Flirting when bf/gf is out of town?

That's the question.

If you know you can't be caught, do you flirt? or do you just flirt anyway?

If you know can't be caught, how far would you take that flirting? I'm not talking about cheating, but then again as one thing leads to another......you know what I mean.

My girlfriend went out of town on business recently for 4 days and I went drinking with a group of guys from work. This girl was showing some interest in me and my co-workers knew my girlfriend was out of town and were egging me on to make a move on this girl. I kept refusing, but then as a the night wore on and I got a bit more drunk, I ended up kissing this girl and not the way you would kiss your grandmother.

I have'nt told my girlfriend yet.

Has anyone else had experiences like this?

As a guy I would not flirt if I had a girl friend as to me that is basically cheating. Why your friends pushed you to cheat on your girl friend is beyond me and quiet frankly stupid as well, and why are you asking girls this question? Are you worried that your girl friend is flirting with some guy on her business trip? If so you got some trust issues to work out, besides telling your girl you kisses another girl.

Jurupa's right- that's not flirting and you know it.

If you can't be true to her, you don't deserve a girlfriend. Shame on you.

Flirting is no big deal. I do it in front of my husband. I flirt with whomever I want - male, female, whatever. Touching/kissing/etc. is another story and is clearly over the line.

kissing the girl is cheating thats not flirting!!!! look but dont touch if you are in a relationship.

You already feel guilty becasue it was more than flirting. You were in a moment of stupidity

Yeah I know it was a mistake and I know I did something wrong, it was a snap moment of stupidity.

jurupa, their not my friends, their my co-workers and i'd like to think i'm not like them. Who said I was specifically addressing girls with this question? I have complete trust in her. This is the first time anything like this has happened.

I did tell her your information, because its the right thing to do. It did'nt go well of course, but she realized it was a mistake and I believe our relationship is strong enough to get through it.

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Originally Posted by HurricaneLover [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Yeah I know it was a mistake and I know I did something wrong, it was a snap moment of stupidity.

jurupa, their not my friends, their my co-workers and i'd like to think i'm not like them. Who said I was specifically addressing girls with this question? I have complete trust in her. This is the first time anything like this has happened.

I did tell her your information, because its the right thing to do. It did'nt go well of course, but she realized it was a mistake and I believe our relationship is strong enough to get through it.

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Flirting in my definition does not involve touch -- sounds like you know the answer to your original question. You did the right thing to tell her. Took guts, in my opinion... unless she would have found out anyway.

Of course.. the best answer would seem to be.. don't get yourself into those situations. :)

control what you drink..Alcohol makes you lose control over normal right and wrong.

Alcohol defense.. I have trouble buying that one. I'm sure it doesn't help, but hardly a decent scapegoat in my opinion.

Flirting when your involved with someone else is very misleading. Especially if you do the touching/in their personal space flirting.

I hate men who do this..... :(

But, I feel even more sorry for their gf's. AND it makes me realize that the guy isn't that much of a catch anyways. If he does this to her, he would do it with any woman he is with. A loser in my book.

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Originally Posted by Ellynn [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Flirting when your involved with someone else is very misleading. Especially if you do the touching/in their personal space flirting.

I hate men who do this..... :(

But, I feel even more sorry for their gf's. AND it makes me realize that the guy isn't that much of a catch anyways. If he does this to her, he would do it with any woman he is with. A loser in my book.

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I feel the same way for the boyfriends who's girlfriend flirts with other guys. I even feel worse for the husbands when their wifes do this.

I have been there and kiss another guy on my EX boyfriend didn't mean it and i told him i did so.

But as for flirting i'm just a big flirt and will flirt with any guy i want even if i had a boyfriend but wouldn't do anything more.

Personally I wouldn't flirt with another girl if I had a g/f. I just think that if you have a partner theres no real reason to want to flirt with anyone else.

Yes but some poeple want to fell like they still have it

Oh yeah, dont get me wrong. I know some people like to feel that way, but when I have a g/f i'm happy with her. I, personally, dont need to feel like i've got it. :)

No offence was intended. :)

No offence was taken

It's kinda like kicking open the door to your plane at 12,000 Ft. Sure it's exilerating but chances are, you're getting sucked out.

lol!!!!! Yeah, I don't think i'd wanna try that either! :)

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Originally Posted by meerkat [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

control what you drink..Alcohol makes you lose control over normal right and wrong.

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this is THE BIGGEST bullshit ever.

dont ever say "oh i was drunk" as an excuse. thats just a dumb reason people pull out so they dont feel like they deserve the blame. you are perfectly accountable for your actions, regardless of alcohol/drugs or influence or not.

you wanted to kiss her, you had temptations.
your friends were an influence, if you would have cared so much about your lady, not even the devil could have convinced you to kiss that girl. your love isnt real. this was a test and you failed.

you used alcohol as a scapegoat, it was your way of reasoning with yourself and to bring yourself to kiss this girl, deep down you knew perfectly well what you were doing .

tell your GF/wife wtv the truth. she dindt do anything wrong, she deservs better and the truth is the least you can do. maybe you regret it, maybe you dont. but whats done is done and now you can only make it worse or try to keep it respectable.

tell her the truth. its the way to go, if she bails, at least youll have a clear consciouns and youll know you told her the truth. if not only you lie to her (even more) and you have guilt. then in the end, its all gonna come back to you one day, karma can be jusstttt right .... hehe.

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Originally Posted by Late_vamp [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

this is THE BIGGEST bullshit ever.

dont ever say "oh i was drunk" as an excuse. thats just a dumb reason people pull out so they dont feel like they deserve the blame. you are perfectly accountable for your actions, regardless of alcohol/drugs or influence or not.

you wanted to kiss her, you had temptations.
your friends were an influence, if you would have cared so much about your lady, not even the devil could have convinced you to kiss that girl. your love isnt real. this was a test and you failed.

you used alcohol as a scapegoat, it was your way of reasoning with yourself and to bring yourself to kiss this girl, deep down you knew perfectly well what you were doing .

tell your GF/wife wtv the truth. she dindt do anything wrong, she deservs better and the truth is the least you can do. maybe you regret it, maybe you dont. but whats done is done and now you can only make it worse or try to keep it respectable.

tell her the truth. its the way to go, if she bails, at least youll have a clear consciouns and youll know you told her the truth. if not only you lie to her (even more) and you have guilt. then in the end, its all gonna come back to you one day, karma can be jusstttt right .... hehe.

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THANKYOU +10000 right here

welcome back my friend! :D

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Originally Posted by lilwing [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

THANKYOU +10000 right here

welcome back my friend! :D

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hey lilwing, nice to see you to bud.

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Originally Posted by Late_vamp [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

this is THE BIGGEST bullshit ever.

dont ever say "oh i was drunk" as an excuse. thats just a dumb reason people pull out so they dont feel like they deserve the blame. you are perfectly accountable for your actions, regardless of alcohol/drugs or influence or not.

you wanted to kiss her, you had temptations.
your friends were an influence, if you would have cared so much about your lady, not even the devil could have convinced you to kiss that girl. your love isnt real. this was a test and you failed.

you used alcohol as a scapegoat, it was your way of reasoning with yourself and to bring yourself to kiss this girl, deep down you knew perfectly well what you were doing .

tell your GF/wife wtv the truth. she dindt do anything wrong, she deservs better and the truth is the least you can do. maybe you regret it, maybe you dont. but whats done is done and now you can only make it worse or try to keep it respectable.

tell her the truth. its the way to go, if she bails, at least youll have a clear consciouns and youll know you told her the truth. if not only you lie to her (even more) and you have guilt. then in the end, its all gonna come back to you one day, karma can be jusstttt right .... hehe.

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I agree and couldn't put it any better myself

You could try.. long threads FTW :)

No i leave it to the others not so good on long threads

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Originally Posted by HurricaneLover [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Has anyone else had experiences like this?

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No, and I have no girlfriend...wtf.

That'll change.. lol

Will it really

In time.. Indeed.. lol

Ok i'll take your word for it

Please do :)

what would you like me talk about

Umm.. You've got a beer in your photo.. what kind is it?

It's WKD blue i love that stuff

Cool.. what does WKD stand for? :)

LOL i didn't know until i just went and look on google and type it in and WKD stands for Weekend LOL

lol.. that works :)

Flirting can be innocent.... or not... it's all up to you.

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Originally Posted by Ath [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

lol.. that works :)

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Yes i dose :D but i really drink anything that is going once i party thats it no stopping me but as i have said again and again i don't need a drink to have fun but it sure dose help oh god that could be new sig seen how nobody likes the one i have got.

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Originally Posted by GratefulOne [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Flirting can be innocent.... or not... it's all up to you.

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I agree with you where will people be and do if they can't have a little flirt well guys are away you know the saying well the cats are out the mice will play