When a girl likes you, gives you hints, and you still don't know to make a move

I'm a shy guy, but also very confident. I'm not shy or scared around girls, I can talk with anyone and feel comfortable in just about every situation. Though when I like a girl, I can never tell her I like her, because I don't know if she likes me back. I'm not scared to admit it to her but I just don't want to put her in that awkward situation of having to maybe reject me (I know it's awkward as a guy when I reject a girl, so I don't want to put the girl in possibly that same situation).

Also, when I was in college there was this girl that liked me, though I didn't know initially. She was hanging around me all the time, guys I knew were making bets on when I was going to ask her out (and telling me), she ate dinner with me almost every night, etc. but I thought she just wanted to be friends. I thought she was attractive too and fun to be around. So eventually after about three weeks she finally told me she liked me and I was surprised. Now, looking back on it, basically everyone that knew me and her both knew she liked me except for myself. And that's the problem I have. I basically need a girl to tell me "I like you, will you go out with me" for me to know she likes me. And it's also happened where I like the girl, she gives me hints, but I still can't make a move and the girl eventually loses interest, even though I really like them.

So, to the girls out there, is it awkward for you to reject a guy who likes you? Should we just hold in how we feel, or just tell you the truth, even though it may create an awkward few seconds?

If you let a bit of awkward rejection hold you back-youll never find love. We prefer honesty and if shes not interested in you-at least youll no and can stop wasting time on her.

You have a lot of confidence? So why wouldnt she like you? Your a catch arnt you? Any girl would be lucky to have you as her man wouldnt she? So why do you hold back then?

Everyone gets rejected sometimes. Its part of dating. It doesnt mean there is something wrong with you-it just means you not her mr right. But you will be someone elses.

Dont hold back, dont put yourself in the "friend zone" just go for it.

Dude if you like a girl you ask them out on a date, simple as that. You can't be going around in life expecting a girl to do the work for you. If you have a good feeling with someone that should be enough. What's the worst they can say? No? Rejection is just part of life, so you better get over it or you will never get anywhere. If the waiting game, looking for signals hasn't worked for you, time to do the opposite. Stop waiting, and stop looking for the right signals. ....just go for it.

But I don't want to put her in that uncomfortable position where she says no....I want to be 100% sure I'm going to get a yes before I ask. How can I find this out without directly asking?

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But I don't want to put her in that uncomfortable position where she says no....I want to be 100% sure I'm going to get a yes before I ask. How can I find this out without directly asking?

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Thank God all the great inventors, leaders and guys with girlfriends dont think like you !

Get some balls and ask her out

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But I don't want to put her in that uncomfortable position where she says no....I want to be 100% sure I'm going to get a yes before I ask. How can I find this out without directly asking?

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You cant find out by being passive. But you can be 100% sure she will not say yes if you dont ask. If you gona ask her, she will see that it takes courage to make a move and its even bigger turn on if you are fat or ugly because it takes even more courage. And doesnt matter what the answer is she will like you even more just because you try.

Been in situation when girl says she dont like me at all. But I just kept ignoring that and did everything as if she likes me. And after few weeks she cried just because I didnt talk with her.
After another week she said she likes me.

Dude rejection is just part of life....deal with it. If you are too afraid that means you lack confidence and are insecure...these are not what you would call endearng qualities.

Its only like 10 seconds of awkwardness if shes not interested. Its not a big deal. Any lad ive turned down didn't make me feel awkward or uncomfortable. I was just honest. If she does reject you-its not a reflection on you and you should not take it personally. It doesn't mean there is something wrong with you-it just means your not right for her.

seriously-just do it already. ask her out

Yeah, you afraid because you never failed.

Even if you fail the strenght of character gain will be the measure of your true sucsess. As long as you lose like a winner you still a winner. You are right every single wrong.

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How can I find this out without directly asking?

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is this a real question? how is anyone supposed to know if this girl will say yes or no? the only person who knows the answer to that question is her, and the only way you're going to find out the answer is to ask.

I agree with pcmaster saying that I'm afraid because I've never failed before...I've never asked a girl out before and I know I am afraid to fail. I just wish she would say something because I really like her.

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I agree with pcmaster saying that I'm afraid because I've never failed before...I've never asked a girl out before and I know I am afraid to fail. I just wish she would say something because I really like her.

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Just how old are you? 3 years old. For christs sake part of being a grown up is learning how to deal with failure. If you expect to go through your entire life and never have to deal with failure, rejection and general cock ups you're in for a very nasty surprise. So grow up and ask her out you idiot.

In the beginning of your thread you said -

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I'm a shy guy, but also very confident. I'm not shy or scared around girls, I can talk with anyone and feel comfortable in just about every situation.

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And now you're saying -

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've never asked a girl out before and I know I am afraid to fail.

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if you're very confident and don't get scared around girls, why are you so afraid to ask her out?

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But I don't want to put her in that uncomfortable position where she says no....I want to be 100% sure I'm going to get a yes before I ask. How can I find this out without directly asking?

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No you mean you don't want to be in an awkward position if she says no....you are not fooling anyone here.

Well, yes there's multiple reasons why it's hard to ask her out, but one of the reason's why I'm afraid to ask a girl out is because it hurts to be rejected....isn't that kind of obvious....???? When I say I'm confident, I am in mostly everything in my life. I can talk with a cute girl or the girl I like and not get flustered, embarrassed, etc. But the one I'm not confident in is taking that next step of actually putting my feelings out there for the girl and letting her know I like her. It just hurts knowing they might not like you back, so I've always just played it "safe" around the girls I like and not tell them how I feel. I've really, really liked a total of five girls so far in my life (not just a crush, but actually develop at least a little bit of feelings for them, even though I hadn't "been out" with them) and I never asked any of them out just because I was afraid of them saying no.

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Originally Posted by limh8000 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've really, really liked a total of five girls so far in my life (not just a crush, but actually develop at least a little bit of feelings for them, even though I hadn't "been out" with them) and I never asked any of them out just because I was afraid of them saying no.

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Well then my friend you are doomed to spend the rest of your life as a single person. AFRAID? Jeez that's just pathetic. I'm afraid of dying, I'm afraid of getting my knob caught in the zip of my pants after having a pee, but I'm not afraid of rejection because those of us who live in big bad world realise that it's something we can't avoid from time to time.

Yes I agree. You know your generation is what I call the coddled generation..... you were driven and picked up from school everyday, wasn't allowed to go anywhere alone, not even to play at the park or walk freely anywhere, never allowed to leave the yard, and spent most of your time plopped in front of a dvd or video game....absolutely no life experience. Now we are left with young adults practically peeing in the pants at the thought of asking someone out on a date. Shheeeeesh!

I recently went on a second date with this girl I really like. We haven't done anything intimate yet though, just hugged once. So as we are walking back to her car she tells me that something I did for her on our first date had earned me a lot of bonus points with her dad. Should I take this as a hint that she is interested in me (aka letting me know she likes me) or am I just overthinking this?

She just made a simple comment about how her father opinion about you.....it's just a compliment nothing more. Stop worrying about it. If she keeps saying yes to more dates then she likes you duh.

Ok, thanks

I think you should defiantly tell us! Sometimes we may be a bit shy too. You just have to feel out the situation more.. I am stuck in this same thing with a guy. I am too shy to tell him, and feel that it would be awkward to have to ask him because we are friends. But if i found out that he was pulling the same thing i'd totally be kicking myself in the ass for not doing it sooner i guess.

It is awkward to reject a guy who likes me. Especially if he's a great guy. But I know I'll always respect them for being honest and straight to the point. The best advice I can give you is to make it hard for the woman to reject you. Be the best version of yourself. To attract a woman of quality, you must first be a man of quality! I can't tell you what to do, but maybe try the straight up thing for a bit.

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Originally Posted by mzzpnay [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It is awkward to reject a guy who likes me. Especially if he's a great guy. But I know I'll always respect them for being honest and straight to the point. The best advice I can give you is to make it hard for the woman to reject you. Be the best version of yourself. To attract a woman of quality, you must first be a man of quality! I can't tell you what to do, but maybe try the straight up thing for a bit.

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In other words you have to be confident in your approach and there is no other way around asking a girl out.

Well I tried for a third date but she doesn't want to. I never actually told her I liked her, it's kind of awkward to say that after only two dates. Should I have said anything to her?

You definately need to go for what you want in life. That means telling her.

And no its not awkward to reject a guy. yes they'll get hurt but they WILL move on, as long as it's handled maturely it's a normal part of life. How many people do you know end up marrying the only person they ever date?

Being asked out on a date would indicate the person likes them....she knows you like her.

Well we met on a dating site so it's a little different, since we hadn't actually "met" before the 1st date. And I know a lot of people just use dating websites to meet friends as well. I've been on "dates" with people just because we had a lot of the same interests and they might become a great friend.

Most people are looking for a mate or sex, on dating sites. If you ask for a third date that means you obviously like her. That would be my impression. If you don't like someone why bother asking them out again? It's pretty simple.