Whats the best way to ask a girl if she likes you or not? I dont wanna scare her off but i really want to know if the girl likes me b/c i like her. Whats the best time and how should i come to the question of asking her if she likes me?
Thanks!!
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Whats the best way to ask a girl if she likes you or not? I dont wanna scare her off but i really want to know if the girl likes me b/c i like her. Whats the best time and how should i come to the question of asking her if she likes me?
Thanks!!
Don't ask. Flirt. A lot. Ask her to hang out. Just figure it out on your own. If she likes you, she'll make sure you know it. Asking might scare her. No one likes to be put on the spot.
the problem is, that i HAVE been flirting. Like, i can tell she likes me but im not 100% sure and im not sure if its just her. I flirt wit her and she flirts back. Im not sure if she is fliriting or its just her. You know?
Ask her to hang out.Quote:
Originally Posted by BlackRose
FLIRT like crazy, my boyfriend and i liked each other for about 2 months before we knew the other one liked each other, and in that two months we hung out alot and talked and got to know each other... i think it was better that way because we became really good friends and then started dating and it's amazing...
so don't ask just Flirt
what happens when you don't get an opportunity to hang out and you suck at or don't even get opportunities to flirt?
I was just going to say something like that(to the post above). These people on here make it sound like everyone flirts. For example I can not flirt....I am the type of person that looks foolish and dumb when I flirt. I think people now these days are to much into these dating rules...hell...I would love for a girl to just straight up come up to me and tell me she loves me. Skip all the bull shit. Just tell her you like her rather then asking her if she likes you. If you do not like her that whats the difference if she likes you or not?.
If you're not too shy to tell her how you feel, you should do it. Most people can't do something like that. I would probably like it if some guy came up to me and told me that he liked me (as long as he wasn't really gross or something). It would make things easier on you because then she would know that you liked her and not have to guess.
This happened to me one:
A guy who I had liked for a few months was picking on me and being a little flirty and something got brought up (don't remember what). He said "it's because you want me, isn't it?" and it made it easier for me to not be shy and admit it since he already said it.
I don't know if anyone else would like that, but since I'm really shy it helped me.
Just out of curiosity Igor, isn't that a guy's name?
i agree, why can't people be more direct. screw rules.
Change Your frame of mind from "Does she like You" to "Why should You like Her"
The "rules" are there for a reason, if You break them You WILL eventually fail. GRAB ya balls and accept them! LOL
There is no "relationship" rules. You like someone then you like someone and if you dont then you dont...thats it.Quote:
Originally Posted by LightOn
"Why you should like her"? you mean "if he likes her" right? I never have chosen reasons why I like someone...I either do or dont. I let my brain tell me that.
You let your brain do that? How so.....? Your brain is commanded by you and only you. There is no letting your brain do anything.Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins
This whole thing about why should You like her is not about the rules....I will not explain myself to You any longer O/V. Debating with you is like debating with a child, it's their way or the highway. Also this was not your post, you seem to be taking everything that does not meet your criteria personally. :sad2:
Watch your step ;)
Yea, I "let" my brain do that. The opposite of that would be putting a bullet in my head. I choose nothing actually...the brain does everything on its own. It also make me fall in love and I have no decision there.Quote:
Originally Posted by LightOn
YEa, typical affect I have on people. My arguments are so good that they resort to bad insults and refuse to argue because they know it is futile to try. :stuckup:
just get to know her and if u know her than show her that u immenseely like her and that u want to hangout withher. every once in a while ask her whether she wants to hangout....if she sometimes cant...just show her ur disappointment
Hussain
[QUOTE=Only-virgins]Yea, I "let" my brain do that. The opposite of that would be putting a bullet in my head. I choose nothing actually...the brain does everything on its own. It also make me fall in love and I have no decision there.QUOTE]
That's pretty simply put, it means you're out of control.
It's more like arguing with a two year old.Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins
My brain is on the bench. Life is too short to not follow your heart.
I must say I have to agree with OV this time.. I wish...I really wish it wasnt that complicated either, the whole flirting thing is confusing, tiring and frustating to me.. and Im not very good at it.. I would really like a guy to come to me and say "hey I like you, wanna go out with me?" but that seldom happens I say, follow your heart, only you know deep inside what is best for yourself, if youre the kind of person that wants to have an answer cause you dont like spending much time on a relationship -and its killing you inside not having a response yet- and youre not sure its gonna happen or not..go straight to her and tell her you like her, if you cant do it facing her, then send her a little present or a letter saying so, then youll have the answer..Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins
If you are the type of strategic guy who likes to play all his cards before making a direct move..keep flirting with her but increase the intensity of it, then theres got to be a moment when you think its the perfect one to tell her how you feel about her
Good Luck :)!!
Good advice mermaid. Now how would you feel if a guy you had a crush on in high school whom you have not seen for like 3 years rang your door bell and straight out told you he liked you?Quote:
Originally Posted by Mermaid
alright alright, so there are many rules that we must follow. luckily they are not in dating. rules, when you say the word rules, people don't really like to follow them. GUIDELINES, now there is a word that we can go by.
think of it this way..i f you will..f or a moment.. consider...
two people (opposite sex) are attracted to each and and eventually they make a baby. plain and simple but it works. now we tend to follow tradition because we also would like to see offsprings of our own. however in this dating game, (yes it's all a game) being young and uneducated, we are likely to follow in the footsteps of our fathers. you call them rules, i call them whatever works for me.
when you really think about it, it just comes down to one basic principle, you love me and i love you. poof out comes the baby then you die. now when you think of how simple it can be..try this. "HI, would you care to be the mother of my children?" alright so that won't work, but in reality, you shouldn't worry about the bullshit so much. your parents could care less to all those people that they have dating and those awkward moments ask getting to know someone. when it's all over, the outcome is what really matters.
raverboy
and what is this "outcome"? Holy crap thats depressing. What do you say to a person who doesnt want children?Quote:
Originally Posted by Illusional
Shame on you OV! You've got your own thread for this one... :sad2:Quote:
Originally Posted by Only-virgins