Originally Posted by
IndiReloaded
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Contacting her w/o her permission is simply disrespectful, Cain. I don't know how to put it any more bluntly than this.
If she says no to a visit, then showing up unannounced is NOT going to make anything better. In fact, it will likely make things worse.
I had a BF in high school/1st year uni who did this to me. We were slowly growing apart b/c we were moving on different paths (he was pre-law & I was science). We were at different uni about 3 hours apart (door to door). We were on a 'trial' brake up for 2 weeks, similar to what you are currently experiencing, and he decided to show up unannounced one Friday. He called me from the restaurant he was waiting at & wanted me to drop everything & come see him. I was quite peeved b/c I was studying for a major mid-term coming up that Monday. I did the right thing, I went & met him (and confirmed our break up in person), when I had every right to just blow him off & send him home for showing w/o notice. To me, his arriving unannounced was actually very selfish of him and simply bad manners.
A phone call would have done & I would have been happy to meet him the following week after my exams, but he couldn't wait & it cost him.
Think about it, Cain.