Should I tell her that her vagina is too big???

Recently I had an affair with an old girlfriend than I haven't seen in nearly 40 years. Yes we are just in our early 60's. We had a fantastic Facebook affair with a couple of meetups/weekends. It didn't work out because I am not going to leave my wife.
She ended it suddenly and I never had a chance to tell her that the lovemaking with her was not very satisfying because her vagina is very large and I was unable to get enough friction to have a reliable orgasm. I remember she was also "large" 43 years ago when we first made love.
My problem is I care very much about her. She is divorcing her 2nd husband and starting what she calls her "3rd life". I want nothing but the best for her in the future. So do I tell her about this!?! I think she needs to know so she can get something done about it. I wonder if it may impact her future relationships. The girl has kept herself in good shape and really enjoys her lovemaking! She also could afford a procedure that could fix this.
We have pretty much cut off all contact because I was pretty devastated when it ended. She is off on another Facebook "adventure" with another classmate.
Am I CRAZY for worrying about this?
Should I tell her and how?

Or your penis is too small...

Well we only have your word on the size of her coozy but it's clear from your own words that you are a huge dick. :emot11:



Tis always fun to feed the trolls.

First off, you don't tell her as that would be rather rude don't you think?

I'm not sure if your joking around or not and if you are, bad joke; yet if you are genuinely concerned for this ladies sex life I'll suggest two things.

One for you and one for her.
For you, a Penis Pump to add mass blood wise and for her, Ben Wa balls that are used and have been used for many years to increase strength along the pelvic floor.

But may I say, sometimes two people just don't fit right. Nothing to do with anything else but that.

Don't worry, I'm sure she wondered at times if you were trying to make love to her or trying to erase her. Doesn't mean you have a small penis or that she is spacious, just don't fit.

Op should put a five pound benwah up his own arse. I think five pin bowling alleys give away their pitted balls... that might work.

tee hee....

Oh goodness what a spiteful person you are. You are only bitter because she broke up with you you didn't complain when you were getting your end away! I feel no sympathy for you at all you have a wife stick to having sex with her and her only!

Oh, what a cheerful room full of women I stumbled into!
So...... the general consensus seems to be that there is NO such thing a plus sized vagina and the the man must have a pencil dick.......... yeah right! I sure didn't see that one coming! ha ha
Surely you can do better than that!
I am not going to try to defend my manhood here..... suffice to say I am more than adequate. I'm sure some of the fat assed ladies on here will choose to believe what they want..... **** them!
Yes, I agree..... I AM a dick, an asshole and a cheater! This was the only real affair I have ever had and I suck at it! But I could not help myself.... she is such a cool lady.
Of spouses who cheat, 40% of them are women, so get off your high horses ladies. Life and love is complicated..... plus the fact that I was cheating on my wife has no bearing on my question. I decided to end it because I could not handle the deceit and lying inherent in an affair. It was making both of us miserable. And then she finished ending it in a spiteful and hurtful manner (that maybe I deserved.) And broke my heart.
I was thinking of this as an act of compassion, not spite. If she had horrible breath or a really bad body odor, wouldn't it be compassionate for someone to let her know??? I was not planning to throw it spitefully in her face!! Perhaps the spiteful thing would be NOT to tell her!?!

That being said, I can see from the reaction here that the time to tell her has passed...... She more than likely knows anyway, one would think one of her ex's would have mentioned it in the heat of an argument.
I did fall in love with her and only want the BEST for her and her future. I will leave it to her (or a future lover) to figure it out.
This accomplished the task, showing me this was a stupid, stupid idea.
Thanks. (even to the fat-assed judgmental ones, you know who you are) It's all good.

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Of spouses who cheat, 40% of them are women, so get off your high horses ladies.

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WTF has that got to do with anything, you dick? If you were a woman we would all think that you were a cretin as well. Nice try at deflecting your issue.
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Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

WTF has that got to do with anything, you dick? If you were a woman we would all think that you were a cretin as well. Nice try at deflecting your issue.
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Well said!

Dirkwell... What were you expecting a round of applause for raising such an issue? Like I said whilst you were getting your end away you were not complaining then were you her vag wasn't too big for you then was it! No you were quite happily getting that little dick of yours up there until you know what until she ended it! Then to be nasty and to deflect any problems with you you make jibes about her body... Makes me wonder how old you really are cos your getting on like a stupid little shit. 40% of women (out ofhow many a percentage is bollocks without the real figures) may have had an affair but you've hit upon one woman here who would never be si disgusting and disrespectful to even contemplate it. Anyway you e only made yourself sound bitter and twisted and stupid .. Congrats!

Skinny ass here; and I am rather cheery thank you kindly but thank you for insulting all of us here.

While it is true, you may be somewhat of dink, if you are genuinely concerned for this ladies sex life, I'll say it again as I suggested in my first reply to you, Ben Wa balls help tighten the pelvic floor. I would imagine if you and her choose to continue your affair, between the Ben Wa balls and a Pump for you, together they would create more sensation within. And no, I'm not saying your smaller than average, I am however saying if too much space is the problem, why wouldn't both you and her do something about it, that is all.

kindly, skinny ass (wish it was larger)sweet dear little bitch
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But I could not help myself.... she is such a cool lady.

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How so? She's a woman that is knowingly fvcking a married man. Perhaps this is a habit for her and all those dicks have stretched her beyond any ben wa-ing?

BTW: You flatter yourself. A "pencil" is likely a boast for you.

*such fun feeding the troll*

LoL at this thread. Loose pussy is that a real problem?

It is if you're dick is about as wide as a pepperette. O.o

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Originally Posted by Wakeup [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How so? She's a woman that is knowingly fvcking a married man. Perhaps this is a habit for her and all those dicks have stretched her beyond any ben wa-ing?

BTW: You flatter yourself. A "pencil" is likely a boast for you.

*such fun feeding the troll*

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Wakeup are you even female!?! No amount of dick is going to stretch out a woman's lady parts. (or maybe you know different because of experience???) Sounds like something a 13 year old boy would say.

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"Dirkwell... What were you expecting a round of applause for raising such an issue?

No, Laurie, not at all....... but I thought it might be more interesting then the usual "Is she into me?" crap on here. My bad.
Thanks to Woody who at least tried to give me a somewhat useful answer.
Breathe123, you might want to Google it, yes, it is a condition. From all the defensive replies this thread has received it may be a much larger problem than I thought..... especially with Wakeup!!!! ha ha ha
Aren't we having fun now?

Dirk, I'm not going to rip you apart because the other ladies already did that for me.

Kegel exercises. Though I wouldn't know how you'd approach the subject 'gingerly' that is. Frankly if I had a lover who told me my vagina was too big, I'm sure i'd be offended and most likely lash out somehow in the form of a cold boot under the table and up someone's back side. But you did come here for advice? Google it. Also something called 'NeoControl' or 'magnetic Chair' that stimulates the muscles in question.

Honestly, how the heck would you even bring something like that up? I mean, even if after time passes and you and her meet for coffee to shoot the shyte so to speak, what would say?, "Hey, your great but did you know that for me anyway, your vagina's uh, pretty spacious and uh, I wanted to let you know in case you weren't aware"?? Insert (Slap) or maybe, who knows, maybe she'd laugh. If she's had children and lived a life, I'm sure she's fully aware of her private parts and all they are for her.
You also have to consider this though Dirk, It may be just you. One ought consider that don't you think? Sad part is, this lady may not be getting satisfied; then again, she may be doing just fine.

Anyway, I don't know how you'd approach something like that without seriously hurting feelings. Obviously, it is a touchy subject
but as I said, between a penis pump and some toys, it might help

You could be doing 1,000 kegal exercises and if he has a pencil dick, it aint gonna help.

How's your wife's vagina, Dirk? Too loose as well? Odds are at your age you have what is medically known as

Shrinky Dink.

No don't tell her. Just because its an issue for you doesn't mean that it will be for another man. She doesn't need to fix anything, just needs to find someone she is compatible with. And why would you try to make her feel insecure about her body? That would be a horrible thing to do to someone you say you care about. Just get on with your life and leave her alone.

And the women here are not bitter or whatever else you called them. You do come across as an asshole so get off your high horse. Maybe you are the problem with possible ED but its easier to pass the blame on someone else

Thanks for those who gave constructive answers. You saved me from doing a stupid thing. When in a fog after a failed affair one does not think clearly. I and my lady could (and did) talk about ANYTHING, however that time has passed. She gave me a couple openings but I blew them, I didn't know how to tell her, thought there would always be "tomorrow".
I was fine with the lovemaking, in fact it was spectacular, (except for one minor little detail, that, if we were able to remain together, we would have worked out). I know you won't believe me, but the orgasm ratio was like 6 or 8 to 1 in her favor (but the guy never knows for sure does he). She was very vocal and our neighbors in the adjacent suites were sure looking at us funny in the mornings.
When I posted this thread I was (misguidedly) sincerely concerned about her future happiness. You have told me that I sounded like an ass. My original post could have been constructed better.
I am not and have not ever thought of myself as a handsome man and I do not think I am particularly interesting, but SHE made me feel I was both of those things. I imagine you ladies that are in a loving and committed relationship make sure your partners feel the same way, Every Day.
The Affair:
I'm sure you pictured seedy motels with desperate humping while I was attempting to get my rocks off and she stares vacantly at the ceiling....... couldn't be more wrong. We are both successful business people and have means. It was a long distance affair, we lived 1400 miles apart, we met on two occasions in luxury or semi luxury hotel suites in what we termed our mini vacations. Our time consisted of an October Harley ride through the Ozark mountains (the second time she ever was on a motorcycle, the first time was with me in 1971), making out on the dock while the harvest moon was rising over the lake, champagne in a two-person jacuzzi tub while the most spectacular lighting storm either of us had ever seen provided the fireworks over the lake, hours lying on a blanket just talking and listening to music in front of the fireplace on a frigid evening in January in KC, dancing, I cooked for her, coffee in our robes in the morning, a museum and a Harley factory tour, shopping at the Plaza, long road trips back and forth to the airports, and so much more. For 6 months we talked daily via Facebook messenger and telephone..... it was MAGIC and I lived and had more emotions in those 6 months than my previous 25 years. I felt like a teenager again!
Not trying to justify, there is no justifying this, but I would do it again in a second. At age 61 I can see my expire date coming... and I thought I deserved a little happiness.
In the end I came to the conclusion that the cost to leave my wife was too large, so I am trying (once again) to try to make her happy. I sincerely believe my wife was born pissed off and I have never been able to change that. But I also understand (through research) that the problem could be me... so I will try harder and see if I can meet HER needs better, maybe SHE will better meet mine. She never found out about the affair.....
EVERYTHING I have written here is the truth, but this is the internet. So please feel free to proceed to rip me apart ladies..... but..... DirkWill has left the building.

Why don't you do those things with you wife? It makes me laugh how people who **** other people outside of their union give so much attention to the other woman/man instead of to their wives/husbands who in turn more times then not, reciprocate the passion if the passion is forth coming. That goes for intimacy and passion OUTSIDE the bedroom.

For what it's worth: If you seduce a woman's mind, her body will follow.

You let your romantic life at home slip by taking the other half for granted and you end up thinking that your wife doesn't show you the love when the feeling is probably mutual.

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I sincerely believe my wife was born pissed off

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I'm more then sure she did not seem that way when you first started courting her and then loving her enough to marry her. If she did then it begs the question why you kept on with her. So what's pissing her off? I think the two of you would do well with personal counselling.

Anyway... You may benefit from the book "How To Get The Love You Want" its for couples.

I get this about my dick all the time, and as the repeated victim of such degrading, offensive claims about my dick I beg of you, please don't say this to her. Words cannot express the pain inside my heart every time I whip it out and hear "oh god please don't hurt me" or "eeek!! slow down!!! less pressure!!! pull it out I can't take anymore!!! (gasps, goes into convulsions, and faints)".

One especially heartless woman compared my dick to the Greek Serpent God "Draco" :( my self-esteem has been destroyed by these ruthless slanders against the temple that is my body. Please don't put this poor girl through the same emotional trauma to which I've been subjected.

She doesn't need to hear your stupid suggestion because of your short comings....