Girlfriend doesn't like receiving oral

My girlfriend likes giving me oral but hates it when I try to return the favor.

She flat out HATES it.

I don't know why, she wont tell me why besides "it tickles".....isn't that kind of the point?

I mean I've tried talking to her about it then she says ok and as soon as I go lower she wants me to come back up or she locks her thighs together.

It kinda sucks cause I wanna eat her out but she's so damn protective of my face going down there. I just don't get it.

What can I do or say to make her be more open to the idea.

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Sorry.

Try suggesting a 69, sucking you off might distract her from her issue, then you get a chance to show her how good it can be.

You may suck at it. She may fear she smells. She may fear you hate it. She has alwasy been taught her vag is disgusting and can't possibly believe you when you say you like it. She thinks you're joking.

I wouldn't take "it tickles" as an answer. I'd ask for more. Why? You nervous?

If she is a teen then ya sometimes some sex acts seem revolting or makes them uncomfortable. In time as she gets more sexually mature she will eventually enjoy it. If she flat out refuses don't force her. If this is a deal breaker in your relationship then that means you are not sexually compatible and should seek out a apartner that enjoys oral.

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Originally Posted by booptiboo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My girlfriend likes giving me oral but hates it when I try to return the favor.

She flat out HATES it.

I don't know why, she wont tell me why besides "it tickles".....isn't that kind of the point?

I mean I've tried talking to her about it then she says ok and as soon as I go lower she wants me to come back up or she locks her thighs together.

It kinda sucks cause I wanna eat her out but she's so damn protective of my face going down there. I just don't get it.

What can I do or say to make her be more open to the idea.

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Something is wrong with her vagina.
She could have huge meat flaps or? Some other underlying issue with it.

You don't have to "get it" either understand and respect it or?
Get a chick who digs it. If she doesn't even want to try: this is especially telling.

It could remind her of an ex or sexual abuse prior.

From all the porn I've watched, I've never seen an ugly vagina; Well, maybe once or twice

Take it from me, a girl who absolutely HATES having a man perform oral on her, but it's totally utterly DOWN with the idea of doing it to her partner, it's not you. Perhaps take it for her word, and BELIEVE her when she says it's uncomfortable.
It doesn't mean she doesn't trust you, it just doesn't feel good. You know, that is possible in sex.
If you can't understand that, and respect that it's uncomfortable for her, then YOU have the problem and you should do what's best for you.

She is self-conscious about her body. I used to be VERY self conscious about the way I looked/smelled/tasted there, but my bf at the time told me he gets primitive urges and crap when he smells pussy and loves this and that blah. So Maybe if you talk about (same time as playing with/ touching her) how much it turns you on to play with her body and the taste and all that jazz then she'll slowly warm up to liking it.

It's all a matter of personal preference. She may feel that it seems dirty to explicit for what she wants. Best thing to do is get her get her turned on, kiss her neck, chest, tummy etc then ask her if you try it once and if she don't like it, never again. Make sure if you say that it is never again. Best of luck. :)

She's probably uncomfortable with having your head down there because of a host of reasons. Tell her you love her -all of her- and that she should relax because you find her irresistible.

its kinda intimate so i guess either shes not comfortable with it, or perhaps it really does tickle. alcohol, the answer to all lifes problems. get a few vodka cokes in her, lower her inhibitions then bam ... move in for the kill :)

disclaimer: SLIGHTLY lower her inhibitions. dont get her so ****ed of her tits she doesn't know what shes doing and you end up doing something shes gonna hate you for and verge on oral rape ... if there is such a thing

This is not uncommon. My ex-wife liked it some of the time, but was usually too tickled and I get pissed. My girlfriends in college all LOVED it so I know I'm a pro at it. My fiancee loves it, but she really prefers my cock inside of her. I think everyone is different, and for some girls, it's way too sensitive down there. A girl hating it would be like a guy hating a BJ, which is also common....kinda.

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Originally Posted by eonbar [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

its kinda intimate so i guess either shes not comfortable with it, or perhaps it really does tickle. alcohol, the answer to all lifes problems.

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Reminds me of the first shot of the night when I used to go to the bar all the time:

We'd toast the first shot to: "Alcohol, The Cause of and Solution to all of Life Problems!"


However to answer the OP, sounds as if she is young.

Make sure she knows its something you love doing and something you crave from her.

Communicate how good it makes you feel to make her feel good.

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Originally Posted by Kaius [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

A girl hating it would be like a guy hating a BJ, which is also common....kinda.

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Then he's got issues. He could be gay?

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Originally Posted by DoesntMatter [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

From all the porn I've watched, I've never seen an ugly vagina; Well, maybe once or twice

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I've seen ugly ones. trust me, they are out there. Thank god for clothing.

There are a lot of funny words for vagina. Roast beef curtains and meat wallet in particular give off some arousing imagery.

^ my first bf called a chicks vagina during her period a bloody axe wound, lol

..... Aaaaaaaaaaaaand, that's not a guy I would want to date.

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Originally Posted by SelflessnHumble [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

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Then he's got issues. He could be gay?

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I knew a guy who was like that!
Not only did he think it was dirty, but he also found it demeaning to women.

I am 24 years old and lost my virginity at the age of 14. I wasn't comfortable having a guy go down on me until I was 20-21. And to be honest the reason was all sorts, I thought what if it smells and I dont know it, what if he doesnt like the way it looks, what if it tastes funny, what if I am not like other girls, etc. Just be patient with her. I would suggest giving her a full body massage and get her relaxed. Show her that you love every inch of her body. Don't ever just go straight for it. That will make a girl close her legs fast, especially if it is her first time. Maybe try taking a shower or bath together and get her then. That's how it happened with me.

There's no telling why she doesn't want you to go down on her. She is probably not going to tell you the true reason either because it may be embarrassing for her.

I hope this helps.

Yeah, some women just don't like it. You could always tease her by just licking the inside of her thighs and then when switch from one thigh to the other, just kiss her flower just to let her know that you are thinking of it. Eventually, she might relax and let you try again.

If I had a choice, I would dump a girl if she didn't like it.

Yeah, if you had a choice... If any guy has a choice in these matters. Fact is that we have to find a place where both partners are happy. Unlike all the porn you might have watched, it ain't about you...it about both of you. And, sex is the least satisfying thing when you are doing it just for your pleasure. In fact, I'd say that sex ranks well down the list on what I want. I'm more satisfied when my gf gives me a hug and I can feel that she just needs my support and vice versa...just smelling her her hair at that moment does wonders. And, I was more turned on when she was sitting naked on my clothed lap, caressing me and talking about life.

If you are going dump a girl just because you want to lick her genitals then you really should consider getting a fleshlight and lock yourself in a dark room.

OMG fleshlights are the sexiest toy. I could get off watching my bf play with one or a video of a guy on the internet playing with one ANYTIME

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Originally Posted by CAM [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

If you are going dump a girl just because you want to lick her genitals then you really should consider getting a fleshlight and lock yourself in a dark room.

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I doubt that licking a fleshlight is the same. Even if it enjoys it.
I wouldn't expect all people to have the same view on this matter since, it just happens to be part of my favorite fantasy, which makes it very much a personal opinion. In general though, I believe that everyone who have a choice should strive to be with someone who enjoys the same things in bed.

Yeah, obviously compatibility. How about the compatibility that both people like to have sex? Enough or does it have to a liking of the exact same positions? Example: one of my ex-gfs hated doggie style. The last gf liked it. The common denominator was that they were both with me and I liked them.

Fleshlights...they are REAL competition to the female vagina. Try it once and the next time you have sex with the real thing you are thinking, "Wow, I wish I was with the fleshlight instead; particularly true when in a hurry and no time for the "post-coital cuddle." Also, the fleshlight never has an STI, never has its period, and never gets pregnant. Old days: if you were horny, you had to gin up a belief that you really liked the woman and that sex involved every bit of "her." Post-fleshlight world: horny moment? You know what you need, you get what you need. It doesn't involve "her" It just involves "it." I think that men growing up in the world of fleshlights are more likely to have honest relationships...honest with themselves and with their prospective partner. It won't be the hormones running the show. Well, not as much, at least. The guy that invented the damned thing should get the Presidential Medal of Freedom...freedom from one's bodily fluids and freedom to make good choices. Really, if I were president, he's be the first guy to receive a medal.

...and if you want a different model, it isn't at all rude or disrespectful to throw it away and buy a new one. No need to say, "It's not you, its me." No need to be yelled at, screamed at, etc. No hateful looks from her friends. Simply get online, whip out the credit card and voila...new model in brown box arrives at doorstep, brought by a smiling unknowing UPS driver. No first meetings and wondering if it was all worthwhile... Just unwrap, unzip, and happiness is only moments away. And then, a quick clean up and back to work, where you know you are happy and probably much more productive, too.

Of course, the real thing is out there and now...now, it is reserved for the discerning man, the man who is now unclouded and rational and is looking for that type of lady who will be his mate, his friend, his companion. The poor coffeehouses and restaurants...the fleshlight has likely taken away billions of dollars worth of business. Perhaps the economic downturn is really a fleshlight induced phenomenon? A thought.

I think that all-male college dorms should give a fleshlight to every resident. Having lived in residence halls for several years...god knows that peace and quiet would have reigned supreme. Far fewer drunken hours. The rooms...carpets and mattresses...would not have smelled like decades old spunk shots and that particular smell of porno magazine paper. I'm willing to bet (metaphorically) that male college students' grades would go up significantly if this policy were instituted.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I've seen ugly ones. trust me, they are out there. Thank god for clothing.

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...and thank god for alcohol.

I dont really like receiving oral because im worried i will cum in the guys face unexpectedly lol, and guys generally are not very good down there, dont really know what theyre doing. They can be too rough and the vagina is so sensitive that its hard to relax and not tense up when theyre down there. so those could be reasons why she doesnt like it.. still seems weird to me to refuse it.

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Originally Posted by cheeky&sexy [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I dont really like receiving oral because im worried i will cum in the guys face unexpectedly lol, and guys generally are not very good down there, dont really know what theyre doing. They can be too rough and the vagina is so sensitive that its hard to relax and not tense up when theyre down there. so those could be reasons why she doesnt like it.. still seems weird to me to refuse it.

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So tell him what you like. Men don't have vagina's so we rely on you to let us know what you like. Especially when it comes to oral because every woman has different preferences. You can be subtle, we can go by trial-and-error based on the noises you're making (or not making) or you can just come out and say what you want.

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Originally Posted by booptiboo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I don't know why, she wont tell me why besides "it tickles".....isn't that kind of the point?

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Try shaving your beard. =P

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Originally Posted by Looq [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So tell him what you like. Men don't have vagina's so we rely on you to let us know what you like. Especially when it comes to oral because every woman has different preferences. You can be subtle, we can go by trial-and-error based on the noises you're making (or not making) or you can just come out and say what you want.

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lol yeah i know im not blaming the guy. Its just probably my least favourite part of sex so id rather just bypass it or only do it for a short time rather then spend time training a guy to do it how i like. Id prefer not to risk ruining the mood or pleasure on either end. If i had a steady partner for a long time then i would. I definately wouldnt recommend to the OP to just forget about it cos its an issue that needs to be addressed eventually.