally Posted by solip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Why do men think that when they take a girl's virginity, she will instantly fall in love with him?

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It's probably because of all the significance which so many young girls seem to place in virginity. The following are things I read frequently:

1. I want to lose my virginity to someone really special
2. When I give the "gift" of my virginity.....
3. I can't let this broken relationship go because we lost our virginities to each other.
4. HE WAS MY FIRST!

Like it or not, there are a lot of girls who see virginity/losing virginity as something quite significant. And boys know this.

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It's probably because of all the significance which so many young girls seem to place in virginity. The following are things I read frequently:

1. I want to lose my virginity to someone really special
2. When I give the "gift" of my virginity.....
3. I can't let this broken relationship go because we lost our virginities to each other.
4. HE WAS MY FIRST!

Like it or not, there are a lot of girls who see virginity/losing virginity as something quite significant. And boys know this.

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Well for me (I'm a girl), I think it's not THAT special, I'm not a virgin because I've chosen to be one, it's an "involuntary celibacy" as I read somewhere xD I just haven't had the chance to have sex and that's all.
So you think that, maybe I should explain that to guys that want to date me? That I don't really give it much importance? I'd like to let them like, be more at ease with that matter

I don't think you should say that at all; leaves you open to being exploited. Not to mention, I can't even fathom in what situation that would ever come up. I don't think it is a good idea.

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It's probably because of all the significance which so many young girls seem to place in virginity. The following are things I read frequently:

1. I want to lose my virginity to someone really special
2. When I give the "gift" of my virginity.....
3. I can't let this broken relationship go because we lost our virginities to each other.
4. HE WAS MY FIRST!

Like it or not, there are a lot of girls who see virginity/losing virginity as something quite significant. And boys know this.

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And thank god I wasn't one of them.

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Originally Posted by solip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well for me (I'm a girl), I think it's not THAT special, I'm not a virgin because I've chosen to be one, it's an "involuntary celibacy" as I read somewhere xD I just haven't had the chance to have sex and that's all.
So you think that, maybe I should explain that to guys that want to date me? That I don't really give it much importance? I'd like to let them like, be more at ease with that matter

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I never told the guy I was a virgin, .....so why should you make a big deal out of it.

I see pure respect for her. Then I think, damn...tight.

and still after all these years.....

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I never told the guy I was a virgin, .....so why should you make a big deal out of it.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I don't think you should say that at all; leaves you open to being exploited. Not to mention, I can't even fathom in what situation that would ever come up. I don't think it is a good idea.

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Well of course I don't go all: "Hey dude, you know, I'm a virgin yay for me =D", if they never talk about it, I wouldn't see a reason to talk about that either
I've had guys I like ask me if I am a virgin before, and I didn't really understand why they did that, I mean, I even think it's more important to them than to me

So I was talking more about, if I should say that when they ask me

Strange...no one ever asked me.

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Originally Posted by solip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Well of course I don't go all: "Hey dude, you know, I'm a virgin yay for me =D", if they never talk about it, I wouldn't see a reason to talk about that either
I've had guys I like ask me if I am a virgin before, and I didn't really understand why they did that, I mean, I even think it's more important to them than to me

So I was talking more about, if I should say that when they ask me

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If it didn't mean that much to you,then any explanation other than "Yeah, I'm a virgin" seems superfluous. Not to mention saying "involuntarily celibate" and "never had the chance" kinda sounds like low self-esteem...It's essentially saying, "Nobody's thought me ****able before"...Just not a good vibe, saying this as a guy. Not to mention that that is incredibly awkward. How's a guy supposed to respond positively? "Yeah, I'd **** you."?

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Strange...no one ever asked me.

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Maybe I tend to like guys who are just looking for sex and don't want to do it with a virgin xD

Maybe it's because of where I live, who knows. Now that I think about it, the last 2 guys I liked a lot both asked me the same thing. I didn't really like anyone before them.

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Originally Posted by solip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ok so maybe this has come up before but I don't want to revive some old thread or look through pages and pages of tons of people asking for different stuff, so here I ask:

Why do men think that when they take a girl's virginity, she will instantly fall in love with him?

I think that, if the girl falls in love with the guy it's not exactly because they had sex, it's because she just fell in love with him and while sex may be one of the reasons, it's most certainly not the main one, or the trigger for falling in love with him.

Would you date a female virgin?
Do you agree with the people that say that virgins fall in love too quickly?

The reason I ask this is because I am a virgin, and my male friends who know this always pester me as if it were a bad thing, as if no one would want to be with me because of that, because any guy I get would be scared of me falling in love with him the moment he takes away my v-card. I think it's ridiculous. But I want to know your thoughts on it.


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1. Because it often happens. Girls are much more likely to equate sex and love. Not always, and not always just girls, but that's the way I'd bet.

2. At this point in my life, hell no I'd not date a virgin. Disregarding my marital status, I'm just not interested in teaching a young woman how to ****. When I was young, it would've been a different story.

3. Not always, but as a rule of thumb, yes.

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Originally Posted by solip [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Maybe I tend to like guys who are just looking for sex and don't want to do it with a virgin xD

Maybe it's because of where I live, who knows. Now that I think about it, the last 2 guys I liked a lot both asked me the same thing. I didn't really like anyone before them.

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Obviously they are picking up some vibe from you or it's your demeanor, or your body language......maybe you look inexperienced.

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Originally Posted by Love'sReject [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If it didn't mean that much to you,then any explanation other than "Yeah, I'm a virgin" seems superfluous. Not to mention saying "involuntarily celibate" and "never had the chance" kinda sounds like low self-esteem...It's essentially saying, "Nobody's thought me ****able before"...Just not a good vibe, saying this as a guy. Not to mention that that is incredibly awkward. How's a guy supposed to respond positively? "Yeah, I'd **** you."?

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Respond positively to what?

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Originally Posted by smackie9 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Obviously they are picking up some vibe from you or it's your demeanor, or your body language......maybe you look inexperienced.

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Maybe it is that... I'm kind of a childish girl xD But I don't see the problem in that, if someone likes me then he should like me as I am, I guess in the end it amounts to that

How is any guy going to respond to you saying "I've never had sex because the guys don't want to have sex with me"? It isn't rocket science; that is awkward and a conversation killer.

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Well I've never actually replied with that when they asked if I was a virgin, I just said: Yeah I am a virgin
Now when they ask why, I think that's a very different matter, and if I recall correctly one of them asked me why, to which I replied: because I haven't had the chance

Not that I go looking for it either, and it's not that guys don't want to have sex with me, it's me that doesn't want to have sex with the ones that I could've possibly ****ed

Ohhh....OK, that is different.