...So yeah. A girl expressed interest on OKCupid but her profile lists pretty much all her likes so I can't think of what to ask. Help?
...So yeah. A girl expressed interest on OKCupid but her profile lists pretty much all her likes so I can't think of what to ask. Help?
How did she express interest? Sometimes/Most times what someone says can easily be responded to. You don't necessarily have to include something in her profile with that first response.
Through a rating, not a message...
I'd respond that you were impressed with how much she shared about herself. Then I'd ask, "Is there anything you left out?" Ann
That's a pretty good one. However, I worry about witty messages like that going awry, as in, they misinterpret it..
sorry.. does that mean like she rated you high on the 1 to 10 list?Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Either 4 or 5 stars out of 5, yes.
Why does this happen to be witty. If I say to you, "YoungCosmo, is there anything you are leaving out?" is that witty? Really? You could also add that you'd like to know her better than what she posted for the public to see. Is that witty????? Ann
No. In your second post, you didn't even show any wit whatsoever nor understanding of your own post. Using the example you set before...it is impossible to even explain. I don't even understand how you don't understand. It's baffling to me. It could easily go very wrong if used. One thing I am sure of is most girls get messages that say things along the lines of "Hey, I like _____, too. What made you get into it?"; all generic, rote things that require similarly rote answers. However, with your example, that requires real thought and also the ability to comprehend the question correctly, since the meaning is not inherently obvious.
"Hey (insert name here). Thank you for putting a smile on my face this morning." Then just ask her about how she got into Snail Racing (or whatever the hell she's into).
then end with a
"Talk to you soon"
(insert your screen name here) or "Cos" if you want to give her your real name right away.
That's so amazing. I wish I could think of something like that. Now a problem with that is specifically this girl's profile: it says her LIKES but not necessarily her interests so I can't ask how she got into something..
then change it up to fit. Gosh, you're not stupid so why do you act that way when it comes to starting a simple online convo?
"You have a lot of likes. I like Snail Racing myself but it's bloody hard getting the saddle on the little guy." *big grin*
.. just tell her what you like or that you'd like to learn to do something that she likes doing or whatever.
To add: Don't think about it so much and just go with it. Its not a tragedy if she doesn't respond.. it really isn't. :)
Everything in life is way easier than starting a conversation with a girl. That is literally one of the most formidable first world tasks. And the problem is when guys like me have so few things come up like this; blowing a chance means having to wait a very long time until another comes up whereas lots of guys meet a new girl every week!
Oh well, since there was nothing to work with, I gave up on her.
Awesome, another girl rated me highly!..which is perfect timing. Now I can stress over this new girl. And a similar problem appears yet again, this time she has TOO little written.
It took 20 minutes and numerous re-writes and even doubts that I could send a message, but I did. Probably sucked horrifically..
Well, she read it and disregarded it. Awesome possum..And now, **** this horse shit! I am going to copy-and-paste from hereonout. My original "material" is laughable and really pathetic; never trying to use my own words again.
The key is to just keep doing SOMETHING. Many people have told you that its a numbers game so keep at it. I'll also suggest that you don't pay too much attention to this rating system. Something tells me that the computer robot is rating and the members are seldom even participating in such a thing. If the members are participating then I tend to think that the men would be using it far more then the women would be.
You have to learn how to talk to people from what they've given you. I can't think of a more safer or better way to do it then to read a profile and strike up a conversation based on what's already been said.
Have you gotten some new photos taken for your profile yet? Did you take down the one with the giant blue glasses? What have you done to positively affect your response rate?
I have found a nice PUA line..got me a response.
^^^ Awesome. Now don't pin all your hopes and expectations on this. Keep sending them emails out to everyone who isn't appearing to be BPD or inbred until you've at least secured a date or two with one of them.
In the meantime, former friend and I have arranged Thursday as a meeting. I almost had something with a girl at a restaurant last night but I had one beer too many or one beer too few...because I literally could not think of something to say. The daring was there, but the words didn't appear. I would've been been feeling confident enough to just say something small and polite as a way to get the ball rolling..
Oh, you social butterfly, you. :D
Lol. What's a social butterfly? Is it bad?
It's a good thing. Its someone who has lots of engagments to go to and people to see, things to do.
I found this for you.. another educational read for you to take a gander at.
http://www.wikihow.com/Become-a-Social-Butterfly
Thanks. Reading it now. Because I am sick of being a loser and not experiencing life, I've decided to go all out this summer, starting with catching a bus to Vegas in two weeks. Meeting a pal but staying in a hotel alone. I did that once before and it is the loneliest thing I can remember doing.
Cool! You should visit The Chicken Ranch when you're there. ;o)
Lol...not a bad idea. Is it even close to the Strip?...not that I would be looking. A friend is interested; yeah, a friend.
Well, tell your uhm, friend that I'm not sure how far away but a quick google search will probably give you an idea. ;)
It's sadly 60 miles west of Vegas... :( I need sex, badly. Keep thinking about this time in high school where a girl wanted to set up a dalliance which I found out through a good friend of ours...Man. I must've blown all my chances in life.
Well, I can't find Indi's thread for me to practice flirting and whatnot so I'll just post here:
A) Is it a sign of incompatibility when responding to a girl feels like a lot of pressure?
B) What are the main dances 21-25 year old dance at clubs? I'm not asking about anything esoteric, like Kromat's various styles of dance but things that are common in my demographic?
C) Is "dirty dancing" a bad idea to learn for a guy who's never had sex? Is it almost terrain exclusively for those who have been attractive enough to have sex?
A) Is it a sign of incompatibility when responding to a girl feels like a lot of pressure?
No. The pressure you feel is because you're not trusting yourself and are worried about making a mistake.
B) What are the main dances 21-25 year old dance at clubs? I'm not asking about anything esoteric, like Kromat's various styles of dance but things that are common in my demographic?
It's been a couple of years since I was dancing with people your age. But if the US is like here in Aust, there are no formal dance styles. You just do what feels right to the music. Here's an idea - go to a club without the intention of picking up a girl and just observe. Watch the dancing and interaction. And check out what the successful guys are wearing and their hairstyles.
C) Is "dirty dancing" a bad idea to learn for a guy who's never had sex? Is it almost terrain exclusively for those who have been attractive enough to have sex?
I think it's a good idea to master B) before you start thinking about C). And I can't see the relevance between grinding on the dance floor and never having had sex.
Have you thought of buying an escort or a whore? Looking at the amount of time and effort that you are investing if I was you, I would just pay someone. It's nothing to be ashamed of that's what its there for, it might even end up being cheaper.
Ya, a couple of us have suggested that to him already.. After thinking on it though, it would, I think be just too easy and convenient and I'd be concerned that he's end up doing sweet bugger all to actually socialize or find himself in a relationship of mutality. So nah!Quote:
Originally Posted by stev123 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Maybe He'd be better off buying into a membership with David D'Angelo or Mistry... at least then he'd be gleening some confidence in self. JMNSHO.
All right, I don't wanna lose this one because we're about to be 13 messages in, which is the furthest I've gotten. I wanna ask about possibly getting her number. Is 6 messages from her, having generally gone over a few key topics in those (pets, school, nerdy stuff), a good time? Or should I wait a few more? If time is important, it has been 3 days since I initiated the conversation.
Also, what's the best way to ask for her number?
I'd like to meet you in person. What's your number?
Interesting. Isn't that going a bit too fast? I have no clue, honestly. My impression was talk on the phone first.
It depends on the girl. To me, that line would intimidate me if I was talking to a stranger who I've only been chatting with over the internet for a few back and forths... so, you have to be able to read her and how "skittish" (for lack of a better word) or not she seems.
I would prefer that the guy give me his number and asked me to call him when I was ready. *shrugs* Depends I suppose in how comfortable he made me feel.
How about something like "I see we have a lot in common and I enjoy conversing with you. Can I have your number and give you a call? I'd love to hear your voice"?
^^^ that sound good. Non threatening, not demanding. *two thumbs up*
Lol not sure if srs
Yes, much "SARs", bro. Gotta watch out for that bird influenza.