everytime I checked his profile, it's just so hurt. hard for me to get over. I want to delete actually. totally remove from my life. but i just feel that totally lose this person from my life is ..sad! what should i do??:upset:
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everytime I checked his profile, it's just so hurt. hard for me to get over. I want to delete actually. totally remove from my life. but i just feel that totally lose this person from my life is ..sad! what should i do??:upset:
It hurts more to hold on. I suggest you delete him. I guarantee it'll b more relieving than constantly going on and checking up on him. When my ex was on my messenger, he always had these screennames that I think was put up to hurt me, and trust me it worked. So I deleted him off my list, and right after, I felt somewhat relieved.
I removed my ex from my messengers, but I didn't block her. She can still talk to me if she wants, but I don't feel like speaking to her anymore. As for facebook, I didn't remove her. I just asked my news feed to give less about my ex anytime something appeared about it. Also, even if she was a terrible girlfriend, I just found out she checks up on me from time to time on facebook, so I know in a sense she still cares for me as a friend.
If anything, you could just trying deactivating your facebook.
A couple years back, I deleted my ex Not because I didn't want to see her updates (I would still check her profile about once a week from the account of a mutual friend who, begrudgingly, allowed me my weekly, stalker-esque acts of immaturity) but because I knew it would hurt her. She had hurt me so badly, I stooped to petty lows just to try and even the score.
After a few months, I realized her life was moving forward, while I was still hurting over every message from guys about hanging out and getting drunk and all that, and I stopped checking. Pretty soon after TRULY breaking contact, I started to move on and become much MUCH happier.
Really, I would suggest deleting him, and doing everything you can to prevent yourself from finding out details about his life. Once you've truly moved on, and have found happiness and comfortability within yourself, you can always re-friend him and tell him you just needed some time and space. No one ever looks down upon that! Best of luck!
If I want to get over someone...I will cut all contact. For my last ex, I've blocked and deleted him off msn. Cutting off all lines of communication is the key in controlling the temptation. But it sucks if your ex goes to the same campus because they might end up having the same classes and bumping into you all the time. Just ignore him.
yeah I did. Then she blocked me.
I deleted my ex off facebook. I figured still having him listed as a 'friend' was probably pissing off my fiance, who hates him.
Then I messaged him and told him not to call me anymore.
Yeah delete him off facebook it'll make your life a whole lot better to break all contact with him. If you bump into him just give a smile have a chat but don't get too involved.
I mean who knows what would happen in a few months lol everytime I think I've got something set in stone it always turns out it isn't! haha and here I've added her back on facebook as friends. Though I've trained myself to skim over any of her new statuses or messages for now :)
i didnt delete my ex on facebook. i have no contact with him whatsoever, but he truly hates me. im one of those people who like to be friends with their exs because i think its so stupid to lose a dear one because a relationship went bad. though i dont like him anymore, i still have that longing to be friends again
You can't be friends with your ex 90% of the time. The only way it works is if your relationship ended because you just didn't click together as a couple and both kind of said, "Nah" to each other. It sounds like you had a passionate thing with this one, and therefore you MUST delete him in order to move on with your life.
Yeah, because I don't get my ex he still wants to talk to me like nothing's wrong and asks me what i'm doing, wanting to hang out. He even had the nerve to ask me if i'm seeing other people right now! and we got into a huge fight from talking about that kind of stuff. It's realy annoying. It's the only way to get over him. Be strong.
I deactivated my Facebook yesterday, so i can't check up on him - cos I know I will...! Least that way, when I'm ready to face the 'world' again, all my photos etc will still be there, & won't have to readd everyone. If that seems to drastic, delete him.
Trouble I have is, I know his Facebook password. I've not been into his account, although I could if I wanted to....he uses the same password for everything. GAH. If I tell him to change it (which i can't because we are on NC), he would get mad & think I've been spying on him even though I haven't!! :s
If the dumbass doesn't have the sense to change all of his passwords after a big breakup, he deserves to be spied on.Quote:
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Rule # 46: ALWAYS change ALL of your passwords, bank card PINs, etc. when you break up with someone who even MIGHT have had access to them. It's just good sense.
So am I allowed your permission to go spy ;) hehe xx
He is a dumbarse, he cheated on me & thought he'd get away with it! I changed all of mine for good measure as our PC used to automatically store passwords...its the done thing isn't it! x
I do get the odd temptation to change his status to something realllll mean!
As long as you're not doing him any bodily harm, go ahead. I would (Note the fact that i am a great big bitch to the power of nine).
It will probably do me more harm than good, especially as I would be able to see his new little dog-face-boyfriend-stealing-whores page!! LOL xx If I did snoop I would probably upset myself with his status's and their to-ing and thro-ing of messages....pft
Revenge will come, just biding my time :D
Well, you know the best revenge is that you can move on and never see him again while he is stuck being his sleazy, cheating self for the rest of his life.
Spot on x Thanks Gigabitch, probably the best word of wisdom yet :) xx And, he'll be stuck with dog-face for the forceeable...and, she'll be stuck with him and his obsessive, greeneyed, lazy, selfish, self-obsessed, inconsiderate ways...and when he's bored, he'll do the same to her....mwahahahaaha :)
Bitter much? :D
I have an idea. You should anonymously send him some doggie treats for his new squeeze.
To keep it simple and short, yes you do so you can move on and forget everything so nothing holds you back.
Hiya, I would have to agree with the 'delete' advice. At least delete him for now until you have moved on fully, you could always re-add but make sure its for the right reason not to be a 'stalker' or to crave his contact. Otherwise in the meantime you are just giving yourself access to misery! My EX-husband and I have 2 kids and after I left him he constantly tried to add me but I had to weigh it up and just ignore it because I knew he wasn't over me (not conceited just sadly is the truth becos he has told me this) and me being married again I don't want to compromise my new life and emotional security of my new husband plus it would just be creepy as I know my ex would spy. He stills sees the kids which is fine and I contact him only on that basis and nothing else - he does NOT need to see our intimate family photos and holiday snaps!! Sorri for the long post and all the best =)
Oh man. I had a bf that cheated on me in cali. I moved to WA not long afterward and it hurt so much to see him and his new skank gf in pictures together so soon afterward, and all my old friends going out with him in pics, them all having a great time. Everytime I went on that website I felt like crap.
I was reluctant to close my account because I didn't have friends at the new location but I said F-it. If people were my TRUE friends and want to contact me then they can F-ing FIND me, my email never changes. So I closed it and I felt Soooooo much better. One of about five friends stayed in constant contact with me. It has been two years and two more friends have tried to contact me. It feels good when they come to you. Ive been on myspace about three times in the last 2 years to check if anyone got knocked up or married but I usually still get a kindve crappy feeling when I go on so I avoid it. IF it makes you feel like shit then toss it out of your life!!
I did, not to cause her hurt, or to ignore her, but so I could stop obsessing and causing more problems for her and myself.
Facebook does terrible things to people
I wouldn't collect ex's as friends, because, well, given that you were once together, I don't think you can go back to being friends.
If you break up with someone, delete them. After all, the next person that comes along, they might not fancy you having a list of people you were engaged to, lived with, or had sex with - for some reason.
Maybe you should just delete your account entirely:
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I deleted all of the pics of my ex and I and deleted her off my friends. We dated for a year and some odd weeks, had millions of amazing memories, and I think I did it to hurt her a little. She has her profile set so anyone can see it, I check every now and then which is a terrible idea, because she is just a different person now. I think one of the saddest things in the world is when someone changes from that person you gave your heart to, to some girl you wouldn't even be able to recognize anymore. Whatever you can do to not remind yourself of all those great times you shared, do it, it helped me. This includes stuffed animals, letters, if they gave it to you, put it somewhere you rarely go, my place was the corner of my closet. I'm thinking about taking this cute little panda she got me to the woods and paintballing it up for some laughs =P
Block your ex on Facebook. In my opinion there is never a reason to stay friends with an ex.
I just officially broke up with my wife (we've been separated for two weeks). I told her that I would be removing her (and her family members and her close friends) from my facebook account so I can let this fresh wound heal over a bit. I feel better that I told her about it before just hitting "remove". I think it's going to help me get closure and move on with my life.
I think deleting your ex from Facebook is even more important than deleting their phone number, because a Facebook page tells you everything about someone. Can be very counter-productive to see all that when you are trying to let go and there is nothing worse than checking Facebook on a morning and seeing their status update or whatever. So yeah I would definitely delete your ex from Facebook so you can browse it without worrying about seeing their picture or what they are upto.
I didn't delete my ex, or any of my exes for that matter on facebook or otherwise. I check my recent exes facebook just to make sure she's OK and moving on. I don't want to get back with her, I know that now. I do want to be friends with her again some day, but I'm wanting to wait like a year. We said we'd reconnect in a month or so to see where we were at, but I only needed a few days of no contact to realize how suppressive the relationship was. I now realize she was more of a best friend for the last year rather than a love interest. We were co-dependent and comfortable with eachother (and committed by ring), not in love for the last year or so. So it's ok for me, the passion was gone and I've already accepted she's boning other guys, I mean, seeing the e-mail she sent offering herself up to another guy pretty much hurt me more than reading random messages from her new men will. If it becomes a problem I'll just turn off updates from her.
Though it depends on the person. A certain somebody that I know didn't delete her ex from facebook and that's how they reconnected and eventually got together.
If you are asking if you need to, you probably do. Some people do, others don't. I mean, the guy she left me for sent her texts sometimes daily sometimes with a month in between or so for SIX years after they had broken up. She ignored them up until 2 weeks ago when I think she saw it as a easy way out of our engagement.
i deleted mine, but i go on a friend's of mine sometimes to look at it
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