- A guy with a great job and all the perks that come with it?
- A guy who has a great personality but not so great looking?
- A guy who is hot but lacks any charisma?
Why on which you choose?
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- A guy with a great job and all the perks that come with it?
- A guy who has a great personality but not so great looking?
- A guy who is hot but lacks any charisma?
Why on which you choose?
Stupid question.
I wouldn't choose any out of the three. Id want a guy who has a great personality, who is honest, trustworthy, genuine, good looking and hard working. Why choose one or the other when you can have it all.
You have ONLY 3 choices listed.
Obviously I have my reasons or those wouldn't be the ones I mentioned. Not random, lmao.
You can't have it all and wanting to have it all means you are wanting to change someone to fit all you want and need and maybe they are alright as they are without some compromise.
ummm I have it all and I never had to change a thing about him...
But anyway what type of personality does the first guy have? And how not so great looking is the second?
Lets say the first guy is nice to his family but a douche to strangers.
Let's then say the second guy is a 5/10.
is the first guy a cheat?
The last one and the first one would or could possibly be cheats in the past.
then I would go with the second if I had no other choice :)
I still know I can get a guy though who is physically attractive, not a cheat, hard working and great personality. Plenty of those in the sea
-A guy who has a great personality but not so great looking.
But that is because I'm middle aged and hot looking or money is not on my agenda. I like a guy that I can relate to well on an intellectual level.
Lol ladies we have us a feisty one...Quote:
Originally Posted by Jffs24 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Personality for me, total no-brainer... but that's me. Whatever options you're weighing up if you're not made that way you're just not made that way. If looks are all important to you then dating someone you don't find physically attractive is gonna be pretty much doomed... likewise all looks and nobody home isn't gonna cut it for someone who needs something more... meaningful. Isn't this just common sense?!
Why can't we have someone who is good looking, has great charisma AND a great job? Oh that's right we can. And a lot of us do. Stupid question.
If I had to pick, I'd go with the second one. A bad attitude is unattractive.
Thanks each of ya. Guess we can only click the thanks so many in a row and the button disappears on here. I need to tally what ya'll said so far and see which choice is in the lead.
No one person has all you are looking for, not a female, not male. Sometimes ya got to take the good with the bad if the bad is liveable, imho.
Choice 1-
Choice 2- 1 2 3 4 5
Choice 3-
Picked None- 1 2
Undecided and waiting on more info - 1
If I checked that right.
I could never be with a guy whose personality I didn't like, and whom I wasn't attracted to. I'd rather be alone.
So, what exactly do you mean with "not good looking"? Do you mean that I'm not attracted to him, or that he doesn't adhere to commonly accepted beauty standards (like zach efron or brad pitt or something)?
I find if you spend a lot of time with someone you can start to find them attractive even at first you didn't think they were.
I'd choose number 2 out of those options.
Number one is not very important to me because I don't care much about money. In fact, my husband earns a lot less than I do, and it's never been an issue.
Number three wouldn't work because looks without personality does nothing for me. Even for a casual fling, I can't see the appeal. I once shared a kiss with a guy who was really hot but had no personality. I thought a light make-out session with somebody like that might be fun. Nope. It never went further than a kiss because I realized how little I was feeling it.
Number two is a better choice because if a guy has an interesting personality, then the rest of him can start become attractive as well. That's kind of what happened to me with my husband. I wasn't physically attracted to him at first. But after we became good friends, and I started to really enjoy his company, he became much more attractive to me. Besides a good personality can help keep the relationship enjoyable for a long time.
Then you also mentioned that the first and last one are possible cheats. Having somebody who's trustworthy is absolutely essential to me for a relationship. So if number two doesn't have those issues, he'd definitely be the one I'd pick.
I wouldn't pick any of those because I don't settle.. I want a man that I'm attracted too, has a good personality, and has a stable job that he enjoys and gets the bills paid
Okay, four more weighed in. Let me see what you all picked or didn't pick at all.
Searock-- means he is average looking at a 5/10 think of jonah hill, maybe? whereas the ryan's might be 9's. lmao depends on what actor, singer, athlete you think rates a 5 to have as a comparison.
Will that help you pick 1, 2 or 3?
Verticalmoon-- I like the way you worked it out the best of everyone. Thanks. #2 for you.
4ratties- so none of them for you.
I dunno what "average looking" is, since attractiveness is completely subjective. I could be attracted to a guy who is not "hot" according to the current beauty standards.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jffs24 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
So, regardless of number 2's "hotness" according to current beauty standards, if I am attracted to him, I choose him. Otherwise, I choose no one.
OP your options are two vague. It makes no sense..
I think you are just looking for validation.
I knoe guys who have good jobs, trustworthy, good looking, great personality.. I know guys who have a good job, untrustworthy, crap personality..
I know guys who are good looking with a crap personality and guys who are ugly with a crap personality, i know guys who are good looking and really genuine, ugly and really genuine..
Your asking as if there are only 3typescin the world and 2/3 are untrustworthy.. It makes no sense
Just to prove there are women who can follow simple instructions without "but... but...". ;)
2.
Jobs can change and 'hotness' is as much about personality as actual physical attributes (which can also change somewhat).
Well, my last was a mix of 1 and 3. So been there, done that. I would go for 2. Because everyone has something that is attractive to another. Personality is key, I like someone who can make me giggle when I feel sad and can carry on a convo and gets on well with others.
So, I'm picking # 2.
So 3 more for #2. Searock, IndiReloaded, sadbunnyface.
None of the choices are about me, Michelle so I couldn't be looking for any validation. And all 3 are capable of cheating, uglier guys cheat all the time.
# 2 is the clear winner.
Thanks peeps.
Now that the results are in, care to explain to us the reason of this poll :-)?Quote:
Originally Posted by Jffs24 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It is about some dudes my sister who is 21 is dating or stringing along, however ya care to see it, lmao. But three different dudes.
1st is around 26, okay looking guy has a good job, makes the $$ and buys her things. But is a real d-bag to most peeps. No one in my family likes him.
2nd guy is a nice guy, Her age-- not as good looking, not that $$ of a job but her friends and the family get on with him.
Last guy is the one all her friends are jealous of because they think he's hot shit, has no personality, always has his shirt off, can't carry a conversation to save his ****ing life and is unemployed and had a ****ton of gfs, some of them her friends.
More to it, but who wants to type all that long shit out online.
That was to show her what most women would chose, she think no one would pick guy #2. But look who most of ya picked. Sent her the link, I'm sure she'll really care. I think she is friend-zoning #2. 1 buys her stuff and 3 makes her friends jealous.
If she isn't attracted to number 2, she shouldn't be dating him. She shouldn't be dating the other two either, if they are as bad as you say. There are plenty of guys that she would be attracted to and that have great personalities too, out there. She shouldn't settle.
Has she asked for your opinion? If not, I suggest you keep your thoughts to yourself - telling a sibling what to do is a great way to alienate themQuote:
Originally Posted by Jffs24 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
She never stops asking for my opinion. That's the prob. Which do you like best? Who looks better with me, which one does mom and dad like more? On and ****ing on. Then ignores advice and re asks again.Quote:
Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I told her out of all of them only 2 would be able to get along with the family and most of her friends and the only one I would hang with -- She only cares if they buy her shit and how hot they look. Then comes back to me and cries when they ****ed her over. SMH.
No, 2 is getting friend zoned -- he knows it. He is the 'nice guy' her friends won't be jealous of.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Agreed, she shouldn't date other 2 either. D-bgs. But they are flashy ****s. Our parents can't stand 3, lmao.
As I said, she is doing the right thing by not dating him, since she is not attracted to him.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jffs24 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Assuming your sister is an adult, unfortunately for her (because she has bad judgement if what you say is true), she is the only person that gets to have a say in who she decides to date. I don't think you should give her advice unless she explicitly asks you to.Quote:
Agreed, she should date other 2 either. D-bgs. But they are flashy ****s. Our parents can't stand 3, lmao.
She is 21. But still at home and going to school. She asks anyone with a pulse for advice, lmao. The family and her girlfriends get hit up the most. Issue is it affects the family dynamic if she drags in a Dbag and everyone hates him.
On topic of the thread and her reading it, she said and I quote " they are all lying, no girl would pick the uglier guy" See what we are dealin' with here. Even when presented with evidence she denies.
The thing is, there is no such thing as objective beauty or ugliness. If she is not attracted to number 2, she shouldn't be dating him. I wouldn't date a guy I wasn't attracted to either.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jffs24 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]