Where is the best places to meet guys?
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Where is the best places to meet guys?
Hmmm. Good guys? I say school.
The problem is...my campus is huge...it feels sorta awkward to go up to anybody and start talking to them.
Join a club.
Is that your baby in the avatar?
I took a lot of math and science, so I was surrounded by guys in my classes. What are you taking?
Anywhere and everywhere, especially where's there's macho activity going on. Pubs, clubs, parties, work gatherings, Uni, friends of friends, friends of family members, sport unions, computer sites, gaming sites, Gym, formal and informal classes, singles sites, live shows etc etc etc Choices and opportunities are limitless
lol. No..its not my baby. I'm still too young for that. But i love children.Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I'm taking humanities and social sciences. wow...i hated science in high school..too much memorization. I used to be really good at math though...took the advance classes and did all the math competition in hs.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
For some reason, I don't get attracted to guys that easily. I like the really intelligent and charming guys. Like the ones that are really good with words. Where are the best places to meet those?Quote:
Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I have a crush on my teacher assistent in my uni. But I think he's too old for me. Damn....i always like the older, wise guys.
Sorry, somebody else already got first dibs.Quote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And I like Angelina Jolie, Elle McPherson and Monica Bellucci types.Quote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Get out there and meet as many guys as you can, you can filter them for brainicism. The key is in quantity in interaction and quality in filtering.
Don't settle for married old farts a.k.a. University proffesors (Or ones going through their second / third divorce). There're a lot of brainy guys out there in the most unlikeliest places.
haha...my teacher assistence is hot though. He is in his 20s...but i think he's still too old for me.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
there's a lot of single guys like me on the internet.
raverboy
The faculty lounge. I'll be there waiting.Quote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Either join, or make up a student organization (club).. In college, I was part of Hillel (Jewish Student Body), the Hellenic Club (Greek Club), Accounting Society, Economics Society, and the Philosophy ClubQuote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I stopped going to the Hellenic Club because all they did was have coffee and had only one ski trip every 6 months.. The Philosophy club got all these gay/lesbian/goth people comming in so I stopped going to that one too.. But Hillel always had people comming in, Birthright Israel trip, NYC JAPs-galore.. the Economics Society was boring.. packed with guys, and all boring.. the only club besides Hillel which was great was the Accounting Society.. packed with either fat chicks, ugly girls, or asian girls.. it was clearly not a place I was going for the ladies.. but the guys were great.. 2 of the officers were great, and we ended up being really great friends, and still talk till this day..
So, if you want to explore your dominant strategy in finding your desired type of guy.. pull up some statistics, and target your ethnic clubs.. chances are, you might find "interesting" guys in the Philosophy, Economics, Accounting, Finance, Mathematics, Statistics, Biology, Chemistry, Physics clubs.. but not charming.. so target the ethnic clubs..
Also, don't overlook the best tool for meeting guys in college.. the hallways, elevators, and lunchrooms! The lunchroom was a paradise for single girls.. grabbing a table, sitting alone, with the chair across from them empty even though they could have easily put their bag and jacket there to fill it up and make sure nobody would sit there, and the lunchroom packed, but everyone was too shy to fill up that seat across from her.. fcuk that.. there's a reason she's sitting alone.. nobody likes to be alone.. I just sat down, no questions asked.. it's not like she owned the table anyway.. Once down, cold-read, if she's acting difficult, fcuk her no getting lucky for her.. if she's friendly and warm.. I made sure to make it worth her while.. over 9,000 students on campus.. at least 8 girls a day in the lunch room that would strike my interest.. (so, be friendly, guys will punish you.. the numbers aren't in your favor)
But honestly, the best place to meet guys has to be the public transportation system.. (subway, train, bus).. Every woman who's started a conversation with me on the public transit system has earned my number.. most of the time, just out of sheer urge to reward her for her effort to break outside her comfort zone and take the courage and initiative to come up and talk to me.. I respect that.. But more than that, here's why.. because as a guy, you're either thinking about something stressful "school, work, bills, etc" while you're there, because that's the time when you think about those things.. or you're thinking about what to do after school/work or this weekend.. or you're thinking about your favorite topic "nothing".. In either case, it's a win-win for women.. and here's why..
If the guy is stressed, you've just made his day by giving him some comfort and conversation inside the train or bus.. If he's thinking about what to do after work/school or on the weekend, you're automatically an option, and he might even consider inviting you.. If he's thinking about nothing, then it may take him a second to re-orient himself, but once he does, he'll be full of mental focus and energy to hold up a fun conversation.. Either case, you win..
There's one draw-back.. i've met some great people in the public-transit system.. and yes, you know what her intentions are, they're as clear as daylight.. but you go along with it, and quickly ignore that fact, because it's usually a long ride and you'd rather have fun talking with someone new than doing something else.. But sometimes the ride isn't that long.. sometimes one of you has to go.. and worse, the conversation hasn't gone on too deeply to ask for his number or for him to feel motivated enough to ask for yours.. To that, i'm going to make a dead-suggestion (because I know not a woman in the world would ever do this, but i'll say it anyway).. if you're talking for more than one minute.. yes, that's right.. one minute.. talking.. you and him.. pull out a pen and paper.. and write down your number.. and ask him for his.. (guys go into ###-#### trance, it doesn't mean sh*t.. all it means for them is that they're getting a number, it has to be one of the most flattering things a woman can do.. just offer, without being asked)
Afraid? Reservations? Run a little test..
- Ask some guy to write down his number, and approach random women and try and give it to them.. most of them will look at him like he's wierd, creepy, some loser, you'll get all sorts of responses.. you might also get some women taking the number and throwing it out when he's not looking.. fine..
- Now, go up to random guys and do the same thing.. talk to them for one minute, then give them your number.. let them give you their number, don't ask for it.. they'll offer their number after you offer yours.. that's how things work under the honor system.. these are guys we're talking about.. and tally up how many guys accepted your number.. and how many guys ended up calling you back!
You'll notice, that nearly 100% of the guys will have accepted your number.. but not even 30-40% of them will call you back after 5 days time.. Do this to 2 guys every day of the work-week.. that's 10 guys every 2 weeks.. that's 3-4 calls back every two weeks.. that's 6-8 guys a month calling you.. How many guys have called you in the past month?
Lastly, put female-ego to the side.. yes, we get it.. you're not easy, you're difficult, you're a challenge, you come at too high a price, blah blah.. that's cute, but that's also single-woman's-talk.. I want you to try and delete those ideas from your head.. i'm not telling you to be desperate, i'm just telling you to stop putting up an act, stop being fake, and start being more open, relaxed, and yourself.. A major TURN-OFF for men are two things.. women who are sluts (for some men this is a turn-on, but we're not interested in those men).. and women who are acting/playing hard-to-get.. Most women don't really understand what a slut is.. "my black friend was like.. you have amazing t*ts, I just want to stick my d*ck in between them and t*tty-fcuk you so hard.. but I told him, i'll take it anywhere else but there, I haven't really done that before".. btw, that was a girl recently talking to me.. major-turn-off, & VERY uncomfortable to be in that situation.. but that's what a slut is.. if that's not you, then you're not a slut.. so with that being said.. just be yourself.. you don't have to be conservative or reserved.. just be yourself.. unless you try very hard to be sexually explicit and VERY liberal.. you'll NEVER cross over to being a "slut".. and be open, warm, nice, sweet, accepting, talkative, and friendly.. Notice something, anything, and start up a conversation about it.. "Is that rice pudding? Is that shirt microfiber? What are you reading, if you don't mind me asking? Hey, who are you going to vote for, for President?".. and just keep talking, just stay away from being sexually explicit, it's distasteful, not classy, and yes, it's the mark of a slut.. so don't let it kill your whole interaction.. resist the urge, it's not a turn-on, trust me..
Problem is a lot of guys have problems meeting girls and rather than try, we sit at home playing games, watching sports on TV, and looking at porn on the internet. We're very tough to meet for that reason!
In fact, I don't know how you would go about it.
Art lessons, poetry clubs, around the cafeteria, in hidden areas of the school... those guys aren't usually very sporty.Quote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Rule: Stay away from teachers and assistants. That always ends bad.Quote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I think the best place where you can find guys is sports matches.
Like football, ice- hockey, basketball but I think you must
have some knowledge about this sport not only looking for boys
;);)
If you want intelligence AND charming you probably really mean the appearance of intelligence and charming. Otherwise, the intelligent ones may be found chilling in the math hall of the nearest highly ranked universityQuote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Some guys fool girls so easily... Girls think with nothing other than emotionsQuote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Charming, intelligent guys hang out at coffeehouses trying to one-up each other with their witty repartee. Get a part-time job at some beanery and you'll be up to your neck in them.
Look up some of bohemiandonut's posts, though Are you absolutely sure you want charm and intelligence? You could end up with a guy like that, and then he'd just torture you endlessly.
Just regularly engage in a social activity you enjoy that is likely to include men.
The intelligent ones are probably too caught up in their silly theories to worry about what to put their dick in.Quote:
Originally Posted by DoesntMatter [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
While, on the other hand, that's all DM theorizes about.
school, parties, and any sports activity. guys i get interested in doesnt have to be smart smart..one just have to know how to keep a conversation going. dont wanna get caught in awkward silent "what now" moments. but since im thinking you like smart guys? school it is. how about in the library? ;)
what about me?? i'm the total opposite. i only go to coffee shops when i'm in dire need of a caffeine rush. however, i love to hang out at bars.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
raverboy
I'm fine with the idea of going up to guys..but do you think giving him my number and asking for his seems desperate? Although the guys I have asked out have end up dating me...it never worked out. They think they have some upper hand or advantage over me. So, my question is....after I made the first move..what can I do to even things up?Quote:
Originally Posted by GrkScorp [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
If it isn't working out when you ask them out, maybe it's because they may resent the idea of you being the "boy" of the relationship.
You can make a first move without asking for a number. Just by being suggestive. "You want to see that movie too?? Oh my God, I wanted to see it straight after I read the book! In fact, I'm going to the movies this weekend to see it. Though none of my friends seem into it, you know anyone who might want to come with me?" In this instance the guy would have to dig up a really good excuse to refuse watching a movie he really wanted to see, in which case there's a complete certainty that he's not interested. But you haven't revealed an interest in him, just the fact that you don't want to watch a movie by yourself, so you don't loose face if he refuses. On the other hand though any acceptance on his part will logically lead to exchange of phone numbers on its own which he will probably request since he will be showing an interest to accompany you.Quote:
Originally Posted by lastwish [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I have been described as "charming" and "intelligent" but I never hang out in coffee shops or bars. I'm usually racing from one work project to the next. I'm practically invisible unless you have the guts to engage me in conversation when I'm between work projects. Get me started with a cerebral thought and you'll capture my attention. Wait for me to engage you in discussion and it will never happen.Quote:
Originally Posted by Gigabitch [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't think I'm unusual in this regard. There are tons of smart and charming guys who (just like me) don't want to be too presumptuous or forward with the modern woman. Also, there are lots of smart and charming guys (just like me) who are very lonely, but find the loneliness of work less stressful than other alternatives.
Naw, a lot of them are watching Family Guy and Futurama episodes and kind of not being in the right place at the right timeQuote:
Originally Posted by Frasbee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Haha...Quote:
Originally Posted by Illusional [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Me too, and plenty others. All are "single" on the internet. Aren't we all nice guys?
An element of truth to this.Quote:
Originally Posted by DoesntMatter [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Actually, back in college, that's where the girls used to find me, if they were interested. They'd find me watching Cheers or Night Court re-runs in the dorm t.v. lounge, while I was doing laundry in the dorm laundry room.
Ha! I'd almost forgotten about those days. Yeah, they'd come down and watch the show with me and strike up a conversation. If it was the night of SNL, then they'd usually try to sit next to me before the t.v. room got over-crowded. The girl would be practically smashed into me, I'd have get the old arm around the shoulder :)
If it was a really good night, then maybe she'd invite me to her room for something to drink, listen to music, and then maybe make-out for a bit. It wasn't the 19th century, but for the most part, people didn't go "all the way" as often as they do these days.
Anyway, that's how girls used to meet me when I was in college in the 1980's
i'm not nice... but i'm not bad either. i'm your i'm your previously spontaneous party animal with a twist.Quote:
Originally Posted by MadKat [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
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