Giving me the Sh*ts

Hey everyone..
Okay, this really sucks. Theres this girl i went out with once, she kept saying she loved me and all that jazz... (I have no idea how i ended up going out with her)
The problem is, shes a psycho, she smokes, does drugs and very bad stuff... I wish i never met her.
So, i dumped her. She kept saying i broke her heart, and she still says it.
Ever since then iv'e just been getting problems from her, i'm just trying to avoid her.
But she just comes up whenever she sees me, and is a bitch.
For instance: I went late night shopping on thursday. And lo and behold she was there..
I was holding my glasses (As i was gona go see a movie)
She comes up and takes them off me and didnt hand them back, so i just got full angry and yelled ****ING GIVE THEM BACK!
She did after a while..
But then i saw her later again, and she hit me...
And swore at me and all this shit...
She like threatens me and gets her friends to start fights with me..
I Seriously despise her.
I wish she would die.


Also, her dad is in jail in America.
She wouldnt tell me why though..

Seriously, how the hell can i get rid of this bitchtard?

Its driving me crazy, if it wasn't a girl and a psychopath i would hit it in its face. Multiple times.
Then when its on the ground kick it a heap..
Okay you get the idea...
I REALLY F**KING HATE HER!

So how could I get rid of her?
Or atleast stop her communicating or looking or doing anything to do with me. EVER

eh, sounds like she's going through a lot of pain and drama. i can understand why she's like that and it disarms me. i don't know what to tell you honestly.

how old is she?

Yes, she is going through some pain, and you gave her some form of relief, she was fascinated and then you suddenly took it all away. She is desperate and that doubles the madness. Now, know that I understand you, but I also understand her. This is pretty tough situation since you both are a bit egoistic and don't see the flaws.
Since she keeps hanging on you, I suggest having a cup of tea together and explaining this all. Peace is in understanding.

this girl that i know couldn't get rid of her ex. freaking and then you add a kid to the situation and it's all fuct up.

honestly these people are hard to get rid of because you kinda have to wait until they move onto someone else. yes it sucks for the next person, but these people are just too dependent on others.

raverboy

crazy bitches. This is why I'm never moving in with another female unless I already know her well. They just wave a wider spectrum of insanity.

She sounds mentally ill. I agree with illusional - she'll find a new victim and move on herself, eventually.

How long did you guys go out for? She sounds kinda clingy and needy and mentally screwed. Just try and avoid her at all costs. Like everyone else said, she'll find someone else to attach her crazy self to at some point.

Me, I would just call her on it next time she starts swearing at you or whatever. Just ask her "Seriously, what is your problem? I never did anything to you, we just broke up. Why are you treating me like I did something horrible?" Better yet, ask her that in front of her friends, and watch her scramble for an answer.

OMG, you poor thing. I don't have anything to add to what has been said.

But I think you should rent the Uma Thurman movie "My Super-Ex Girlfriend", its hilarious & I think you'll relate.

[url]http://www.truveo.com/My-Super-Ex-Girlfriend-Clip-02/id/3610803862[/url]

Have you tried ignoring her? I mean not just staying away from her, but acting like you really dont care about her, like she was dust on the ground? Whenever she does a joke with you, takes your glasses etc., then just act like her action did not bother you a thing. Wait for her to get bored and she should eventually hand over your glasses, perhaps in worst case break em, so unless they are really expensive then you perhaps should act differently when money is in the game, but when they are not...

Did this to a really annoying girl in my class. She kept bother me because she recieved feedback from me, and she liked the attention. Then i totally ingored her and did not show any emotion, beside looking away and perhaps shaking my head. After that she did not come over to me to annoy me. Worked fine.

Perhaps she will lose interest in you if she does not find you interesting. For an effect, there is always a cause. Dont alter the effect because it might happen again and again. But if the cause is altered, then you might recieve other effect (hopefully positive), you know causality ;-)

I'd consider moving away from the area all together. She threatens you and her friends are starting fights with you? Come on dude, you should start worrying about your safety.

Heya,

Perhaps she started smoking and drinking and doing all those bad things because of stuff that was happening at home. You did say her dad was in prison and maybe things were rough at home before then. And as others have said, you were her escape from all that pain - you, along with the drink and smoking helped her see through tought times perhaps.
And so when you dumped her, she would have been upset but her reaction may have been as bad as it was because you never know, maybe she started drinking and smoking more in order to get through the pain of the breakup as well as possible stuff happening at home. So maybe the side affects of smoking and drinking led to her aggressiveness towards you.

You could always try talking to some friends of hers to try and get her sorted out with the drinking and smoking so that she can be more - herself instead of her "drug self"

Also, and you may have heard this dozens of times, but you need to tell an adult you can trust so that they can help you decide what to do.
You could always get a restraining order if things get really out of hand - as in - she starts to stalk your every move.

Hope this helps

xxx

Wow I didnt expect so many people to reply. Im glad that you all did.

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Originally Posted by Mishanya [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

you should start worrying about your safety.

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Yeah i am very much so.. But i cant move, im 15 =_=

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Originally Posted by Stampe [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Have you tried ignoring her?

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Yeah, i try to all the time. Then she just jumps on me and hits me and pulls my hair and swears or gets her friends to start fights with me..

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Originally Posted by misombra [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

how old is she?

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15...

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Originally Posted by boobaa [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

I suggest having a cup of tea together and explaining this all

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Problem is, shes a psycho...
I dont even want to look at her, shes literally -mentally unstable.



Yeah, i really want her to go away.
But, the problem is i broke up with her last year around September... Seriously, how can she not just go away..
She is good looking, but her personality is shit.. She could just go get some a-hole boyfriend...

Im usually really nice to everyone, and i think i was pretty much the nicest boyfriend she ever had. She told me she never felt about any other guy like she did for me..
But its just pissing me off... I wish i was never nice to her. lol

I like the idea about the restraining order, that might actually be something I should do.

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Originally Posted by bluesummer [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How long did you guys go out for? She sounds kinda clingy and needy and mentally screwed. Just try and avoid her at all costs. Like everyone else said, she'll find someone else to attach her crazy self to at some point.

Me, I would just call her on it next time she starts swearing at you or whatever. Just ask her "Seriously, what is your problem? I never did anything to you, we just broke up. Why are you treating me like I did something horrible?" Better yet, ask her that in front of her friends, and watch her scramble for an answer.

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She is mentally screwed.. Very much so.
And yeah, thats a good idea. But shed probably just say **** you and not care about it.
Shes a retard o_O

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

But I think you should rent the Uma Thurman movie "My Super-Ex Girlfriend", its hilarious & I think you'll relate.

[url]http://www.truveo.com/My-Super-Ex-Girlfriend-Clip-02/id/3610803862[/url]

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Actually, ive seen it.
Good movie, i just never saw myself as being that guy :surprised
Til now. :sad2::mad:

But really.. Does anyone have any idea what I should do apart from as a last resort - Getting a restraining order?

i don't pity these dependent people, i just laugh at them.

raverboy

-Took My Other Question Out-

bump...
Seriously. I dont know what i can do..

restraining orders often end up causing more danger to the person who gets them, they tend to be provocative and pique more anger in people who are mentally ill and violent.
I would continue to avoid her, don't even engage in any discourse. Don't say f-ing this and f-ing that, just calmly avoid.
She is trying to engage you in her drama, and the more you participate, the more she will respond.
I have experienced the same, and I have found that the best tactic is peaceful avoidance. I don't talk about it to other people, if she's hearing from "friends" about what you are saying about her, thats just more fuel. Shut your mouth and turn in the opposite direction. Every time. Eventually, she'll find some other poor fool to attach herself to.

Yeah, aparently shes doing all this because she loves me. And i dumped her. Im trying to avoid it, i only said f-ing - cause she had my 400 dollar glasses in her hands...
Yeah, im desperately trying to avoid her. but its been almost if not a year and shes still the same... wtf... I hope she finds that other person quickly...

Honey, you are both still kids. You have parents - let them help you out with this one. You can either go to her parents and tell them the problem, or have your parents intervene. You can tell her parents you are considering a restraining order. Most parents would intervene at that point, because no one wants their kid to have that on their record.

If you ever see her just leave. No matter where you are at. I promise she will move on after a while. Girls handle situations such as this differently than men. Who knows man. You have no clue what goes on behind close doors when she is at home. She may live a hard life which corresponds to the drug abuse and such.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

Honey, you are both still kids. You have parents - let them help you out with this one. You can either go to her parents and tell them the problem, or have your parents intervene. You can tell her parents you are considering a restraining order. Most parents would intervene at that point, because no one wants their kid to have that on their record.

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Umm.. Her mum is just as crazy though... I met her once. It would only make things worse. And probably dangerous.


and Thatguy92790 as for the drug abuse, i know she takes drugs for fun.. or w.e...

Have you told YOUR parents and asked for their input?

My mum seems to think im joking around...

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Originally Posted by Desinate [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My mum seems to think im joking around...

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How about your father? Her father?

I'm sure there is an adult you can go to to help you out with this.

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Originally Posted by Desinate [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

My mum seems to think im joking around...

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Why does she think this? Sit your parents down and tell them at the same time. If they start laughing about it, tell them you are serious and you want to be taken seriously. Honestly though, I am surprised by your mom's reaction.

Does this girl go to your school? I guess you could also approach your counselor.

vashhh, it's unfortunate that most parents are not as caring and mentally with it as you are.

this world would be a much more wonderful place if they were.

I don't understand the reationship some people have with their kids. :(
I guess I try to remain optimistic that parents are on their kid's side.

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

???

Why does she think this?

Does this girl go to your school? I guess you could also approach your counselor.

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No idea why my mum thinks that, she thinks im overreacting or something.
No she doesnt go to my school, If she did i would have already told teachers w.e.

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Originally Posted by FoxyLaydee [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

How about your father? Her father?

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My parents are divorced and my dad lives over seas, her dad is a murderer and in jail.

I guess you could contact one of HER school counselors, then. I really don't know what else to offer. It sucks that your parents aren't stepping up, and I guess with her dad in jail, you can see why she has issues (not that it matters, except for helping you choose more wisely next time).

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Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]

except for helping you choose more wisely next time).

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Indeed..
Im paying much more attention to the girls i meet now.. :P