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been with guy for 4mths now things great. i've fallen in love with him but neither of us have said "I LOVE U" should i wait for him to say it first or should i just say it? i'm scared. i know he really likes me and maybe loves me but not 100% sure if he is there yet and don't want to come across as pushy. he's 33 and i'm 27. he says he not going anywhere and that we're together and things are great, but he hasn't said the 3 words. what should i do???
nothing? why do u care so much? even if u say it and he says it back i bet u'll be thinking he just said it cos u did...
it's just 3 words, if he "shows" u he loves u why do u need him to say it?
How about you wait for one of you to actually know what love is and feels like. You won't have to say nothing at all... you'll just know.
just show it ,, "action speaks louder than voice" remember?
I'm the kind of person who wears their emotions on their sleeve. If I love someone, I'll show it and say it. I want them to know they're loved. But yes it can scare some people away if they don't feel the same. I've had a relationship where the guy told me he wanted to tell me the same thing, but was too scared to. And then another relationship where he didn't feel the same, but that didn't scare him away. In fact, I think he rather liked it because I believe he was just using me the whole time anyway.
Either way, it's a gamble.
You are jacked up.
Who, me? :P
Tell me about it. I think I'm going through one of those emotional breakdowns. I cried on Sister Act 2. Twice. :\
yeah I cried at it too.....it was too terrible a movie not to!:cool:Quote:
Originally Posted by btworld [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
:emot112: It is true, they are just words and it is easy to say something you don't mean.Quote:
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Lee
No, the original poster.Quote:
Originally Posted by btworld [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I didn't read your post.
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Yeah, but you had to admit the Brothers were great. They were hilarious. ;P
Words are only words. Do you know how I often I say I love you? Everyday. I love you mom. I love you dad. I love you kitty. I love you soda. I love you, subway. I love you room. Etc. Etc. They are just WORDS. If you guys can't say it, then your relationship is bullshit. I say I love you to food that I get to know for about 2 mins while it is getting eaten by me. I say I love you to my kitty who can't even TALK... Think about it.
Sooner or later one of you is going to break down and say the "L" word just try to relax and enjoy each other's company
one person always falls inlove first... it's how the world works.
raverboy
Wait. It's too soon, for one thing. Give it 9 months to a year. If HE hasn't said it by then, you may have a problem. Relax and enjoy for now!
That sounds good to me, keep us posted!Quote:
Originally Posted by mc50 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
Ok, so you are worried that by telling him you love him, he will freak out and leave you. Do you really need him to say it back? Just say it, love him to love him. If you need him to say it back, then you are just looking outside yourself for reasons to love him....and that means that you don't love him.
If you are trying to keep him happy, try reading this, it may help:
On the second thought, I realized I should not post a spam link to a questionable site so the mods don't get mad
Actually, I would be hurt if someone I said I loved didn't say I love you back to me. To me, that would show that they don't care about me as much as I care about them. It would show that we are not on the same page.Quote:
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You could copy and paste the information without giving the link saying this useful information that you found and might help.
Hope I helped!
What a bunch of sour-pusses! They aren't "just words" the first time you say them! That comes later.
If you are 90% sure he loves you, then ask him: do you love me? If he doesn't, he will hem and haw about it. If he does, he will either say yes, or he will ask you if you love him (and then you can just say yes).
Or you could do what my nosey sister did - she asked my (then) boyfriend at a family dinner if he loved her sister... :D
I agree. I kind of regret saying words are just words. I think I was in a bad mood. Sorry about my first reply on this thread. I had to think about it some.Quote:
Originally Posted by vashti [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
It's your choice to get hung up on the little things but they'll stress you out for absolutely no purpose. Love is just word, it's what the word implies that counts. How do you know if he says it back that its genuine anyway?
It will happen when it happens. Usually after love is already being shown, then it will become said.
Maybe I'm naive but if I know that I know that I love someone I'll tell her. Once a girl said it to me and I didn't feel it so I didn't say it back. But I also wasn't scared off.
Mr Darcy confessed his feelings for Elizabeth saying "disguise of every sort is my abhorrence". I couldn't agree more.
Sweetie don't worry, it's not something that should scare a guy off. And if it does, then he is hardly a man then! NEVER EVER say "I love you" to hear them said back to you. That is a big no-no. If you are at that stage when you genuinely believe it is 'love' you feel him, then by all means tell him! It doesn't matter how long it takes him, whether it's in a week, month or year - he will tell you when he is ready. Trust me.