Its my gf's b-day..and she is not being cool

My gf is being a *****. Today is her b-day and she acted really bitchy last night. She wanted to sleep with me..so that she could wake up on her b-day w/ me... and now, low and behold she is all pompous, snooty and bitchy.

Her family is onto me too saying that I'm a "jerk",,her sister even left a cheesedick message on my phone.
Tonight when I go over there if any one of them even looks at me funny then I am leaving....I think I should just dump her before we both go down some long and pathetic road,,,miserable with 2 or 3 kids and then getting divorced.

Any thoughts?

She's having one bad day and your ready to dump her? Did I miss something? I thought YOU were the bad guy, and she was the good guy. ::confused::

Its more complicated then that..this isn't a simple case of good verses evil..it sucks

Then break up

If its so complicated, you may want to tell us more before asking us for our thoughts. Girls will be bitchy sometimes, believe it or not.

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Originally Posted by carpflounder

Its more complicated then that..this isn't a simple case of good verses evil..it sucks

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man, women are that way sometimes. They can be really sweet, and otherwice bitches that i can't stand!!!!!!! So, dont dump her about that. But let her know that u are not satisfied with that. Let her good know!

Did you miss something? Like, maybe it is tradition in her family to give presents in the morning? And you didn't give her anything....(no reason for her to be bitchy, I agree - but....she might be overly sensitive about certain things???)

Or maybe she has other expectations she isn't talking about????

Weird.

btw...mine has her birthday in a few weeks...anyone know a very nice gift? it is very hard to impress her, so im just asking for anything

She is trying to sued me into quitting smoking..by ragging on me all the time.. It just makes me want to smoke more. Lately, I've been considering doing some other drugs like maybe morphine and oxycodone if I can get ahold of 'em.

This morning I woke up and said "do you want to have sex" she said "yes" so I ****ed her with no love at all. Just ****ed her, then got off, and hopped in the shower.

She is the ****ing cunt I love..I can't dump her..and I can't be happy with her...all you virgins don't know how lucky you got it. :P

Please Help

Hmm... well, you f*ck her with no love, and then wonder why she is bitchy all day?

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Originally Posted by Debunkt

Girls will be bitchy sometimes, believe it or not.

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Sometimes?? :smug:

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Originally Posted by carpflounder

She is trying to sued me into quitting smoking..by ragging on me all the time.. It just makes me want to smoke more. Lately, I've been considering doing some other drugs like maybe morphine and oxycodone if I can get ahold of 'em.

This morning I woke up and said "do you want to have sex" she said "yes" so I ****ed her with no love at all. Just ****ed her, then got off, and hopped in the shower.

She is the ****ing cunt I love..I can't dump her..and I can't be happy with her...all you virgins don't know how lucky you got it.

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Damn, with a boyfriend like you, I can't believe she's not peachy-keen all the damn time.

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Originally Posted by Debunkt

Damn, with a boyfriend like you, I can't believe she's not peachy-keen all the damn time.

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LoooooooooooooooooooL I was thinkin the same.

Oh carp.....

I guess this is my fault..I come here for help..without being all that specific. Here I will narrow it down,, I want it to end, and I also want to keep it. But if it is to end, I want it to be messy. I don't want to just act like its ok and its cool that my heart has been torn out and shit all over.

I want shouting, screaming, crying, and all the manipulations that go along with that...sparks flying..and feathers ruffled!! Spare me nothing!

It hurts too bad..I can take more pain only if I know that it will end. I must cause it to end.

Any suggestions?

Why don't you apologize and try being really nice, carp. I bet she will be nicer to you, too, and then you don't have to break up at all.

What the ****? How bout you give us details as to WHY it is that you want to break up. Because you abuse multiple harmful and illegal substances? Because you smoke and she tries to help you by getting you to quit? Is it because you once cheated on her, and it was somehow oh so within your right? Is it because you call her a cunt, and are perfectly willing to make her feel worse than she has to about YOU ending a relationship with her?

WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?

I like you ssh! I will always have your back..you are a very nice woman.
We both apologized..I even sent her some of her favorite black magic roses..but I think that if we continue I will just be hoping in vein that it will get better. She say that she doesn't know if it will get better..so I figure whats the point.

She doesn't help me by getting me to quit. I never have. I only use marijuana,, but because of her I feel like using harder drugs like opiates. If I had some china white now I'd snort it.

The rest of you, when you really need help,, you'll see how it feels when no one comes to your side. Its a cruel ****ing world.

Suggestions for crashing it all PLZ.

Drama Queen.

::blush:: thanks, carp. But stay off the hard stuff, okay? It will only multiply your problems.

Suggestions?

Sometimes people just don't belong together. If things are really so bad between you two, maybe you SHOULD break things off, only don't do it in a destructive way, carp. She will be hurting without you even trying. If you TRY to make it worse, the guilt will get you later.

maybe on her birthday she was having a period? :horror:

or maybe...when you had sex you did it too hard and shes in pain. :surprised

Carp! My goodness, you are one messed up creature!!! LOL

I can't give you suggestions on how to go out with a bang because I don't do that. But wouldn't you think it would hurt you more to do that as well?

Instead of snorting drugs, try injecting them, it works faster plus you get to use fun needles.

carp, you moron, if there's a woman that can stand to be with you for 5 ****ing minutes you should hang on to her.

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Originally Posted by Asip4u

carp, you moron, if there's a woman that can stand to be with you for 5 ****ing minutes you should hang on to her.

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My sentiments, eg-****in-zactly!

Yeah, there was not much left to say, Debunkt. We tried over and over to tell him what he should work on, yet nothing was getting through. So many of his comments involve putting his g/f down. It's pathetic!

So, then maybe he shouldn't hold onto her and let her go.

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Originally Posted by Junsui

So, then maybe he shouldn't hold onto her and let her go.

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Cool new avatar, Jun ;)

I just don't understand Carp at all. I mean does he find gratifictaion in making people around him miserable? Ugh, I don't know why she stuck around in the first place. I think I would have Already left a long time ago.

Maybe she has mental problems.

Thank you Asip. :D

How you end this, deal with it, break up with her, etc, will be the only thing you look back on in ten years and care about.

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She is trying to sued me into quitting smoking..by ragging on me all the time.. It just makes me want to smoke more. Lately, I've been considering doing some other drugs like maybe morphine and oxycodone

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Yea, thats real smart *rolls eyes*

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Originally Posted by Asip4u

carp, you moron, if there's a woman that can stand to be with you for 5 ****ing minutes you should hang on to her.

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I agree... I can't believe people here actually are siding with him/giving advice.

I don't know if you say a lot of the stuff you say just to be funny, but if how you present yourself to us here on LF is how you are in real life... wow. Listen to Asip, seriously.

Don't tell him to listen to Asip! Then he'll just stay with her and continue to treat her like crap.

In defense of carp, let's be real here. This girl chooses to stay with him. She must see something in him, else she would leave him. Every person has a match.

Hehe Yes she does choose to stay with him. Whatever they want to do, I really don't care.

You all are right that his behavior is sometimes not great, but I guess I just don't see her being any less responsible than he is for this situation. That's all.

I agree shh!, she is just as responsible.

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Originally Posted by shh!

You all are right that his behavior is sometimes not great, but I guess I just don't see her being any less responsible than he is for this situation. That's all.

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Whatd'ya mean, shh? That she is partly responsible for his life situation, or just the situation that has brought them to breaking up? Because if its the first one, I think you're way wrong. I don't think carp would be any less of an utter douchebag without her. And if its the second one, well of course she's responsible, but its probably a good thing on her part. I mean I honestly don't see the heartbreak that either of them will feel when he talks about her and treats her like he acts here, and she puts up with him. I agree with Junsui earlier post about not telling them to stay together. She probably deserves better.