What is wrong with men nowadays?

Hi there!

I need to know what is wrong with men nowadays:
1) They want to meet a girl who loves them for themselves. When they do, they blame her she is greedy.
Then brake her heart.
2) Meanwhile they really meet girls who ARE OBVIOUSLY not in love but they NEVER call them greedy.
3) Finally they(men) decide that money is more important than ANYTHING. Then they (men) decide to destroy the career of the woman 1 (in love but called greedy). NO ONE CALLS SUCH MEN GREEDY and stupid.
A man paid a lot to get out of a relationship (HE WAS IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER WOMAN) he decided to destroy the career of the other woman (and he did)-for money as you understand.

NO one ever told such men that career and private life is NOT the same. NO one told them they HAVE NO RIGHT TO do this. AND finally NO ONE TOLD THEM money is not MORE IMPORTANT than feelings (love).
This is a very old story I just ask for some advice.

What is wrong with men NOWADAYS?
How cruel men can be with women ?
Share your experience...

The issue is that you're dating these assholes.....it's not men in general, it's your lack of good judegment.

Good luck. !!

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Originally Posted by surfhb2 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

The issue is that you're dating these assholes.....it's not men in general, it's your lack of good judegment.

Good luck. !!

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I am not dating assholes. :)
I share with you and ask some advice (opinion).

But I see what you think about such men when I read the WORD "ASSHOLE".

Then why ask the question if your outlook on men is fine? Are you asking for a friend?

Not all men are like that. Many are yes, but not all. You just need to find the right one. Also, keep in mind that he could be telling you one thing, but means another. In other words he's lying to you because he doesn't want to tell you the truth. Such is life. Both sexes are guilty of doing that. Guys like that aren't worth the stress if they're not what you're looking for.

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Originally Posted by romantic-88 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I am not dating assholes. :)
I share with you and ask some advice (opinion).

But I see what you think about such men when I read the WORD "ASSHOLE".

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Obviously... you are.

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Originally Posted by ryann87 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Not all men are like that. Many are yes, but not all. You just need to find the right one. Also, keep in mind that he could be telling you one thing, but means another. In other words he's lying to you because he doesn't want to tell you the truth. Such is life. Both sexes are guilty of doing that. Guys like that aren't worth the stress if they're not what you're looking for.

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So now the back-pedaling begins. You couldn't possibly be the problem. *rolling eyes*

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Originally Posted by HeartIsAching [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

So now the back-pedaling begins. You couldn't possibly be the problem. *rolling eyes*

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Back pedaling because I said both sexes are guilty of it? I'm pretty sure its clear that I'm saying men are the problem in your case. We can be ****ing assholes, I completely agree 100000%. What I'm not a fan of, is 90% of women complaing that its always men that are assholes, or wrong, or whatever. Both sexes do it. Your explanation thats needed as to why men are assholes is simply this. Alot of men are pieces of shit, and they'll never change. I honestly dont see the need to dig any further since a woman who wants a good man shouldnt stay with one of these aforementioned assholes. I would think with all the women out there like you bashing us, that you could have figured that out by now. What I dont get is why if you deal with them so much, you cant spot them faster and remove them from your life. Instead of complaing about the bad ones, and bashing the good ones even when we try to help you, maybe you should just keep looking for the good ones. Negativity and pessimism will get you nowhere, but positivity and optimism take you a hell of alot further. I dont go out and bash every woman for all of the horrible women Ive dated, I move on and find a better one. Dont mean to come off sounding pissed but I see this everyday and I cannot figure out for the life of me why women stay with guys who treat them so badly, complain about it and say they want out, and then do NOTHING. Im friends with an amazing woman whos been dating a complete douchebag who treats her like shit for over a year. She complains and says she hates him, and that she wants out, yet does NOTHING. In fact she tries harder to keep him. Youd think shed learn that hes worthless and leave him, but since most men are such assholes, she used to being treated that way I suppose. Do you have any idea how frustrating its is to try and help someone for that long an watch them stress and break down, and they dont listen or see whats right infront of them. I have a male friend whos in the same position as the last girl I mentioned. Hes miserable but wont leave his girlfriend. So regardless of sex, PEOPLE in general need to pull their heads out of their asses and move on! I was just trying to help you, didnt mean to come off like this. I honestly and truly hope you can find someone who treats you good and loves you. It sounds like youve been through alot and deserve it.

date a better class of men then, it isn't all men, don't lump all of us as one group, not every male or female are dating assholes.

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Originally Posted by ryann87 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Back pedaling because I said both sexes are guilty of it? I'm pretty sure its clear that I'm saying men are the problem in your case. We can be ****ing assholes, I completely agree 100000%. What I'm not a fan of, is 90% of women complaing that its always men that are assholes, or wrong, or whatever. Both sexes do it. Your explanation thats needed as to why men are assholes is simply this. Alot of men are pieces of shit, and they'll never change. I honestly dont see the need to dig any further since a woman who wants a good man shouldnt stay with one of these aforementioned assholes. I would think with all the women out there like you bashing us, that you could have figured that out by now. What I dont get is why if you deal with them so much, you cant spot them faster and remove them from your life. Instead of complaing about the bad ones, and bashing the good ones even when we try to help you, maybe you should just keep looking for the good ones. Negativity and pessimism will get you nowhere, but positivity and optimism take you a hell of alot further. I dont go out and bash every woman for all of the horrible women Ive dated, I move on and find a better one. Dont mean to come off sounding pissed but I see this everyday and I cannot figure out for the life of me why women stay with guys who treat them so badly, complain about it and say they want out, and then do NOTHING. Im friends with an amazing woman whos been dating a complete douchebag who treats her like shit for over a year. She complains and says she hates him, and that she wants out, yet does NOTHING. In fact she tries harder to keep him. Youd think shed learn that hes worthless and leave him, but since most men are such assholes, she used to being treated that way I suppose. Do you have any idea how frustrating its is to try and help someone for that long an watch them stress and break down, and they dont listen or see whats right infront of them. I have a male friend whos in the same position as the last girl I mentioned. Hes miserable but wont leave his girlfriend. So regardless of sex, PEOPLE in general need to pull their heads out of their asses and move on! I was just trying to help you, didnt mean to come off like this. I honestly and truly hope you can find someone who treats you good and loves you. It sounds like youve been through alot and deserve it.

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Whoops... sorry. Quoted you thinking you were the OP. Disregard.

Why ask for mens advice, if you wont approach it with an open mind? Maybe you are the problem, its either that or the men you are involved with.

When I was single I had no problem gettings dates. And I'm a guy. Does this automatically mean I'm an asshole? I need to know where I stand.

I dont understand the qs? How do all men destroy a womans career? I would say thats rare..

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I don't know a guy who calls girls greedy unless she is very materialistic, no other reason. Why don't you share your story instead of throwing out random statements, back it up with what actually happened.

A lot of generalising. Most guyss wouldn't intentioanlly be like that to someone

Yeah... typical female.

Better choice of selection hunn and definitely be open to honest that's what you're on this forum fir right, everyone answer will NOT be what you want to hear but it's the truth, no need in sugar coating it, that would be pointless of you asking for advice to begin with

There are guys out there who will treat you like that. There are guys out there who will even suckle upon your life like a vampire, draining you emotionally until you feel like you have nothing left.... But guess what. WOMEN DO IT TOO.

In conclusion, it's not about "What is wrong with *insert gender here* these days?" The question is, "Why the **** do we allow these ****ing idiots to ruin the pursuit of happiness for us?" I seriously ask you because I would bet a billion dollars you have no answer for it that doesn't make you part of the problem.

Learn from your mistakes and protect yourself. That's the answer.

I never had such issues.....so instead of placing the blame on men you should be taking a good hard look at yourself.

If you are finding a man is starting to work longer hours, and less time at home is because working is an escape from your nagging. He is trying to get away from you.....if you greeted him in lingerie and a cocktail in your hand he wouldn't be wanting to spend anytime at work.

Dates comes with education, I find the non educate have a rash of problems they tend to show off very early on. Not everyone deserves a change, its ok to not date if all your gonna date is drama. I couldnt even read the full post. I was done by the 8th line.

Some men not all are assholes but ten some women but not all are assholes as well....just sift through until you find one of the good ones 😃

I couldn't possibly tell you -why- people are like this... But, A good way to avoid these type of men before dating them is to be friends for as long as you can.. (4 months to a year) before dating.

Say what? If you have to set your standards like that they will end up dating someone else who takes a chance......

it is very important what men you meet and where. There is no manula for that but to find emotionaly stable intelligent males I would reccomend to look for places where successful individuals appear - such as professional conferencies, art meetings etc. All these troubles will be gone when you meet the One. I hope I helped.

(need to ask my own question, but first must help 15 other people. 14 more to go :) ).

Definitely agree with the above post.