Does anyone intentionally play dumb when someone is flirting with them?

You may or may not have seen me previous thread about a guy I had been seeing. What is important is that the end result is that I am single and pretty much every single person in the general circle of people I spend time with knows it.

So last night I went out with a few friends and since its not really a secret I am kinda easy (just being honest) a had a lot of people flirting with me. I am just wondering if anyone else just plays dumb and acts like they don't understand what the guy is trying to do even though it is pretty much clear as day?

It al depends on my mood, who it is, if I like him or not,etc

I don't have to act. Playing dumb comes naturally to me when we talk about flirting.

I'll be honest .... guys flirt and I really don't know it. My friend is always pointing things out to me ... after the fact.

Sometimes I genuinely are dumb as it can be hard to tell sometimes if someone is just being friendly or if they are flirting so I guess I kinda play dumb out of habit even when I know they are acgtually flirting. But it does also depend on whether I like them or not or if I do like them, if my friends are around and are going to tease me about it, I might just play dumb, I like to keep it a secret when I like someone also it depends on my situation or how I read the situation. If I am seeing someone or someone else I like is around or my friends are around who are also friends with someone I fancy or if I do like them but don't want them to get the wrong idea, like do they think I will sleep with them just cos I'm flirting etc. etc. depends on a lot of things but yes, sometimes I do play dumb but I do enjoy a bit of flirting.

Everybody plays dumb...it's part of the game...

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Originally Posted by this.is.me [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Does anyone intentionally play dumb when someone is flirting with them?

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Girls do it all the time. Even when the flirting is obvious.
I can't say about other guys, but I'd never play dumb intentionally.

I can honestly say this is one of the most annoying things in the world, to me personally at least. If you're genuinely missing an advance, that's totally fine. But when people intentionally act dumb or play hard to get, it drives me insane.

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Originally Posted by Atlas [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Everybody plays dumb...it's part of the game...

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No they don't. At least, I certainly don't. Why would I want to?

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Originally Posted by tedjones14 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I can honestly say this is one of the most annoying things in the world, to me personally at least. If you're genuinely missing an advance, that's totally fine. But when people intentionally act dumb or play hard to get, it drives me insane.

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Totally agree with you!

I usually do and I'm a guy, unless Im really interested.

No, I'm legitimately confused and ignorant when guys flirt with me. If they aren't obvious with it, I just think they're being friendly.

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Originally Posted by Fetus Brigade [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No, I'm legitimately confused and ignorant when guys flirt with me.

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How do you know that guys flirt with you if you're legitimately ignorant?

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Originally Posted by this.is.me [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

You may or may not have seen me previous thread about a guy I had been seeing. What is important is that the end result is that I am single and pretty much every single person in the general circle of people I spend time with knows it.

So last night I went out with a few friends and since its not really a secret I am kinda easy (just being honest) a had a lot of people flirting with me. I am just wondering if anyone else just plays dumb and acts like they don't understand what the guy is trying to do even though it is pretty much clear as day?

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What exactly do you mean by "playing dumb"? People flirt all the time - usually it's harmless and not a way to get into someone's pants.

So, people just go with it. Is that what you're talking about?

Unless the person flirting with me is someone I'm interested in, I tend to ignore flirting. I like to communicate on friendly terms without the pointless and often annoying flirting going on.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

No they don't. At least, I certainly don't. Why would I want to?

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Bingo. I don't like to play games. Clear communication gets you what you want.

Though to be honest I have been told by my wife and other people that since we've gotten together, I am totally oblivious to other women. Wife and I went to a charity event the other night and she told me that the three Hooters gals were checking me out... and I didn't notice. Normally I'd be flattered if three pretty young ladies half my age were giving me the once-over, but I didn't notice, which is weird for me.

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Originally Posted by bpem [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Unless the person flirting with me is someone I'm interested in, I tend to ignore flirting. I like to communicate on friendly terms without the pointless and often annoying flirting going on.

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If you like to communicate on friendly terms without the flirting which you find annoying, why do you ignore it? Why don't you tell them that you're not interested so they could give up with their pointless flirting?

Flirting was delightful in my youth. It was acceptable comraderie even among happily marrieds, in light forms. It is a social art of long standing, rarely considered truthful in any form, and 'playing dumb' is usually intended to either deflect unwanted advances (in leiu of just cutting them dead) or pretend innocence. A third option is to tease AKA 'driving the flirtee insane'. All are time honoured ruses that most employ at some time in life. I used to consider that a mature woman would never stoop to playing dumb, because she would never be in such a situation. However, when one hits 60 and single again it is sometimes essential, 'dirty old men' and even 'cougar hunters' add a whole new dimension! Don't worry OP, it is still true that 'all is fair' in the game of lovel.