Wife about to cheat, what to do
I think my wife is getting close to having sex with a guywill be the first time she has ever been unfaithful in 20 years not sure whatto do.
I monitor her computer and phone so I see all this communication. Two monthsago after learning she has been talking, texting, emailing a guy for over 6 monthsthat she met in a bar and the communication is progressing to a point where Iwas concerned as totally inappropriate flirting and he keeps asking to meet andmore I told her I knew about this (saw a text on her phone and showed it toher) asked her stop if she valued our marriage, family etc. that I could notstay with her is she had an affair.
She promised to stopall communication took him off Facebook for a few weeks then kept doing itbehind my back kept lying saying she wasn't. Finally she met the guy for lunchthe other day and the communication is daily now with her saying stuff like "youtake my breath away"...I fear the worst is about to happen. I talked toher again in a subtle way about how much she and the family meant to me andthat I felt she need to focus on the family and do what's right and stop doingthings to hurt the family and was not specific about what I know so I can keepmonitoring her. But since I confronted her once already with proof (phone textmessage) I feel like it wont matter she will keep trying to see this guy to apoint where they start having sex.
She says she needs a backup plan (start a job be independent) because she does not trust me as I screwed uphad an affair 5 years ago so I get that but it seems her back up plan is reallya new guy. I amclean now it was a one time in 20 year screw up for me and I learned from my mistakeI dont want her to do the same we have kids it will kill them. Whats odd is sheis super nice to me, we have sex almost every day tells me she loves memeanwhile she is pursuing this guy on the side.
Not sure how to handle this I want her to figure out this iswrong and stop with this guy. If I learnshe starts having sex I do not think I can stay with her and will have to divorceher but thats the last thing I want.