What to do if you find out your girlfriend USED to be a whore?

I met this girl like 1 month ago or something. We talked and stuff and she wasen't a virgin because she told me stories and stuff. Today I found out that before I even knew this girl, she blew my friend 10 times and he didn't even kiss her once, and they didn't even go out. This was before I even met her. But still, that's kinda nasty. I didn't know this, but now i'm going out with her it's kinda annoying thinking about it. She does have a dirty past now that I think about it, but with a boyfriend she wouldn't really do that at all with other guys, she'd never cheat on me and she's a really nice girl, but still. My friend was like if I call her right now to hangout and shit and she would do it, and I was like no she wouldn't, then I was like call her now and see and he says I don't want to get in the middle of it but i'm telling you she would hangout and do it with me, but only with me, she would only hook up with a few guys, not a lot. The fact that she did all that shit in the past is annoying me now man, I dunno if I should still go out with this girl. I mean she tells me i'm different from all the guys she's been with. Last night after I said I don't want loose you like 5 times she wouldn't say it back cuz she was mad, then she started crying on my shoulders last night and said I love you and don't wanna lose you. Just the fact of her past is so dirty. We all know the quote, "Once a good girls gone bad shes gone forever" What should I do?

****, now she's being all lovey to me and stuff now.

I disagree with your quote about good girls gone bad, but you have a right to not want to date someone with this kind of history. However, you do NOT have a right to continually throw it in her face. I don't know if this girl is trustworthy or not, but if you keep her, you have got to make peace with this. People DO learn and change, especially if they are young.

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Originally Posted by vashti

However, you do NOT have a right to continually throw it in her face.

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Ugh... You totally just ruined all of the damn fun. :upset:

slut? no can't do

Hmm. I agree with vashti. If you're going to stay with her then you definitely have to let it go, but if it's going to be that much of a big deal to you - then you should leave her now before either of you get more involved.
She may have been that person, but who's to say she is now. Think about what she was like when you first met her - did she behave like that towards you etc.

ever see the movie clerks? if you haven't you should watch it. besides being a funny movie, the main characters situation is similar. if you love her and she loves you then just forget about her past. everyone's done some stuff in their past that ain't exactly kosher.

The simple fact is....everyone has a past....and everyone has done things in their past that they're not exactly proud of, or even things that they regret. But you have to remember, the past is just that....that PAST.

If you really like this girl, you should let it go. Granted, I'm not telling you to become blind to anything that she does....by all means, keep a watchful eye for any signs that she may be slipping back into old habits.

I disagree that everyone has a past -- if that means girls being a slut. I just don't believe most 22 YO women have a slut-past.

It bothers you -- move on.

If she's never felt this way about a guy before, what does that mean? That YOU aren't good enough to get no-strings-attached blowjobs? Is that how you're different?

I'm different because how I act and treat her. I just get attached to a girl easy, maybe cuz she gives good blowjobs n stuff haha who knows. But I take her out and stuff, even bought her a necklace when I asked her out, i'm just that good of a guy when it comes to relationships. She wouldn't hook up with me whenever I want and I realized she actually likes me a lot and that's not what she wants, she really does like me. But who knows. The guy who she blew supposedly 10 times before I knew her said I can do much better and she's not a girlfriend material or something. Who knows.

She might not "hook up" with you on demand because she wants to do things "right" with you.

Listen, how do you know she blew this guy 10 times? That sounds like an exaggeration to me. Has she admitted this to you?

Also, are you one of those lollipop guys who girls keep around because you buy them things? Just askin'...

If you're going for the long-term shit, she'll put sex and all that off to the side. However, if you're a ****-buddy, it's still possible that she'll go for the long-term shit.

See the connection (or lack of)? I even took the time to create a diagram and show you exactly what I'm talking about:

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Originally Posted by vashti

She might not "hook up" with you on demand because she wants to do things "right" with you.

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Yeah, isn't that great for us guys? The slut who's ****ed everything in pants for the last 5 years won't let YOU have any because she want to do things "right" with you?

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Originally Posted by Rob26

Yeah, isn't that great for us guys? The slut who's ****ed everything in pants for the last 5 years won't let YOU have any because she want to do things "right" with you?

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That's a good point. If I were me dude I wouldn't even **** with it, too many emotions and all that bullshit.... Seriously, the entire time I would want to do nothing but smack the living piss out of her, with a cheesy grin on my face.

Social double standards?

(Its okay for guys to sleep around but its not okay for girls to)

What to do if you find out your girlfriend USED to be a whore?

**** her brains out over and over

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Originally Posted by vashti

She might not "hook up" with you on demand because she wants to do things "right" with you.

Listen, how do you know she blew this guy 10 times? That sounds like an exaggeration to me. Has she admitted this to you?

Also, are you one of those lollipop guys who girls keep around because you buy them things? Just askin'...

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I'm just goona break up with her, she just said she can't hangout cuz her eye is hurting, but earlier today she said she wanted to. She just gets mad a lot in my opinion. Yesterday 1st she said she didn't hook up with him, later that night we talked about it more and I think she knew I knew but I didn't tell her he told me, so then she finally admitted they did once, then I said I know it was a couple times, then she just knew I knew about it somehow cuz that's how he is. She just was like she didn't want to get me mad or anything, and I was just like don't lie to me. I dunno, but he told me she blew him 10 times or something, and I just know they did it. Whatever lol, she hates when I bring up things like this but she lied about it then she said they did but she supposedly didn't want me to get mad so I just said I won't get mad just don't lie to me, that stuff is over and in the past but still the fact she used to be a whore is weird, and guys still call her sometimes to hang and she ususally says she cant but I dunno she's just shady sometimes and has her mood swings and stuff.

My friend said she never got mad at him when they hooked up, but she told me that everytime they hooked up he expected a hookup and they just did it, they never kissed. She just used to be a whore, and it bothers me.

Hmm Yea i would have prolly just Broken up with her from the start
I dont know if i could stand kissing Someone like that
Because id always be thinking of all the places her mouth has been espcially your best Friend.
It would be like mixing the semen of 20 different guys and rubbing it on your face.

But thats just kissing you could always Screw her and feel fine.

Shame on a all you dumb-@ss guys who have double standards about sex. I bet you expect to be patted on the back by your buddies for pretty much the same behavior. I think people who behave this way should be pitied rather than hated. They obviously are trying to gain approval/love by behaving in self-destructive ways because they do not value themselves.

Punisher - I think it is a good idea for you to call things off with this girl. Her behavior is troubling, and obviously it is too much for you to overlook. She needs to be with someone who can accept her fully for who she is.

vashti, we've already been through this discussion before. There are reasons why it's more acceptable behavior for guys to fool around than women.

Exactly, but let's repeat it:

Women want to "win" a man who finds them desirable for their personality, etc. When a man has sex with a woman and moves on, the woman has lost. The woman who finally gets him to commit to her is the "winner".

For men, it's the opposite. They want to get a woman who sees them as more desirable than other men by allowing them to have sex with her when she has refused all others. When a man commits to a woman who's given her body to a lot of other guys, previously, he's the ultimate sap.

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Originally Posted by NeoSeminole

vashti, we've already been through this discussion before. There are reasons why it's more acceptable behavior for guys to fool around than women.

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I know MEN have come up with reasons to find it acceptable for them to behave this way while villianizing women who do the same, and I know MEN buy these silly reasons, because of course, it allows them freedoms they wish to deny women. I support every guy's right to not wish to be involved with women who behave this way. What I don't understand is why those same men find it necessary to be such jerks about it. Wouldn't "she just isn't my cup of tea" be just as effective?

Rob26 - What is with all the game references? You are incorrect about the sexual double standard. Historically, the emphasis on virginity and chastity had to do with property and inheritance rights, not game playing. Anyway, I think the double standard has outlived its purpose. It is time for men and women to have sexual equality, and this means both should stop acting like whores.

sexual equality will never exist unless men and women became unisexual.

I agree, but that doesn't explain the necessity for male hostility.

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Originally Posted by vashti

it allows them freedoms they wish to deny women

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Who in the hell is denying them of that freedom? It's quite simple... If women indulge in this freedom, they're just considered whores. :baby:

Boys are dumb. :)

I love it when pompous assholes don't catch my sarcasm.

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Well now you know to tell future girlfriends to withhold any information pertaining to their whorey past.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Well now you know to tell future girlfriends to withhold any information pertaining to their whorey past.

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No, because if he finds out later on it will be even more of an uncomfortable shock. If he finds out early on, he'll just say, "okay, you're not for me because you're a whore."

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Originally Posted by Zarathu

No, because if he finds out later on it will be even more of an uncomfortable shock. If he finds out early on, he'll just say, "okay, you're not for me because you're a whore."

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No, I much prefer the idea of him being happily with a whore and not knowing it. Y'know, just to spite him.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

No, I much prefer the idea of him being happily with a whore and not knowing it. Y'know, just to spite him.

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Hahahahahaha! Just like that poor guy whose wife had white discharge coming out of her ass! :lol:

Does she want to start a new life and forget about her past?...