so typically you kiss on the first date and then what typically happens on the 2, 3, 4 date?
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so typically you kiss on the first date and then what typically happens on the 2, 3, 4 date?
You do what feels right.
so its not bad to fool around on the 2nd date?
During my peak dating years, I was flexible regarding what happened on the first two dates, but if there wasn't sex by the third date, I generally moved on. Fortunately, I was less cynical by the time I met my current girlfriend. She made me wait seven months, but it was worth the wait because by then, the feelings were intense.
1st date - kiss
2nd date - oral sex
3rd date - intercourse
4th date - threesome
wow so people move faster than i thought. thanks
The answer to this question depends entirely on the people involved. Some people move right on to sex, and others don't, especially if the girl is looking for a genuine relationship.
If there's chemistry, I'll kiss on first date.. of course. If there;s no chemistry there's no point in doing second date. The rest depends on how it goes etc..
I typically don't kiss on the first date.
you are too specific. a man cannot expect anything to happen an any date. i think most people might kiss on the first date at the end, if everything goes good, but not like making out. after a few dates you might start making out or even sex.
we guyz are very horny, hahaha, but we want to wait a little while. tension from waiting makes sex very passionful and rememberful.
yea well just wanted to know the average.
well this guy i hung out with , we kissed the first date but by second and third date we were giving each other oral, which he intiated more than once til i gave in.
so now im wondering if this will make a guy lose interest cause i still want to eventually have sex with him and now its been a week since we hung out although we still are talking and texting.
I wouldn't normally kiss on the first date. Maybe an inconnent kiss on the 2nd, but more chances on the third. Depends on person, amount and quality of time and chemistry of course. But I never judge based on the 1st date, always give a chance for a 2nd date and never regreted it, I tend to like a guy much more on the 2nd date. So if everything is great it will start from small kiss on the 3rd date. Lots of hugs and cudles are really an indicator that we are moving on. And kisses will become more hot and intense. It goes at the same speed as "getting to know you" and becoming closer emotionaly.
ginastar, you might want to meet up again to understand if he is interested. Our statistic will not help you in this.
The only rule is that there are no rules. In my case normally sex happened by the 2nd or 3rd date.
well he hasnt asked me to hang out since the 3rd date, but he still texts me
its been a week since then so do u think hes not interested anymore?
If I was interested in a girl I'd text her the next day. Waiting a week does not sound good.
no a week since hanging out, still texting everyday.
but i found out i think its a reapperance of an ex gf
I don't kiss until date 4... unless the guy is F*CKING HOT.
LailaK says:
"I don't kiss until date 4... unless the guy is F*CKING HOT."
lol, how's that working out for you?
I'm single. But I'll take that over feeling like a whore or getting herpes of the mouth. :P
Theres nothing wrong with wanting to know and like a guy before I give him goodies. I'll have to wait longer but I'm ok with that.
LailaK says:
"I'm single. But I'll take that over feeling like a whore or getting herpes of the mouth."
you're more likely to get into a car accident than getting herpes from kissing a guy on the 2nd date. Are you going to start wearing a helmet and pads every time you drive? I don't know what's more ridiculous: you feeling like a whore for kissing before the 4th date or being paranoid you will catch herpes by kissing before the 4th date, lol
"Theres nothing wrong with wanting to know and like a guy before I give him goodies. I'll have to wait longer but I'm ok with that."
oh trust me, you kissing a guy isn't giving him the "goodies" - not if you're dating men instead of boys. It's probably b/c of your mentality that you're still single
Whatever you say Applesauce :)
I actually kind of agree with applesauce. A kiss should come when the connection is strong enough for a kiss. For me, if the connection isn't strong enough for a kiss after 2 dates, there is probably no reason to waste our time with a third. If the connection was there but there was some logistical issue, then waiting wouldn't be a problem.
It's the same with every other step in the progression of physical intimacy. It should happen when the emotional intimacy/connection is sufficient for that level of physical intimacy, and if the intimacy doesn't progress then the relationship is a non-starter.
but doesnt hooking up bring you closer emotionally also?
For you, yes. For him- NO a big fat NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOQuote:
Originally Posted by ginastar [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
^^^ What she said.
Never assume a guy works the same way you do. They don't.
Sex does not affect men the way that it affects women. Blame biology.
true true. so u think thats why we dont really talk anymore? he was texting me since then, but it kinda faded out.
i wonder if i play it cool he will eventually wanna talk again ?
I kinda of think that if a guy is interested he won't just blow you off.
Think of it this way, you deserve a guy who really likes you and who lets you know that he likes you. :(
damn! if only i'd known that sooner lol
If a woman 'played it cool' with me I would assume she wasn't interested and lose interest in her. I have no time for such shallow games.
It's weird to me how the social dynamics have been shifting in recent years in the U.S. On the one hand, women are finally passing up men in terms of college degrees, and that is just starting to make a significant impact in the work place. A recent study found that young women with college degrees working in big American cities are now making more money than their male counterparts. On the other hand, men have successfully worn down standards in the dating scene to a sordid level that is disadvantageous to women. Booty calls, friends with benefits, the declining rate of marriage and the rising rate of divorce... these are all fine for men who just want to get laid, but not so good for women, who tend to face sharply diminished dating prospects as they get older. The weird part is that women seem unable to leverage their economic success into any kind of leverage in the dating scene.
haha, funny that you say that, cause I have a career and my masters degree plus. the guy, well , he has nothing except a hs diploma
but wait, what does that have to do with anything i asked? haha
The point is that you have all that and you're single and seeking while he probably has quite a few solid prospects with only a HS diploma.
and thats the majority of people in the US? im only pursuing him for the fun anyway. not looking for a relationship. just got out of a long one
Well said. I agree that dating know-a-days is disadvantageous to the woman who wants a solid, lasting relationship.Quote:
Originally Posted by VincenzoG91 [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
I have a love/hate relationship with dating. On one hand I love men, I love getting to know new men, and dating can be a lot of fun. On the other hand I rarely meet a guy who actually wants a relationship. Or I have these short term boyfriends who freak out about being in a relationship after 4 months. OR I end up dating someone with the maturity of a 12 year old who treats me like garbage. OR I end up dating a guy who I think is manly, dominant, and all the things I like, only to discover he's a possessive psychopath ala Julia Robert's husband from Sleeping with the Enemy.
And yet I still have faith that someday I will meet the manly, old-fashioned, chivalrous, sexy as hell, down to earth, funny, dominant man of my dreams who won't judge me for being a closet ho and who won't hesitate to wife me up and pump me full of beautiful babies.
What's that saying? Keep hope alive? :P
Really? I have found the opposite. When my ex-husband and I split earlier this year, I joined a couple of dating websites. I had a lot of responses, and the majority were from cool, attractive guys who wanted to settle down. I have gained one good friend and one awesome boyfriend from the experience. I have talked to guys who use the same sites, and it is definitely a woman's market. Your criteria are similar to my own, except I already have kids and want a man who already has kids, so I am perfectly happy to stick with the offspring already on the scene. But I was able to be extremely choosy and get exactly what I want in a very short period of time. I think keeping a positive outlook about men and dating in general is key.Quote:
Originally Posted by LailaK [Dear Guest/Member you have to reply to see the link.click here to register]
^^^ Maybe I'm ugly :P
I spend a lot of time pondering what I'm doing wrong. One day I will discover the answer.
LailaK says:
"Maybe I'm ugly"
share your pic and I will give you my honest opinion