Does it depend on whether you know them or not? What if you were to randomly see an ugly person in the street?
State gender please.
(To those who are thinking why I am asking this: I just want to know what people are thinking about me).
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Does it depend on whether you know them or not? What if you were to randomly see an ugly person in the street?
State gender please.
(To those who are thinking why I am asking this: I just want to know what people are thinking about me).
Kindness is always an attractive quality.... I don't initially pass judgement on what is ugly or pretty, but I know what I'm attracted to or not.
As far as State Gender.. since I'm from Texas, I believe Texas would be Male.
OP define ugly? It means completely different things to different people. To me ugly people are people who are ugly on the inside. I don't care how people look on the outside, I don't judge anyone for how they look. I admire people who take pride in their appearance and make an effort to look good as I believe when you look your best, you FEEL your best so its always a good thing. I think how we look on the outside can sometimes reflect how we feel on the inside. Some people who are miserable or very depressed tend to let themselves go and it shows but they shouldn't be judged for that. People should offer support
...Is it just me or do we seem to get the most shallow people joining anymore?
Its summer time rowen. The insecure teens are joining. Most are shallow as f**k too but many grow out of it. I remember my teen years. I was v insecure. I learned to love and accept myself though and appreciate my young tight body while it lasts ;)
I'd think of them as any ordinary person... Just not blessed with good looks
i have no opinion on ugly people, attention-seeking whiners however...
Us ugly people are boons to the economy. Take me, for instance; I practically qualify as ringleader of the ugly people. We work the menial jobs that attractive people don't. We're your doctors, your food service workers, anywhere that you take for granted. Attractive people get to have fun, fulfilling lives while we uggoes get to stay at home and develop spiritually and intellectually, all that boring shit that amounts to even less than all the hedonism and amorality of the attractive.
But also some people are more attractive than others?Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
In today's world, a girl is judged on how physically attractive she is.
My first thought "sucks to be them" lol. I consider myself pretty fortunate to have good looks and a good body type. But I have nothing against ugly people, I'll befriend them if I find them ugly, as long as they are not a shitty person inside.
so you must really look down on me then.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonymous_a [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I don't "look down" on anyone. Like I said, I say "sucks to be you" as in it sucks to be ugly lol. I'd be your friend as long as you didn't have a shitty personality.Quote:
Originally Posted by academicgirl [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
True- good point. Once Fall and Winter roll around, those will probably dwindle. Hopefully they grow out of it soon.Quote:
Originally Posted by michelle23 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not only that but you can't have a bad attitude and then to top it off you're ugly too! It's like, you got some nerve. You can't afford to have an attitude and look that way. Its like so offensive.Quote:
Originally Posted by anonymous_a [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
But academic, i doubt you're as bad looking as you're letting on to be. Everyone has potential. You are obsessed over your looks. You have kept saying you're ugly and now its stored into your mind. You believe it. You can ask a million questions but nobody can help you or convince you. You have to believe you're attractive and know your self worth. I think your lack of self esteem makes you unattractive. You really need to get some help or you're going to continue to have these problems and carry your negative self views into your adult life which won't be good. The reality is when you know who you are as a person, who cares what other people think?
I do! But not because of your looks.Quote:
Originally Posted by academicgirl [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Umm, it's important to care what others think. It's selfish NOT to. Besides that, one can't survive without considering what others think of them.Quote:
Originally Posted by Starnique [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And uhmmmm. You totally missed my point.
My point was that if you keep looking for validation about your looks then you will never be happy. People will always find a flaw on you. For the OP, a guy could compliment her and she wouldnt even be able to receive it because in her mind, she not even worthy of it. My point is, I get several compliments but they dont make or break me. I already know what it is with me so to be obsessed with what people think about you is ridiculous.
Let me ask you this; what's more annoying? A person who is ugly but assumes they're the hottest thing ever and acts like it? or someone who's unsure if they're attractive and needs validation? One is acting without any good reason and the other is asking for evidence.
You aren't forced to be either of those things. You can be confident without being cocky, arrogant or vain.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
They're both annoying.
Insecurity asks for evidence then disbelieves the answer - as you know.
Insecurity. People that always play the victim. Its annoying for people to keep looking for validation. Telling a girl shes beautiful and she cant accept it because she cant be sure. Thats annoying to me.
That's extremely rare. That's like a Clark Kent or Bruce Wayne. Real life examples are scarce, evidently ( no pun intended)Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
They may be rare, but they exist. So why not strive to become one of them?
Naturally both are but the question is, which is more? And I think like a jury; I COULD accept evidence prima facie but it is better to explore the possibilities and see if the "evidence" holds water. Reminds me; I've got jury duty in 11 days! :OQuote:
Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Well, I'd strive to do that but the first requirement is to be attractive and I'm afraid I don't meet that prerequisite.Quote:
Originally Posted by searock [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Not really.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I can see how what I'm saying is hard for you to grip considering you had struggles similar to the OP's.
No. Being attractive is a consequence of being confident. There is no objective attractiveness.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
That is such bullshit. The bad boys the girls like are all extremely insecure assholes. Otherwise, why would they be in gangs and/or have to perform stupid shit for approval like backyard wrestling and talking back to authority? Those guys are NO different than us unconfident guys. They're even MORE insecure. You don't see me joining a gang or fighting in bars for attention. And actually there is; have you ever heard of perfectly symmetrical faces? They're scientifically beautiful. It's a fact.
Beautiful =/= attractive.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
And seriously, I don't know one single woman who would be attracted to a guy like you described. They are just insecure little kids.
Confidence has nothing to do with arrogance.
ALL the girls I know like that sort. Besides, a guy can have confidence but it doesn't put the right words in his mouth. It doesn't feed him messages that tell him how to manipulate their relationship towards some goal. Confidence doesn't make every single one of their jokes funny, every single one of their pickup lines smooth...Basically, my question is, What good is confidence is a guy is socially retarded? All the pressure is on the guy. Girls don't have to do shit.
Dude, you REALLY need to start hanging out with other people.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
There are no "right" words.Quote:
Besides, a guy can have confidence but it doesn't put the right words in his mouth.
A relationship shouldn't be manipulated.Quote:
It doesn't feed him messages that tell him how to manipulate their relationship towards some goal.
But it does make them attractive.Quote:
Confidence doesn't make every single one of their jokes funny, every single one of their pickup lines smooth...
I don't think someone can be confident and socially retarded at the same time.Quote:
Basically, my question is, What good is confidence is a guy is socially retarded?
And this has to do with the topic at hand because.....Quote:
All the pressure is on the guy. Girls don't have to do shit.
There IS such a thing as "the right words." I was confident for a while but I NEVER had the right words. Girls are like computers; you have to do everything right procedurally to advance. I think it is possible for a confident guy to be socially retarded, also.
Ugly people are great! I surround my self with ugly people when I am at the bar so as to make myself look even more attractive.
That's morally reprehensible. Kant would agree.
YoungCosmo only you can understand what I am going through.I think we should stop wasting our time with these attractive people who have never been in our shoes.
Wow... We finally found YC a girlfriend... @.@Quote:
Originally Posted by academicgirl [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I think nothing.
However, I judge people more based on social class than looks. It may seem unPC, but it's true all the same.
eh? you're a non-confident wimp.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I think if you approach anyone with the attitude or mindset that you need to do A, B and C before you can move on to D, then its a sure fire way to turn them off.Quote:
Originally Posted by YoungCosmo [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]