He doesn't wash his hands after taking a $h!t..!

Ok, so don't read this if you have a mouth full of food. Or if you just ate.

My BF and I moved in together about 2 months ago, after dating for a year. I did not realize until living with him that he has this horrible habit of not washing his hands after taking a crap. His excuse is that he doesn't wipe his ass with his bare hands, so why should he need to wash them? He also doesn't wash at public restrooms, regardless of going number 1 or 2. He figures what's the point if he washes his hands, then touches the faucet to turn it off, then the door handle to pull it open, when all the other people that don't wash their hands (or don't wash them well) touch those same things. I said well most places have touch-free sensors for everything, and don't require you to pull open a door on your way out - it's either push out or a curvy hallway where you don't have to touch anything. His excuse then is, if you don't touch anything, why do you need to wash? Dick skin is clean, and still, he doesn't wipe his ass with his bare hands after crapping. He also doesn't wash after 'lightly handling' raw hamburger meat while grilling, and there are other examples I can't think of at the moment.

Now I don't wonder why I itch for days down there after some foreplay with his fingers... I mentioned that to him, and he just rolls his eyes like I'm being ridiculous.

I wonder if guys and gals have different takes on this? Do a lot of guys (and gals, for that matter) just not wash their hands after peeing or dropping ass? :surprised

I'll wash regardless if I got anything on my hands, it's a habit now and good for hygeuine.
I don't know why he wouldn't, just seems odd ;S
How often does he take a shower ?

He takes a shower every day, brushes his teeth sometimes TWICE daily, will wash the bed sheets ANY time he sees spots after we get it on, he wipes spots that he sees on the counters/sinks and he immediately has to put clutter away. Looking at him, he's clean and professional. He just never washes his hands. It grosses me out. He claims I'm gonna be one of those mothers that has their kids living in a bubble and later get sick all the time... I don't plan on that; I just don't want to kill my kids with a deadly bacterial or viral disease.

Your BF is freak

Ewwww, get away from him. U dont wanna catch SARS

I recently did an OH&S seminar on personal care (I work in community care). I avoid anti-bacterial products at home because I believe they are bad for our immune systems and the environment. They gave us anti bacterial hand wash so I raised the issue there. They said that we meet enough germs in every day life to boost our immune systems- and that hand washing with anti bacterial products when required won't be a problem.

I also learned that lack of hand washing is the cause of when we keep coming down with the same virus...we reinfect ourselves.

I guess to sum up what I'm trying to say, soap and water will not harm our immune systems because there are enough bugs around anyway. As for your guy, don't touch his phone or computer. Apparently they can have more germs on them than a toilet seat.

I am a clean freak. I wash my hands probably 20 times a day if not more. Every time I use the bathroom, before eating, after touching meat, after cleaning, after cuddling my dog for awhile etc. Its really important to regularly wash your hands. I also use sanitizer at work as I work with gold and money which are both filthy. He could very easily give you food poising if he is touching raw meat and then cooked meat without washing his hands. He could also give you yeast infections if there is bacteria on his fingers when he touches you.

My bf showers daily and brushes his teeth, always smells good etc and is a clean freak around the house but he doesn't wash his hands enough. In general, it doesn't bother me but before sex I ask him to as he could have been touching the dog beforehand or I worry about bacteria.

Men don't really have a clue about health and safety unless they have worked in a deli or kitchen or have studied HACCP etc Id say a lot of men don't wash their hands after using the bathroom.

I would just make sure he washes before touching you and if you don't trust him with the cooking-then you should do it or ask him to wash his hands after touching raw meat.

I'll add: the most common cause of yeast infections (vaginal thrush) is bacteria from the anus spreading to the vaginal area. It could be due to wearing a thong or wiping back to front instead of front to back etc Tell your bf if his hands are not clean when he touches you-he puts you at risk of getting infections

Good luck

I hate washing my hands. They clean anyway and what water does is just makes them dry but cream around the sinks ir real rarity. I would glady wash my hands if moisturizing werent a problem.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I hate washing my hands. They clean anyway and what water does is just makes them dry but cream around the sinks ir real rarity. I would glady wash my hands if moisturizing werent a problem.

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You can get a moisturizing hand wash and a hand moisturizer if your worried about dry skin. You could give someone food poisoning easily if your hands are not clean especially if you touch raw meat. it is covered in bacteria. Or if you cough or sneeze on your hands and then touch food you could get food poisoning. Study HACCP.

Again before you touch a girl, you should make sure your hands are clean. Or you could giver her infections

Id always wash my hands when Ive been to the bathroom but I don't much aside from that - I grew up on a farm, me and my siblings ate food straight ou the ground, drank milk straight from the ground, we were always in the mud and stuff - I never got sick, I think you just build up resistance - I'd never wash my hands after patting a dog or putting some oil in my car or anything like that!

Saying that I swim for a living so I spend a lot of my time in a pool and hence end up taking at least 2 showers a day minimum so I guess mbhands get pretty clean from that!

Exactly my point. If its not broken no need to fix it. But lol at drinking milk from the ground.

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Originally Posted by kbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Do a lot of guys (and gals, for that matter) just not wash their hands after peeing or dropping ass? :surprised

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Yes, and I know this because I am a nurse. A lot of people need to be reminded to wash their hands. Also, I agree with Basil about the anti-bacterial products causing more harm than good. Soap and water (plus moisturizer) is the way to go.

I hated clean hands when I was a bank teller. Dirty fingers gave me so much more grip when counting cash. And cash is really dirty, so it only took about 5 mins to build up the required amount of crud.

I only washed my hands after the toilet or before eating when I was a teller

Tell your bf that bacteria from feces can actually go through 10 layers of toilet paper. That's disgusting. I wouldn't let my bf come within 10 ft from me if he didn't wash after taking a dump. Seriously, disgusting.

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Exactly my point. If its not broken no need to fix it. But lol at drinking milk from the ground.

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Haha milk straight from the cow....even I wouldn't drink milk from the ground! :lol:

That's just gross. Wash your hands, people.

ewww

dump him for being disgusting!!!!!!!!

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Originally Posted by basilandthyme [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I hated clean hands when I was a bank teller. Dirty fingers gave me so much more grip when counting cash. And cash is really dirty

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Very true. After all, it's no telling where or what that cash has been in.


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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Very true. After all, it's no telling where or what that cash has been in.


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what's wrong with Sweaty stripper pussies?

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

what's wrong with Sweaty stripper pussies?

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OK....you've just made the butcher's cash takings seem much less gross

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Originally Posted by kbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Now I don't wonder why I itch for days down there after some foreplay with his fingers

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...are you getting yourself checked by a doctor? I mean, seriously, that's no joke

^^^^omg, that is disgusting. You're just as nasty for letting him play with your pussy.

That was a joke duh. Of course I don't think so. In strip clubs, that's just where people like to deposit the tips. From there I take mines straight to the bank. There's not shit wrong with mine. This one is good...:stuckup:

Not washing hands after going number two is a bit disgusting. You said that he's professional. Maybe printing out material from credible websites that prove some of what is being said here will help. As stated above, his refusal to wash his hands can make you sick. I would gently explain that he has to think about both of you now and reiterate how much it bothers you. If you are levelheaded and fact based with your approach, he might see the light.

Best of luck!

http://www.hardydiagnostics.com/articles/hand-washing.pdf

Btw keyboard have more bacteria on it than toilet seat.

yes which is why you should wash your hands lol

LMAO at this. Never taught bathroom hygiene? I know guys who don't wash hands after takin a piss but never after taking a shit.
Sounds like laziness to me.

Even after taking a piss you should still wash your hands.. I remember watching something where they put a boll of peanuts on a bar and by the end of the night-they found loads of different traces of urine from different people. It is disgusting.

Im one of those guys who wash hands before taking a piss.

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Originally Posted by pcmaster [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Im one of those guys who wash hands before taking a piss.

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Cleanliness is next to Godliness?

I only do before handling food and only because drilled into us as kids -- wash hands before you eat or touch food.

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Originally Posted by kbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Ok, so don't read this if you have a mouth full of food. Or if you just ate.

My BF and I moved in together about 2 months ago, after dating for a year. I did not realize until living with him that he has this horrible habit of not washing his hands after taking a crap. His excuse is that he doesn't wipe his ass with his bare hands, so why should he need to wash them? He also doesn't wash at public restrooms, regardless of going number 1 or 2. He figures what's the point if he washes his hands, then touches the faucet to turn it off, then the door handle to pull it open, when all the other people that don't wash their hands (or don't wash them well) touch those same things. I said well most places have touch-free sensors for everything, and don't require you to pull open a door on your way out - it's either push out or a curvy hallway where you don't have to touch anything. His excuse then is, if you don't touch anything, why do you need to wash? Dick skin is clean, and still, he doesn't wipe his ass with his bare hands after crapping. He also doesn't wash after 'lightly handling' raw hamburger meat while grilling, and there are other examples I can't think of at the moment.

Now I don't wonder why I itch for days down there after some foreplay with his fingers... I mentioned that to him, and he just rolls his eyes like I'm being ridiculous.

I wonder if guys and gals have different takes on this? Do a lot of guys (and gals, for that matter) just not wash their hands after peeing or dropping ass? :surprised

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Washing your hands after #1 or #2 is a habit, nothing else. You don't really make a conscious decision to wash your hands after going, it just happens. So what you need to do is to REQUIRE him to wash his hands and then remind him every time. "Did you wash your hands?". Eventually it becomes a habit and the problem is fixed.

If he's not flexible enough to bend to this little request of yours, then you should point out how unfair that is to the relationship.

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Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Men don't really have a clue about health and safety unless they have worked in a deli or kitchen or have studied HACCP etc Id say a lot of men don't wash their hands after using the bathroom.

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Sexist pig.

I dated a guy with poor hygiene once. It got progressively worse throughout the years. He's not going to change.

I, too, would get itchy down there after he would finger me or even after we would have sex because he didn't shower regularly. Figures, he was great in bed. It started skeeving me out more and more to the point where I didn't want to be intimate with him unless I forced him to take a shower. (Yes, forced)

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Sexist pig.

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Hah, this is kind of like calling a black person a "racist asshole" if they said something like "white people are dumb".

Anyway, I think most people (not just men) don't know much about hygiene, in detail. I also think that the vast majority of women (at least where I'm from) wash their hands after using the toilet, and that a lot of men don't.

And some are dumb.................now how was that relevant?

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Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

how was that relevant?

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It wasn't, I was just replying to HIA's statement. My point is that calling a woman a "sexist pig" is kind of like calling a black person a "racist asshole". Sure it may be accurate in some cases, but it doesn't come close to the meaning those words have when aimed at men or white persons, because of the society we (westerners) live in (in which men and white persons are generally privileged).

I'm pretty sure HIA was just light-heartedly pointing out that both males and females sometimes erroneously resort to generalizations, with statements such as "men are..." or "women are...".

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Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

It wasn't, I was just replying to HIA's statement. My point is that calling a woman a "sexist pig" is kind of like calling a black person a "racist asshole". Sure it may be accurate in some cases, but it doesn't come close to the meaning those words have when aimed at men or white persons, because of the society we (westerners) live in (in which men and white persons are generally privileged).

I'm pretty sure HIA was just light-heartedly pointing out that both males and females sometimes erroneously resort to generalizations, with statements such as "men are..." or "women are...".

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Why? You think because you're female, that your sexist comments and notions magically don't count?

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Why? You think because you're female, that your sexist comments and notions magically don't count?

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If a woman says something that is an inaccurate generalization regarding "men" (personally, I tend to disregard any statement that begins with "men/women are..." because obviously every single person is different), it is of course an inaccurate generalization that deserves to be corrected. However, it does not lay its foundations on centuries of misogynistic patriarchal culture - it is simply a misconception that in no real way harms men as a whole. Which is why calling a man a "sexist pig" is very much different from calling a woman the same thing (and it's the same kind of difference between calling a white person a "racist asshole" and calling a black person the same thing).

It's one thing if the people with power (or the people who were in power until a very recent time) insult the people they have power on with generalizations and degrading comments, it's another thing if the people without power do the same thing to the people with power. They are both wrong, but it's just... different.

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Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If a woman says something that is an inaccurate generalization regarding "men" (personally, I tend to disregard any statement that begins with "men/women are..." because obviously every single person is different), it is of course an inaccurate generalization that deserves to be corrected. However, it does not lay its foundations on centuries of misogynistic patriarchal culture - it is simply a misconception that in no real way harms men as a whole. Which is why calling a man a "sexist pig" is very much different from calling a woman the same thing (and it's the same kind of difference between calling a white person a "racist asshole" and calling a black person the same thing).

It's one thing if the people with power (or the people who were in power until a very recent time) insult the people they have power on with generalizations and degrading comments, it's another thing if the people without power do the same thing to the people with power. They are both wrong, but it's just... different.

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No, that's just an example of your personal double standard. Thank you. Now I know.

It would be really nice if we could all ignore the fact that women are, even today, not as powerful as men are in society. Unfortunately yes, there is a double standard and ignoring it would do no good - it would actually make things worse. We need to recognize the problem in order to be able to solve it.