She's way too tight...

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12-08-10, 01:34 AM
veggies

She's way too tight...

Me and my girlfriend have started trying to have sex. We're both 18. She's way too tight. I fingered her to loosen her up and it doesn't work. 1 finger is ok with her, 2 is pushing it she says it's uncomfortable. She gets really wet and slippery but nothing past my head will go in. I rub her clit and she loves that, she gets incredibly wet fast.

She says I'm too big and that the head is really stretching her and hurting her.

I tried going REALLY slow and kissing her to relax her and just thrusting at a minimal level to get some more lube so it would go in smoother but it doesn't work. After my head it just won't go in, no matter how wet she is.

If just the head goes in, am i still a virgin?

I'm thinking of buying some lube to help us with this.

Any other suggestions?
12-08-10, 01:39 AM
girl68

If 2 fingers hurt her you'd better stop trying to stuff your dick in her. First keep working on the fingering.
12-08-10, 01:59 AM
Gigabitch

I think she's just nervous. Those things were designed to push an entire baby out of, so I doubt she's physically incapable of accommodating a penis. Just do like girl68 says and stick to the fingering for now. Have you gone down on her?
12-08-10, 03:28 AM
doppelgaenger

If she's a virgin, it's going to hurt a lot the first few times. That's pretty normal. It helps if you give a lot of oral before you try to stuff your dick in there.
12-08-10, 04:53 AM
veggies

She doesn't like me going down there on her.
12-08-10, 04:58 AM
Raze

There are many other things you can do.

1) Finger her (you've already done that obviously)
2) Ask her if she has any toys (vibrators and/or dildos). I'm sure she has a vibrator. Then ask her if you can use one her toys on her. I'm sure she will accept your offer.
3) Ask her about her fantasies (some fantasies don't have to be about vaginal sex)

Also, there are things you can do while making out with her that are very pleasurable.
1) Kiss her neck
2) Play with ear lobes with your teeth
3) Kiss her stomach
4) Suck on her fingers

I recommend just finding out what she likes and build up to sex rather than just doing sex from the start.
12-08-10, 05:11 AM
VincenzoG91

She might relax after having a drink or two. Or a toke or two.
12-08-10, 05:50 AM
dewilliams2

Or you could just yell "surprise" and cram it all in...probably not gonna get you a lot more sex but hey your in.
12-08-10, 08:23 AM
qwertz

I vote get her drunk :P
12-08-10, 11:11 AM
veggies

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Originally Posted by Raze [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

There are many other things you can do.

1) Finger her (you've already done that obviously)
2) Ask her if she has any toys (vibrators and/or dildos). I'm sure she has a vibrator. Then ask her if you can use one her toys on her. I'm sure she will accept your offer.
3) Ask her about her fantasies (some fantasies don't have to be about vaginal sex)

Also, there are things you can do while making out with her that are very pleasurable.
1) Kiss her neck
2) Play with ear lobes with your teeth
3) Kiss her stomach
4) Suck on her fingers

I recommend just finding out what she likes and build up to sex rather than just doing sex from the start.

I do all that. Except the vibrator thing. She doesn't have one.
12-08-10, 11:15 AM
IndiReloaded

Have you given her an orgasm with your fingers? That will relax her.
12-08-10, 06:10 PM
kitkitkitty

she's a virgin, nervous as hell and probably expecting it to hurt a lot. it's all about the relaxing. you could perhaps start the night by doing to a bar, going for a drink [or 2] then going home, have loads of foreplay and she should be relaxed. tell her that you're not going to have sex at the end or she may be worrying about it the whole time. just get her ridiculously turned on and in the moment.
12-08-10, 07:36 PM
Junket

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Originally Posted by dewilliams2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Or you could just yell "surprise" and cram it all in...probably not gonna get you a lot more sex but hey your in.

Motherf*cker, my coffee almost went from mouth to keyboard.
12-08-10, 07:54 PM
dewilliams2

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Motherf*cker, my coffee almost went from mouth to keyboard.

Glad you liked my advice.

Actually I had this very problem last night and the woman I am with isn't a virgin. Just really tight. She doesn't complain about it hurting but I can't seem to get more than a finger in her to start with but once I give her oral and play with her nipples and bite her neck...well I'm in....and it feels amazing. I've never been with a woman as tight as her.
12-08-10, 10:36 PM
Gigabitch

This girl is not ready for sex.
13-08-10, 04:42 AM
veggies

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Have you given her an orgasm with your fingers? That will relax her.

Yep. Rubbing the clit works wonders on her.

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Originally Posted by kitkitkitty [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

she's a virgin, nervous as hell and probably expecting it to hurt a lot. it's all about the relaxing. you could perhaps start the night by doing to a bar, going for a drink [or 2] then going home, have loads of foreplay and she should be relaxed. tell her that you're not going to have sex at the end or she may be worrying about it the whole time. just get her ridiculously turned on and in the moment.

Not a virgin. Just hasn't done it in years.

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Originally Posted by dewilliams2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Glad you liked my advice.

Actually I had this very problem last night and the woman I am with isn't a virgin. Just really tight. She doesn't complain about it hurting but I can't seem to get more than a finger in her to start with but once I give her oral and play with her nipples and bite her neck...well I'm in....and it feels amazing. I've never been with a woman as tight as her.

My girl doesn't like oral.
13-08-10, 04:48 AM
Raze

I can't believe she doesn't like oral. I don't believe it....
13-08-10, 04:53 AM
Gigabitch

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Originally Posted by Raze [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I can't believe she doesn't like oral. I don't believe it....

Oh, she's probably ashamed of her own vag. I'm going to guess she went to Catholic school.
13-08-10, 06:29 AM
doppelgaenger

I had an ex that didn't like oral either. Some girls are just like that I guess.
13-08-10, 10:06 PM
Raze

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Oh, she's probably ashamed of her own vag. I'm going to guess she went to Catholic school.

Sacred temple?
13-08-10, 10:12 PM
hurt_confuzd

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Originally Posted by doppelgaenger [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I had an ex that didn't like oral either. Some girls are just like that I guess.

Coincidentally, you happened to the one they were usually dating.
13-08-10, 10:17 PM
Raze

All girls like oral... You must either be bad at it or have the face of a fish.
13-08-10, 10:47 PM
kitkitkitty

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Originally Posted by Raze [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

All girls like oral... You must either be bad at it or have the face of a fish.

she probably would but she's never experienced it before. she doesn't seem 100% ready for all of this.
13-08-10, 10:51 PM
Raze

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Originally Posted by kitkitkitty [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

she probably would but she's never experienced it before. she doesn't seem 100% ready for all of this.

I can understand that. Thanks, kit.
14-08-10, 08:44 AM
vashti

Orgasms cause the vaginal muscles to loosen.

My guess is that she isn't having orgasms, and perhaps she doesn't even realize it.

Bad idea on the toys - virgin girls who aren't comfortable with a penis certainly aren't going to be comfortable with accessories.
15-08-10, 12:58 AM
Bella82

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Originally Posted by dewilliams2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Or you could just yell "surprise" and cram it all in...probably not gonna get you a lot more sex but hey your in.

LOL! Have you tried this tactic before?!
15-08-10, 02:33 AM
dewilliams2

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Originally Posted by Bella82 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

LOL! Have you tried this tactic before?!

No...I'd like to be asked to do it again.

Although with my current gf she is just really tight, I gave her oral then got on her, pinched a nipple, bit her neck, and put it in quick....she didn't seem to mind that...but I didn't yell surprise. But distracting her did seem to help.
15-08-10, 10:45 PM
boopei

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I do all that. Except the vibrator thing. She doesn't have one.

When I was a virgin, toys helped me. More of the vibration on the clit and things like that, versus actual insertion. I think it may help but that's just me. :)
24-08-10, 07:16 PM
Niccitine

Has she seen a gynaecologist there's a chance it could be a physiological problem but it's more likely that she's very nervous and needs to go VERY slowly.. So stop with the sex for now.. if you try too soon neither of you will enjoy it half as much as you could. I agree with Raze and Kitkitkitty be slow and persistent and DO NOT make her feel bad that she's struggling that can make the situation worse. I had the same problem as her and it's worth getting checked out by a gynae. just to make sure that she doesn't have an abnormally small cervix. If it's nerves then you need to help her relax, don't push this on her, you might just land up hurting both of you.
24-08-10, 07:18 PM
Niccitine

AND BY HER A TOY! a very slimline one... i'd suggest the rampant rabbit elite. It's narrow but very pleasurable, with both internal and clit stimulation... this will also help gradually stretch her.