Watching to much porn...

Hey guys, this is my first post....

I'm a musclehead and ussually post on Muscleandfitness.com, so this is a culture shock to me...quite different....hopefully theres less fighting

Anyway, I am a competitive bodybuilder/football player and during the season I have no time for relatioships, simply b/c girls I date want to be my # 1 priority. This is impossible, and I end up not making enough time for them and we split. Well for awhile there I watched porn almost everyday and got addicted to it, I still am....simply b/c theres not talking afterwards...before, just my fantasy being played out and thats it. Seems perfect, well I when I was with my Ex-girl about 4 months ago, we tryed having sex like 4 times and I could not get an erection. I could get blood in there but not enough for a full hard on. This has happened with girls in the past and I am a virgin to this day b/c of this....

This has happened to me at least 6 times....mabye a little more....

The more this happened, the more my self confidence plumitted. I got to a point where I didn't date for 2 years and just masterbated all the time, cause I'm 18 and I'm horny as all hell.

I have heard that watching to much porn makes your mind only get stimulated when you watch your fantasies and regular amateur love making dosen't do it for you after watching hardcore ****ing and fantasy situations acted out, as well as lesbians...just gets hard to get turned on by a regular girl...

I have tryed stopping, but cannot hold out for more then 5 days...if I quit, will this help me....has this happened to anyone else

Thx

BigTen

Cmon, somebody has to help


bigten

so i have a question do you do drugs?
Ok now that that is out of the way what is the rush to loose the virginity? i think that you are puttinh way too much preassure on yourself and this might be the reason mr winky dosent want to perform, i think that alot of people watch porn alot i mean i do. can i ask another ? do you get hard when you jerk off and do you come?
umm im thinking have you been to the dr?
ttys blue

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Originally Posted by blue

so i have a question do you do drugs?
Ok now that that is out of the way what is the rush to loose the virginity? i think that you are puttinh way too much preassure on yourself and this might be the reason mr winky dosent want to perform, i think that alot of people watch porn alot i mean i do. can i ask another ? do you get hard when you jerk off and do you come?
umm im thinking have you been to the dr?
ttys blue

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Why the **** do you ask if I do drugs? Whats that supposed to mean

Yea I get hard as a rock when I jerk off and cum

My mind is so stimulated by my pornography fantisies I cannot get erectiosn around girls, should I drop porn all together cold turkey

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Originally Posted by BigTen#95

Why the **** do you ask if I do drugs? Whats that supposed to mean

Yea I get hard as a rock when I jerk off and cum

My mind is so stimulated by my pornography fantisies I cannot get erectiosn around girls, should I drop porn all together cold turkey

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ok listen here i understand that this is a touchy subject for you, but you posted your problem and im trying to gain some insight here. i am not naive you are a football player, you do weights and not that all of you do drugs or whatever but im just trying to rule out all things here k? jeez.

Maybe you should drop porn for a while i dunno, but i am thinking youare putting way to much pressure on yourself. Mr winky is probrably gun shy

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Why the **** do you ask if I do drugs? Whats that supposed to mean

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Cause it's proven that certain drugs can prevent you from getting an erection and can mess with your libido. That's probably why she asked.

I don't think it's the porn. Cause it should be a physical thing anyway. You couldn't get a hard on with her rubbing it and shit? Where you drunk at the times? Alcohol can lead to "whiskey dick" in which case it doesn't work no matter HOW much stimulation.

Rod Steele

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Originally Posted by BigTen#95

Why the **** do you ask if I do drugs? Whats that supposed to mean

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christ, lay off...she's trying to help you. not everyone's out to get you

hahah and you wonder why there was so much friction at the last forum you was at 95. it's because you take TOO much offense to everything that people say. someone says something and you think they are trying to put you down. do you take drugs is a simple question. saying that you're a ****ing nut is a put down. however....

i don't think that you quitting porn will help all that much. cutting off pleasure usually leads to increased frustration and tension, thus developing more stress. stress is never good because it raises blood pressure, thus usually leading to heart attracks. besides, i watch porn basically every chance i get, but i still am able to have sex. i think that you're worrying too much. when you're about to have sex, you probably jad your mind in the gutter because you were about to lose your virginity. it's normal, everything feels weird their first time. next time you're about to have sex, think of watching you and your gf have sex. that might help.

also, you're aggression could be a problem?? too much pent up anger, would probably keep all that blood flow in your head, rather than the head you are actually trying to make hard.

raverboy

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Originally Posted by Illusional

hahah and you wonder why there was so much friction at the last forum you was at 95.

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last forum?

Confused

BTW- good advice tho, makes sense...I feel that I put to much pressure on myself involuntarily

#95

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Originally Posted by BigTen#95

I'm a musclehead and ussually post on Muscleandfitness.com, so this is a culture shock to me...quite different....hopefully theres less fighting

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this is the friction that i'm referring to. i'm guessing that although you posted a lot there, you did have your fights at your old forum as well.

raverboy

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Originally Posted by Illusional

this is the friction that i'm referring to. i'm guessing that although you posted a lot there, you did have your fights at your old forum as well.

raverboy

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there was alot of friction in the forum I am still in, this one is just temp., b/c people have diff. opinions and we have controversy, but it makes for great posting, b/c people each post their own respective opinion, and we handle it like adults, the fighting here is just someone making a smartass comment, other person retaliating and so forth...no real resolution

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the fighting here is just someone making a smartass comment, other person retaliating

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You mean...there's one person, mostly myself illusional or LT...applying common sense to the situation..or saying something you dont like...then you taking it like a baby. But if you want to call it a case of retaliation..do what you like.

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Originally Posted by Steve2004

You mean...there's one person, mostly myself illusional or LT...applying common sense to the situation..or saying something you dont like...then you taking it like a baby. But if you want to call it a case of retaliation..do what you like.

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Nope, just you and Illusion, LT is legit, he was a man about it and cleared things up, but you and ILL keep being mother ****ers

You know damn well your so called posts to me on "common sense" are you giving common sense, but in a smartass way.

Give me advice that you feel is common sense, thats fine, no biggie, just do it in a respectful manner. What do you expect me to say when you are posting smartass advice

"Ok thanks!"

if you weren't being such a **** ass about everything i say..and YOU learned to grow up and dont take everything illusional and i say in such a negative manner...this would be a happier place and you wouldn't hate it so much :-)

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Originally Posted by Steve2004

if you weren't being such a **** ass about everything i say..and YOU learned to grow up and dont take everything illusional and i say in such a negative manner...this would be a happier place and you wouldn't hate it so much :-)

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If you weren't being such a **** ass about everything I said, and YOU learned to grow up

This place is a little to happy actually, I'll be gone soon, but seriously, I admit I was being an asshole, but like I said what do you expect me to say when your an asshole to me

i expect you to take everything that i say as you already have. with insult and negativity..that's why i keep saying things the way i do. i love to give you advice, but you're too stubborn to really accept it.

as far as seeing you handle you're difference of opinions as adutls, i really appreciate it. you accept all comments with such ease, than i can easily say anything without making you cry. scarcasm?? hardly any of the sense at all, i wouldn't want to hurt any of your feelings.

as for being a muther ****a?? hey, you love be because it's what i do best. piss other people off because they can't handle the simple stress of day to day living. so you can't get laid or your gf can't really get you off. i tell you how i feel and you don't agree with it because you're balls are too tighly strapped inside your little jock strap. hey it's life, deal with it. if you don't like it, keep on living your glorious football days because when you've come to accept the reality of life, there is much more to this world that your ego.

raverboy

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Originally Posted by BigTen#95

but like I said what do you expect me to say when your an asshole to me

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All your talk of maturity..i would've thought you'd know what to do. which is be the better person...and ignore me. But...i guess something in that angry heart of yours likes to fight with me ;)